(I forgot Cafe isn't accessible for 12 year olds and younger... sorry for moving your thread twice.)

greenluigi :

I would appreciate it when my parents get their own drink rather than have me get it for them when I'm busy.

Especially if it's often.

I just tend to put up with anything or complain a little bit, but in the end, it's their house.

I'm living in it and eating thier food.

May as well do as they say.


Not that I have bad parents, far from it. And I do find it annoying if it's more often than once a day. But I'm not going to really complain about it.

I don't want to do that when I have Children someday though.


On the other hand, I like making my parents happy. If I'm walking on by, sure, I'd be happy to get them a drink of water.

When I'm listening to all hail shadow and trying to write an awesome fanfic, not so much.

Sword legion : Yeah I also love to make my parents happy. But the thing that is super annoying is, they CAN'T take jokes. My family CAN'T TAKE JOKES. Well I also feel that sometimes they're just over protective.

greenluigi :

Well, my dad's that way too to a certain degree.

People have different opinions on humor and stuff. Ya know? So you only tell certain kinds of jokes around certain people.

ie.

I know some guys who like to joke in a certain way, (totally clean BTW)

But my grandpa hates it!

So. . . .I just don't joke that way around him! LOL.

Only when I'm around them. ^^'

Overprotective?

Meh.

You're 12 years old and all. It's good to be aware of what is going on around you morally. It's possible, but I doubt it, You seem to have turned out well, and I can't complain about it.

I'll bet it's all okay, of course parents can do that (sometimes,) especially moms. XD

But it's all good.

Good parents are always looking out for their children. It's good if they don't let you play, or watch whatever.

If they're keeping you from stuff then that's good.

Just remember that the only person that you can change in life is yourself. I'm not saying that means your always wrong, (would never suggest that) but hey, it works out more easily when you try to change yourself. I don't usually tell my superiors when something is irking me cause it so often get's nothing done, but if a problem is a problem, then you can bring it up. I would just deal with it though.

OH COME ON! THERE ARE NAZI'S ON THE MOON AND PARENTS USE THEIR KIDS AS SLAVES, VIZZED IS GETTING SCAARYYY

And No. I am the youngest in my house, My sister is 21 And does not live at our home anymore. I have a 18 year old brother that does still live with us at our home.. So I am used the least. I would love to have a younger brother or sister,  But Being youngest is the best!

No, they don't. Of course, sometimes I feel as if they do, especially if I'm in the middle of something when they ask me to do them a favor. My sister gets used as if she was their slave, though. She isn't always bad prior to that, so it sucks for her and me. My brother, however, almost never has to do my parents any favors and he gets treated as if he's a freaking angel. Why? According to them, it's because "he's only 6!" Well, he sometimes acts like a typical 2-year-old, and when he isn't, he's acting like a typical teenager. )=< I won't go into detail about that because I already did in this thread:

https://www.vizzed.com/boards/thread.php?id=77891

Definitely not, I don't really have a lot of chores, and even though it is a nuisance whenever they call me and ask me to do something, I still do it anyway. Yes, it can be quite annoying at times, but in the end it isn't really all that bad. Believe me, there are kids out there that have it a lot worse, some of them get beat and abused by their parents either physically, mentally or both and they would die to have the life you do. I get called on all the time, sometimes 10 times a day to do little things around the house, and most of the time I think to myself "why can't you do it? Its not that difficult a job." but in the end, I know that it will get me nowhere. If they weren't my parents, I would have a lot more to say to them about the way they do things and also the way they act, but parents are parents and there really isn't anything you can do about that. Just be thankful you have parents that don't beat you and mistreat you on that level...sure these little things might seem annoying now, but later on in life, you will have a lot more to worry about...so I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't sweat the small stuff. 

Razor-987 : Exactly! I also feel the same way 'Why can't you do it?  It's not difficult.' Well the chores doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes, it gets on my nerves when I'm busy or tired. The worst is, my parents are telling me what I have to do there, or in a place etc... as if I can't breath anymore!

greenluigi : Having to do a few chores isn't even remotely slavery. Hell, they would do much worse to you if we were to go back a hundred years, or even fifty. My grandparents were lashed and belted for misbehaving, or not doing real work, and so were my parents sometimes, albeit not as much. By work, I don't mean fetching a drink, or vacuuming, I'm talking serious physical labor, or cleaning the entire house, or even cleaning a single room in its entirety. I gladly oblige to do anything they ask me because they are paying for me to live, and this is their house, and they could be treating me a lot worse than they are (which they are not). 

My mom used to and still does a lot when visiting. Always something like "Get me the remote." or "Get me a drink and something to eat." Which despite me being lazy a bit she is lazier on it. But my dad nope since I haven't seen him in forever and when I did see him some he didn't really ask me to do a lot.

My parents aren't too bad about that. Although there are some things that my mom does when sometimes I think, 'Why don't you just do it yourself?'

In all honesty my problem is kind of the other way around. My dad is older and it hurts him to do some things that he wants to do. So he'll go out and mow the yard for instance. I'll get in trouble later for not helping even though he told me he wants to do it. And then if I insist he gets mad at me. If I don't it's mom. But I guess that's not that bad.

I do things as asked, some laundry, clean my room when its trashed, nothing much. The only time I feel like a slave is when I'm bored so I'm up just walking around and when I decide to sit down (literally the moment I'm sitting, not even mid-sitting down) my stepmom asks me to do some petty task like get a drink.

You are really using the term slave VERY loosely here. I bet a real slave would trade places with you in a heartbeat. You are provided with living accommodations equal to your parents, you eat as well as your parents, you get to have your time playing games or watching TV, you are loved by your parents, I'm sure that though you are asked to do things your parents do a lot of things for you too.

You mention how tired you are. I'm not trying to offend you, but you are 12 years old. How I wish I could go back to where schoolwork and some chores were what I had to worry about. None of that compares to the mental exhaustion of a career, paying bills, providing for yourself (and others), etc. If you had a real idea as to how taxing being an adult really is, having to do some small easy favors would not seem like a big deal. Heck, I know my wife has to work WAY harder than me for the same pay as me. I tend to do as many small things as I can, no matter how easy it would be for her to do it just to let her know I appreciate the hard work she does with her career.

But like I said. You are 12 years old, so it isn't your fault that you can't relate to the stress of adult life. But calling what you described even remotely close like slavery is a HUGE exaggeration.

There's no need to be too harsh on him for his word choice. He just wants to rant, so he can't help exaggerating in the heat of the moment.

greenluigi, I've edit your thread title to something more accurate on what this thread is about.

My parents, well my mom, nags me every now and then to do chores, like vacuum the hallway, clean the stairs, cut coupons, etc. It's understandable though. I should do chores every now and then, and when asked, I do them (though usually not right away). I feel nothing like a slave though. I'm just doing a few chores every now and then. I don't mind being nagged for it.

My father, comprised of Head Cheese, salami, ham provolone, and swiss, was sadly eaten the day after I was built....A couple of years later, my mother, of spinach, onions, mustard, roast beef, avocados, cucumbers, and cream cheese was eaten too, by the same monster who devoured my father....I had to survive on my own, in a freezer with the only sane product to was the vine of grapes, until they too got eaten one by one...So don't you dare tell me that parents nag, when mine were digested.

Parents has got to be the biggest donkey butts yet the best friends you can ever get. That may not be up to you to choose though but you can influence their decisions. However, that isn't the problem here it seems. It seems that in our current society, there is something we now call '1st world problems' and this one is 1st world problem for kids. Before anyone comes out to say hey you on't understand or quit attacking the youngins, let me tell you that I have been a kid before and I am Chinese and naturally, I'm sure people know about the stereotypical Asian tiger parent syndrome. For those who are not aware, the stereotype is that Asian folks like their kids to work super hard in school and if you get anything below a B, you get to sleep with the family yak out in the back. Okay maybe it isn't this bad usually but still doing chores for your parents is nothing. Absolutely nothing compared to what have been done for you. 

Let me go way back to when I was a toddler, They can hardly speak English but I had to learn as much of it as possible and my mom thrusted multiplication and reading assignments in my face at 6 years old. I somehow ended up learning multiplication and division in that year but did I like it? No but it did let me be a smartass for the next few years to come, allowing me to grow and be at borderline 11th grade reading levels by the time I finished the 5th grade. Granted, at this time in life I still had relatively few chores to do even by American standards. I didn't do any dishes or laundry and I rarely cleaned anything. So yo guys can say I had it easy but when I hit my teens it all changed. They stopped caring if I would do well in school the same because they know I'd succeed until I hit college. This is when they started giving me more tasks and seeing that I am proficient in them, I became the primary person of these tasks. Dishes. Check. Laundry for the whole fambam, check. Feed the dog, check. blah blah, check. I hated it. So from 12 to 17 I had to do everyone's laundry most of the time. Yep, I know how your guys' mom feel for sure. Do you know how much work it is everyday to clean up after the whole family after they eat multiple meals that day and then having to wake up before all of the kids so they can be prepped for school? No you do not if you take your parents for granted. Like I said, I hated doing my chores and that is one of the primary driving forces of me moving out but I didn't do that until way later anyways because gradually your parents will let you grow up even after having so many household responsibility put onto you. That means your parents will come to let you do things that you otherwise wouldn't be allowed to do. Sometimes you have to ease them into it and try your hardest not to lie to them. They are good at figuring stuff out and not telling you that they have.

I commend my mom for being able to put up with 4 kids. Being a mom is a fulltime job. That is what a lot of parents will tell you and then being a mom with a job living in a crappy low class neighborhood? That is not living, it is survival. It is difficult and it is hard and it is very very stressful. Yet seeing the brats in their life will still put a smile on their faces. The little or big chores that you are asked to do each day are minimum tasks. Your parents has done much more for you, remember that. It is their job though? Right? Sure but it is your job to be a good kid to your parents and one of them is to not whine about is cleaning up the cat and dog crap in the yard so that the grass doesn't die and everyone can enjoy the time in yard without stepping or smelling crap. Your sister doesn't do anything? Suck it up. Being the firstborn son in a Chinese household meant that the pressure is on me to succeed, prevail, and be good at everything I am supposed to do. It is a dumb but proactive idea. It works sometimes and sometimes not. I am pro at so many things thanks to my folks. My sister is not but she will have her chances to learn. It is all about seeing things in a different light. Every time you think it is  a nuisance, think about your parent taking you out for a nice dinner. You know they could have been like screw the kids, just me and you tonight and we get to eat luxurious food while they get mac n cheese. But it isn't like that. Parents are always so focused on the kids they forget that they themselves are a couple, living together as any other romantic couple would. They are sacrificing some of their own happiness to be happy with you guys. So the next time you complain about them messing up your game of super smash bros or ruining your headshots, think to yourself, "Hey I am hurting fictional people and winning and now I am hurting real people and is winning (then I will start losing very soon because these guys aint fake)." That is what happens every time you talk back irrationally or refuse to do something simple or put it off. I know because I've been there. So it isn't so bad if your parents decide to say no internet for a week if you refuse to throw away your baby sister's diapers for your mom. You hurt them, they punish you. They have until at least you are 18 to do it. So go ahead see who wins in the end. You can be a grumpy little brat, or take a step back and work with your parents, see it from their angle, and everyone can be happy. You will see that the more you listen, the more friendly they will be. YES, YOUR PARENTS CAN BE YOUR FRIENDS! And friends let stuff slide, they bend the rules together, and they have fun.  

Before I finish this is the part where I say I am not so naive blah blah blah and parents need to understand their kids too. If you are a super strict parent, you need to loosen up on your kids, otherwise they will just be more and more resentful towards you and rebel. Communication is key. My gf took a long time, in fact it took her a year after she moved out to really connecting with her dad. The problem wasn't her resenting him or anything like that. It was simply a lack of communication. Communicate with your kids, strive to understand, and synergize some great solutions. Think win-win, not win-lose, people.

@Port753: Your responses always fail to not entertain me lol. Love the metaphors dude. Keep it up.   

Best hopes and wishes,
TitaniumOxide

greenluigi :

Let's sit back and think for a minute about everything your parents gave up to have you.  I'm a dad and I remember when I didn't have a kid.  I could do what I want, when I wanted, however long I wanted.  Now?  My daughter controls the schedule.  Everything we do is based around her.  She's too young to say thank you or appreciate what we're giving up but we're sacrificing everything, things like living in Hawaii, to raise our kid.

So when your parents ask you to do something, think of this: They don't make you pay rent.  You probably don't have to be buy food, clothes, school supplies, or pay for electricity, water, heat, air conditioning, gas, your sports and activities.  They are bankrolling your entire life.  You have no reason, zero reason, to not help them and do things they ask.  I bet they even do your laundry.

When you start doing everything yourself and paying your own way, you'll be able to say no to their requests.

And let's be honest, "Slaves"?  You're really using that word?  You live in the easiest, least demanding, most child-indulging, least responsible time ever to be a kid.  This is simple nowadays.  Everything is handed to you and everything is set on Easy mode.  You're 12.  How can anything in your life be demanding?

If you really think you're a slave, I can't wait for you to move out and see what real life has to offer.

My parents are actually pretty laissez-faire about me. I have few responsibilities, curfews that are rarely enforced, and i can generally do whatever i please so long as they're fine with it (they usually are). I know most of my friends have much tougher parents, so I've got it pretty easy.