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03-03-11 09:39 AM
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A friend and I had a falling out a while back, and just recently I was given an opportunity to at least talk to him, but I'm balking at it. He and I used to be great friends till I did something and ruined our friendship. The complimentery bad mouthing ensued, and regardless of whether or not I meant it, it IS out there, not gonna lie.

All I want to do is take it back, and just be friends again, because it's much better than feeling like one of the people I trusted most, now hates me.

What would you do in this situation? Any idea how to handle confronting my friend?
A friend and I had a falling out a while back, and just recently I was given an opportunity to at least talk to him, but I'm balking at it. He and I used to be great friends till I did something and ruined our friendship. The complimentery bad mouthing ensued, and regardless of whether or not I meant it, it IS out there, not gonna lie.

All I want to do is take it back, and just be friends again, because it's much better than feeling like one of the people I trusted most, now hates me.

What would you do in this situation? Any idea how to handle confronting my friend?
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03-03-11 10:23 AM
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If the guy was your friend, apologize to him. Take the blame, take the fault, say you're sorry, tell him why it all happened, and ask him to be your friend again.

It seems tough but if you two were good friends you should want to keep that friendship. If you're even thinking about 'confronting' him then do so with your head hung low. Apologize a lot. It won't cost you anything and you'll have a friend back.

Trust me, every friend you can have is a good thing.

Good luck!
If the guy was your friend, apologize to him. Take the blame, take the fault, say you're sorry, tell him why it all happened, and ask him to be your friend again.

It seems tough but if you two were good friends you should want to keep that friendship. If you're even thinking about 'confronting' him then do so with your head hung low. Apologize a lot. It won't cost you anything and you'll have a friend back.

Trust me, every friend you can have is a good thing.

Good luck!
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03-07-11 01:04 PM
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1 of my friends wont talk to me..i didnt do anything...i made a bunch of new friends but still it confuses me...

If it is your fault, apologize.

If i isnt, ignore him. Why would HE care about you all a sudden?
1 of my friends wont talk to me..i didnt do anything...i made a bunch of new friends but still it confuses me...

If it is your fault, apologize.

If i isnt, ignore him. Why would HE care about you all a sudden?
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legacyme3 : Well, what was the problem that led to the friendship breaking? Words are very powerful and, it is something that one learns in time and hopefully helps that person evolve into a better more well-rounded person by not being so quick to say things that might hurt and or offend others.
What happened? Maybe I can help
legacyme3 : Well, what was the problem that led to the friendship breaking? Words are very powerful and, it is something that one learns in time and hopefully helps that person evolve into a better more well-rounded person by not being so quick to say things that might hurt and or offend others.
What happened? Maybe I can help
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03-07-11 06:59 PM
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bvd1022 :

Too long a story to put in here, it'd be longer than my Vizzed Perspective piece, he and I have a good bit of history in the past 5 months
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Too long a story to put in here, it'd be longer than my Vizzed Perspective piece, he and I have a good bit of history in the past 5 months
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Like warmaker said, apologize to him, tell him you are sorry for what was said. You took it too far, and it wasn't worth ruining a friendship over. Even if it goes against what you stand for, or what you said, let him have it this time. Its time to move on.
Like warmaker said, apologize to him, tell him you are sorry for what was said. You took it too far, and it wasn't worth ruining a friendship over. Even if it goes against what you stand for, or what you said, let him have it this time. Its time to move on.
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legacyme3 : Private message me then… I’ve had many friends most of whom I knew for years before the relationship dissolved. I am willing to listen and help you, just send me a PM brother.
legacyme3 : Private message me then… I’ve had many friends most of whom I knew for years before the relationship dissolved. I am willing to listen and help you, just send me a PM brother.
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All you can do is try to apologize. Let him know you didn't mean it and would like to rebuild the friendship. If he doesn't accept your sincere apology, well then that's on him and it's something he will have to live with.
All you can do is try to apologize. Let him know you didn't mean it and would like to rebuild the friendship. If he doesn't accept your sincere apology, well then that's on him and it's something he will have to live with.
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I would apologize for what you did.  I would make it up for that friend by doing something nice to show that you really meant it.
I would apologize for what you did.  I would make it up for that friend by doing something nice to show that you really meant it.
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well maybe try to take the blame and just small talk for a bit then when you botth feel comfortable round each other thigns wiill be back to normal ive been in  that kind of situation once or twice and it always feels so awkward taking the blame because its admitting your wrong but you have to do it
well maybe try to take the blame and just small talk for a bit then when you botth feel comfortable round each other thigns wiill be back to normal ive been in  that kind of situation once or twice and it always feels so awkward taking the blame because its admitting your wrong but you have to do it
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Truthfully, nothing will ever completely remove the scar of the past if something that dramatic happened between you two. But you can both apologize and put the past behind you. It's something that's really difficult to do, but if you really want to become best friends again, then you'll be willing to forget what happened for that sake.
Truthfully, nothing will ever completely remove the scar of the past if something that dramatic happened between you two. But you can both apologize and put the past behind you. It's something that's really difficult to do, but if you really want to become best friends again, then you'll be willing to forget what happened for that sake.
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I would talk to him again and say. "Look I am sorry bro I didn't mean what I said and it was all me. Will you forgive me?" Then if he doesn't he doesn't and you have to move on.
I would talk to him again and say. "Look I am sorry bro I didn't mean what I said and it was all me. Will you forgive me?" Then if he doesn't he doesn't and you have to move on.
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Swallow your pride and go apologize to him. Tell him your screwed up and you take blame for everything. You have to be ready for him to not accept; you might want him back but then doesn't mean he wants you back(sorry that's a little harsh, but you need the truth). You also need to be prepared for if he does want to repair your friendship. It's going to be rough and you guys aren't going to start where you left off. There's a chance you guys might get in another fight simply because there are still going to be hurt feelings out there. Just give it time and patience and don't rush things and hopefully you two will be fine.
Swallow your pride and go apologize to him. Tell him your screwed up and you take blame for everything. You have to be ready for him to not accept; you might want him back but then doesn't mean he wants you back(sorry that's a little harsh, but you need the truth). You also need to be prepared for if he does want to repair your friendship. It's going to be rough and you guys aren't going to start where you left off. There's a chance you guys might get in another fight simply because there are still going to be hurt feelings out there. Just give it time and patience and don't rush things and hopefully you two will be fine.
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I don't know if I'd be too good in these kind of situations. But what I know to be right is that I would approach the lost friend calmly and out of humility and apologize and admit that I was wrong than ask for forgiveness. Than the burden is on him, will he be mature and let it go or will he hold on to it and be bitter, who knows, but I'd still apologize to him.
I don't know if I'd be too good in these kind of situations. But what I know to be right is that I would approach the lost friend calmly and out of humility and apologize and admit that I was wrong than ask for forgiveness. Than the burden is on him, will he be mature and let it go or will he hold on to it and be bitter, who knows, but I'd still apologize to him.
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