Conflict can be quite jarring, honestly. The teasing, harassment, insults, violence.... not a favorable situation to be involved in. I've already mentioned how I'm usually brung into conflict due to being bullied and all, but I have means of ending conflict too. My solution is to avoid conflict whenever possible and continue on with my day without wasting my time. 

Do you deal with conflict head-on or do you avoid it? Has a loved one of yours ever been caught into a conflict which you have witnessed? Thanks for reading.

Ultrajeff : Its not really easy dealing with conflict, but if you really know what you are doing then you will be able to end any conflict that happens. Unnecessary ones I don't bother to deal with since I feel its a waste of time. Its best to ignore ones that are not worth it, and only defend for yourself if you see there is a reason. I try to make sure I stay as far away as possible from these things. But, no matter how hard I try that won't happen sadly. This....I will not get into the deals of. But, conflict in a way is just something that can not be a good thing to be involved in.

Difficult to answer as it often depends on what the conflict is. I usually just ignore it but that isn't always the case sadly and I may have to tackle it head on which can be fun to do in certain circumstances.

I find out that when I try to ignore conflict it just comes back in the future anyways. If it's really small then it might disappear, but most of the things I label as conflicts are usually rather big.

I'm not really bullied at all and in that situation I just play along with it anyways, so I'm talking about conflicts between friends. I try to understand the situation first, then try to amend the conflict. Sometimes it just takes time, other times it takes a lot more than that.

It definitely depends on the type of conflict with me. If it's something about my grades I usually just ignore it and keep going with my life considering I'm not the most motivated person when it comes to school. When it's friendships or relationships though, I put almost every fiber of my being into solving the conflict because nothing makes me feel worse than having somebody I care about be upset with me.

I try to avoid conflict, especially when my friend is causing the trouble. Conflict is just not worth my time, and if my friend was the one creating conflict, I get uncomfortable because on one hand, she's my friend and I understand what she is saying, but there are so many different approaches to use instead of calling people really mean names and speaking trash about the hard work our group puts in just because we won't use my friend's idea.

Well, I try my best to avoid conflict with things and or people, but it usually ends in me saying the last word or words and me walking off so I can cool myself down.

please remember I'm a girl and I don't like conflict very much I try not to fight as much as possible since I reallyz hate fighting though if the conflict is unavoidable then I passive aggressively defend myself and my position on the issue until I feelz that the issue has been resolved

I only getz reallyz aggressive when the person refuses to solve the conflict in a calm manner with me I hate having to be like that though I refuse to be a push over to anyone and that is when the kid gloves come off and I let the person have it verbally of course since I'm a lover not a fighter

though sadly because of my sweet, kind, and fragile disposition I'm often left hurting badly deep inside once the conflict is over to the point I want to just curl up in a ball and cryz till my sides hurt ... which often happens unless I can talk to someone that will cheer me up

I usually ignore it and let it collapse destroying many people's psyches

But if I were to actually deal with it I'd find some way to get rid of it. I don't have time to feel sorry for myself for having conflict in my life.

I try my best not to get in fights and conflicts with others, but it's inevitable that , at one point, you are not going to get along with one of the 7.4 billion people in the world. I usually try to resolve it in a cool, calm manner, but sometimes that doesn't work. I get confrontational and aggressive sometimes, depending on how the temperament of the other person/people is. It usually gets resolved eventually, most of the time in a peaceful manner, which is good. I don't think I have ever fought someone physically over a conflict, because that's just not me. I'm not one to physically get into it with others. 

I have a story for you.

I work on a roof a lot, and with people who I do not get along with. Why?

Because they talk about sex all the time. Make noises as the imitate humping things, sleep with multiple girls, and talk about it.

I don't want to hear about it. I want to enjoy my work, get it done and talk about something more pleasant. But do they care? Ohhhhh no. . . they need to tell the world about their last relationship, her body features this and that. . . just UGH.

But, I can't really start a fight over something like that. I mean, yeah, it's ugly, sick depressing whatever. They have no respect, not for talking about stuff like that in the open air. They don't care about me and my brother, or my dad and what he wants to hear. They're just crude, and honestly, I don't like hearing about that kindof garbage every work day of my life.

Now, that's not the real story I'd like to get too, but it does give you an idea of how much we might dislike each other up there. Anyways, the story I'd like to tell you is this.


One day, I was roofing with the guys, and the annoying one stood at the peak of the roof, and farted. He started flapping his pants and laughing, cause the wind was blowing in my direction. I looked up at him and said. "Hey? What're you doing?"

He just chuckled and walked off towards the other side.

"Hey! you do that again and there'll be consequences!" I warned him. He didn't take it seriously.

A few hours later, I walked by him, and he let out this blast of gas right near my face. He was smiling about it as he walked off. However, I was holding a yellow roofing knife in my hand and pitched it right towards his backside as he made it to the edge of the roof. I had intended for it to actually hit him, but of course it didn't. My aim wasn't very good, and it landed in the yard next door instead. The guy turned around and the smile left his face. I approached him. . . and he was four feet away from the edge.


I had thought a lot about this ahead of time. I'm not really an aggressive person. But I can't help but think that people aren't tough enough in the places they should be in life. I knew that if I did not stand my ground right then and there. . . that I would be telling him that he could fart on me for the rest of my work days as some kindof joke.

I don't care who you are.

No one deserves that as a common experience in their everyday worklife.

"HEY!" I yelled angerly. Staring him down with my 3 day no shave- some big, menacing sunglasses and a pose I had been practicing for days. "WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING!?!?" I just screeched at him.

"Huh?" He asked in an unconfident sounding voice.

"WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING!?!?" I asked him again?

I'm already a tall guy, but the fact that I had the high ground and if we got in a fight we both might end up tumbling to the ground? Not a healthy prospect. I could see he was scared in his eyes.

He tried to step right. I matched it. He tried to step left. I moved right in the way!

"I asked you a question!" I yelled at him once again. "What do you think you're doing!?!?"

"Are you saying you want a fight?" He asked back trying to appear threatening. He stepped right. . . but I continued to move in his way!

"I asked YOU a question!" I repeated. "What do you think you're doing?!?!"


It went back and forth like that, till it came the point where I told him. "No I don't want to fight!" During the whole conflict, his brother. (who also works with us) Kept taunting him, saying.

"He's owning you bro! haha! You got served!"

Felt good to finally stand up for myself. I followed him across the perimeter somewhat till he reached the ladder. He got off the roof and walked around for a little over ten minutes. Meanwhile, I let myself calm down. I was ready to draw my real fighting knife the entire time, and actually I was quite scared. However, years of RPing, and writing, acting out my own characters and practicing my "don't mess with me" mentality, and I had actually faked it out! Since then, I've gotten a lot more respect, and my dad has even spoken about giving me a raise most recently! It feels great to get some recognition and not get stepped on so much. Sometimes growing a backbone really does pay for itself, but it's risky, you have to know you can win, and you gotta play it out right.

I did all those things. And thankfully, I didn't even have to get physical.

No, I do not prefer violence as a means to fix every situation. But I know that words are meaningless without power to back them up. If you want respect, you have to be able to defend it, as well as be a respectable person. That's pretty much how it works, but remember one thing in life. Power controls all, and if don't have the power to back up what you say you are going to do. You're words mean nothing.

Such power and use of words is but a knight's honor.

I try to avoid conflicts as much as possible but if it's a small argument I think it's always good to face the conflict and solve it. I've had so many experiences with people who don't talk to each other about relevant matters that in the end there's no way to avoid the conflict, and at that point it turns into a shouting contest. So my thumb rule is to speak my mind about the things that bother me but in a cool manner that doesn't spike any aggression in the other party. I can deal with aggression, but if the other person's being unreasonable and unfair it's difficult to keep myself calm, at which point I easily answer to them in the same manner.

Dealing with conflict is my job. I have plenty of stories, none of which I am gonna tell right now.

Are we talking about simple arguments or physical confrontation? If it's an argument, then I'll usually play mediator to try and maintain civility, but that usually results in getting myself into the argument, too. I just can't help but throw my two cents in. If we're talking about getting physical, I haven't been in a fight in a really long time, but I'll meet it head on. There have been instances where three or more people have ganged up on me, people twice my age, hight and weight threaten to do me bodily harm and getting up in my face and even my own mother grabbing me by the throat, and I've never backed down. I don't automatically jump to violence in most scenarios, but it's a quick fix when necessary and I haven't any problem resorting to it if I haven't any other choice.

I'm the worst about handling conflict of any kind. For a 29 year old, it's really quite embarrassing. I shut down, "take the beating", and just become very submissive to the situation. I think there have been two times in my life where this was not the case, and one was witnessed by my husband. He got a real kick out of it, when I looked at the waiter in shock and said "is the food here normally so gross, because I'm not paying for this!" He tells everyone that the restaurant should have had caution tape around it for me to say anything like that. Haha. I think it's also the closest I've ever seen someone's jaw come to hitting the floor.