Alright, First off, I plan to not have a relationship until i'm.. Say 16. And, NOW I'm 11.... I never actually thought about it, Already thinking about a relationship at this age, That's not even humanly possible, Well IT IS. In fact This is what happened:


Me and my friends were at a swimming pool, A outside one since it was very hot outside (Useless information for the win!) So My friends are getting the bal, While i'm waiting in A seperate pool with goals. So But THEN! I wanted to get out of there quick. Why? Because a girl asked me, If I was interested in her. Look, I know that there are 11 year olds with a relatinship, With quite frankley Makes me feel weird. I did probably the worst thing you could say apart from saying yes Or yelling her to get out of this country and to mars or something.

I.. Ignored her. I should not have done that. But.. Next time what should I do?



greenluigi :
juuldude : Just thought I'd summon you to this... Thing

Wow. What you should do next time is apologize for ignoring her, and calmly say that you don't want to be in a relationship until you're 16. I think that would've been my first reaction if I was in that situation because I too don't want to be in a relationship until I'm 16. Believe it or not, I'm not ready yet. When high school starts, I'll begin to make a lot of changes to my life so when I'm 16, I'll be ready. Right now, I'm taking every opportunity I can to get real life friends that are girls without giving them the wrong idea. That's another thing I'm doing to make myself ready for a relationship by the time I turn 16.

I didn't start thinking about being in a relationship until sometime after I met Audrey, my first girl friend, not counting the one I had when I was a toddler. I was thinking about how stressful it is just to have a girl as a friend, so I decided that I didn't want to be in a relationship yet. I've never been asked by any girl if I wanted to be friends with her, let alone asked if I wanted to be in a relationship with her. I never expected that to happen because not many people in school seemed to care about me, and if I don't show the type of person I am right away, that's going to keep happening and I'll be sad and mad that it's so difficult for me to make friends.

imamonster : so you ignored her? Well that was awkward. Next time when you see her, apologize to her. Green start to hang out with Saria when he was 13 and a half

Hm, like the others said, next time you should apologize for ignoring her next time and calmly say that you do like her but that you don't want to be in a relationship yet. If she asks you why, just say that you want to wait until you're older. If she is still interested when you are older you could try it out. Or, you say that you're not sure if it's a good idea and you will think about it. OR, you go for it and see what comes from it if you want to do that. I would go for the first thing though but it's up to you, I hope this can help you.

Ignoring her wasn't the worst decision but it was rude.  It's simply impolite to not pay attention to someone.  The best answer, if you weren't interested, was to say, "Hey, I'm here with my friends.  No offense," and let it go at that.

Or you get to practice talking to a girl.  Most guys are uncomfortable doing it at age 20, much less 16, because they don't practice.  If you start talking to girls now, you'll be good at it later and when you want a relationship at 16 or so, you'll get one.  The trick is to have experience.  You don't just suddenly find a girlfriend and that's it.  There's a lot of work and conversation and friendship building and a girl's friendship isn't like a guy's.  Girls are different.

I recommend everyone start talking to girls now.  Even if you're 11.  You're not dating if you just talk to a girl.  You're only talking to her.

'Tis better to slap than to ignore...

jk jk Next time, you can be all like "I'm a Mormon, sis. We're too young.", even if you're not Mormon, maybe as a joke or something. I mean, you don't plan on dating until 16, after all, the starting dating age for Mormons. And you can apologize for ignoring her next time you get the chance to talk. That'd help things a lot. A well-timed, good-natured joke and an apology can defuse situations like this, trust me.

I can understand why you ignored her especially when she asked you out of the blue. I am with the other guys on this thread, apologize to her and say politely that you aren't ready for a relationship. I do agree and understand your choice on planning to date at a later age so props to you man. I see some people at around your age who are dating and those relationships really don't last a week. Girls are more in the emotional state so apologizing would be the best.

If you can befriend with other girls, that would beneficial for you especially when it can help you with connections, perspectives, and comfort. Females and males do click and work differently from each other in general.  

PacmanandMariofan : If I do see her again, I Probably will though. Thanks.

greenluigi : I have never been asked before, And the thought of me being asked was kinda.... out of this world. I was shocked and did not know what to do really. And green that's a story. In movies, There are love stories of kids of 10. Me not seen. ( Oh.. Yeah that's a dutch saying.. Does not really make much sense in english lol) I will apologize. I know that what I did was wrong.

juuldude : You know me, I will go for the first thing. Thanks for the tips.


warmaker : Yes, Those are some valid points and they are true. I should, When, i'm going to school again. And I know that I have a girl     friend
( Notice the space : P) Which I don't talk often to anymore.


supernerd117 : That's a good decision.

ghostfishy : You are right, I'll apologize the next time I see her.

imamonster : I already thought so. And I know that saying you said to green, 'mij niet gezien'  

juuldude :  

I'm with warmaker.

The decision isn't the worst, but you want early experience.
I myself made the same mistake, and it ended in an awkard situation, that I could have avoided.

If you ever see her again, you should at least say something. A no can be a much better solution than nothing.
My friend once had a similar situation, where two girls were playing truth or dare in an amusement park, and one dared the other to kiss him in public.
As a response to him ignoring her, she went by the saying ''Zwijgen is toestaan.'' (Can't remember the exact saying in English)

And I don't think you want the same to happen when your friends are around, do you?

Dude ignoring is not a good way to go. It was plain rude like everybody else said. But I'm gonna ramble about something else.


To be honest I don't know about you but I'm sixteen and I am still not ready for a relationship. I am literally not ready for it. I thought I was. Bad idea. I'm not saying to not get in a relationship but having been in a few none of them were real and they really can't be until you get older. But like I said that's me. Everybody's different. If you really feel you're ready then go for it.

ug. childern these days (even though i am one). i believe you should ignore her, or tell her that she shouldn't be in a relationship at that point. well... hope i could help...

'Alright, First off, I plan to not have a relationship until i'm.. Say 16. And, NOW I'm 11....'
I'm confused, it sais you are 16... .-.

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imamonster : i would have learned to handle it i've been through this MANY times before i started dating at 7

That's a little bit cold, but understandable. You panicked, which is normal. I've been asked out twice, and I've said yes both times because I panicked and didn't know what to say. Not a good decision XD. If I were you, I would go up to her and apologize for ignoring her, and say that you aren't ready for a relationship yet. I also agree, kids at your age (maybe even my age) shouldn't be dating yet.

By the way, if you're 11, why did you say you were 16?

kirbmanboggle : I know that, But what should I do next time, also dating at 7-13 is not really dating, Juuust sayin'

Popeye116 :  

HEY, So a few days before i went to egypt, I saw the girl again and I apologized she said that she understood. I said:
I apologize for ignoring you, and While I do really like you, I just think that I should wait until i'm 16 until I start a relationship.
In a rather... nervous way

imamonster : you get what i mean brah it raises expirience to actually succeed when you start dateing

imamonster : Good job. I don't think there would've been a lot of other good ways to apologize. By the way, sorry about that last question, I didn't see your reply to Faded's post.