Life is a struggle. An uphill battle, namely. We are constantly making many decisions and acting on others to keep ourselves stable. Some decisions are easy, and require little thought or effort. Others however, are incredibly difficult decisions which take a while to plan. Usually, there's little room for failure. It's a hard process.

What was an incredibly difficult decision you had to make and why? What was easy to decide? Why? Thanks for helping out.

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But in all seriousness I'd say the hardest thing ever is to work with other people. They always want to do it their way and I'm not down with that. There's cooperation and then there's "my way or the highway" and I usually have to deal with the latter.

the hardest thing I've ever had to do is be a parent. The ups and downs you experience are really tiring sometimes. At any given moment things can become terrible or great at the snap of a finger. Sometimes kids are great and other days they are terrible. It's tougher than anything else I've had to do in my life so far.

Trying to confront people who do not think like me is quite a challenge, considering how poor a speaker I am. If I can do it in writing it is usually not a problem because I can think things through. But when speaking everything is almost instant so feelings tend to overcome reason. I wish I was Milton Friedman-cool when I speak...

Life is full of up and downs, indeed. There are good moments and bad moments. So far in my current life, the hardest thing for me is to sleep without worrying, or not being able to sleep at all. In bed I tend to think of things which I do not normally think of during the day, which is a flaw of mine that I can never fix sadly... I go to bed at 12 AM, but I cannot sleep before 2 AM... Another hard thing for me in life is trust issues and keeping promises. I am TERRIBLE when it comes to making promises (Since anything can happen, I never promise anything), and I sometimes have trust issues towards people. I have no problem telling a secret to a very close friend, but a normal friend I do. Trust very few people in life, and trust is the hardest thing to obtain AND the easiest thing to lose...

Hardest thing ever? There is a few things, losing someone close, more so by death then anything, losing a good friend, family member, etc. I lost a few good friends last year, and an uncle. Last year sucked really bad, and even to this day it still hurts. Now when it comes to losing someone as in a relationship, that hurts too, especially when it's sudden, and they walk out of your life and treat you like trash, pretty much playing the "smoke and mirrors" game.

Then there is someone you always care about, and maybe were in an on/off relationship with, and then you find out they are moving to the other side of the country, and that hurts, and it's one of the hardest moments of your life. I had that happen with a girl I was seeing late last year. I am still in contact with her because she's a really good friend, but I was hoping it could of been more then that, and it was almost there, and then she told me she was moving, but I don't blame her for moving, she had a friend that got her a job, that was good money. It was just really hard for months, still is, especially after my last relationship fell apart.

The hardest thing I ever had to do?
Well, if it has to be a choice, then deciding to quit drugs, and actually going through with giving them up was the hardest thing I ever had to do.

Being addicted to something truly consumes your life. Nothing is more important than feeding said addiction, no matter the pain it may cause your self or those you love. I was strung out on pain pills / opiates for about 8 years, and need-less to say, I had pretty much sacrificed every thing to keep using them. I had lost significant others over it, I had stolen from my family to the point they were ready to give up on me altogether, and I had been home less before, on top of receiving an eviction notice from my apartment when I finally decided to quit. If not for the charity of my family, I never would've made it into rehab in the first place. That gift of desperation was what saved my life in the end. I had to detox myself before going into the in-patient program, which meant I spent 5 days laying in bed, sweating through the sheets, squirming in terrible pain inside and out, having the runs, feeling cold no matter how bundled up I was ( which was even more agony considering how much I was sweating ), my skin feeling like bugs were constantly crawling over the surface ( and sometimes under the surface ), and not being able to sleep more than maybe 20 minutes in any given twenty four hour period. Opiate withdrawals are no joke, and I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemies.

So after 5 days of going through hell on earth, I had to man up, and go live in some place I knew nothing about, still going through withdrawals. I had no guarantee that I would be given any medication to help, no guarantee the program would make any difference for me, no guarantee that I wouldn't simply want to kill myself from being so miserable the entire time I was there. I nearly had a panic attack before being admitted, and I'm the type of person that never has them in the first place ( although a constant sense of anxiety always looms over me since becoming as burnt out as I am ). Luckily they ended up providing me with not only medication to ease the withdrawal symptoms, but an excellent facility with remarkable staff that did an amazing job helping me and the other addicts get our lives and state of minds back to where they needed to be. It may have been the hardest decision I've ever had to make, and the hardest thing I've ever had to struggle through, but it was all worth it. I'm still clean to this day almost a full year later, and I really pray I can continue to keep my demons in check.

Wish me luck my fellow Vizzed users

Obviously I'm still early on in life so my hardest decisions are probably yet to come. So far though, probably choosing an academic focus. The system here in Sweden I think is a bit different to that of the US, starting 10th grade you basically attend a separate school called "gymnasium" which is basically 10-12th grade and you choose a program which will either lead straight to a job or to further studies at university. For me the choice was between the social science program and what is essentially the computer science program. I went back and forth a lot on which to choose before finally settling on the former. I did a ton of research on it online probably more than my entire class combined and even after that I wasn't certain. After all it's a choice that would define my career opportunities in the future.

Equally hard was the choice of school, since I chose between two schools that were basically polar opposites, one was a big central public school and the other a much smaller private school.

Now that I'm about to enter to enter the 2nd year of it though I'm pretty sure I made the right call in both cases. I'm finally starting to feel more certain of what I want to pursue in university (economics or political science either of which I'll be able to enter from going this program). I'm pretty happy with the school I'm currently attending too. The teachers are pretty good and I get along pretty well with most of the people in my class. I do stick out considering I'm from what is essentially considered the "bad part of the city" but it hasn't really created much in terms of problems for me since I've been performing well in most classes.

Parenting is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. The kids don't go anywhere and having two of them is relentless. A parent can't show frustration, can't yell or hit even though I'd love to sometimes bounce them off the floor, and I have to provide a loving, safe environment.

I'm so cued into the role I have as a dad for two girls, I've watched what I've said the past two years. I monitor everything I do and say so I can give them the best experience possible and help them develop socially, physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.

It's hard. I went through boot camp at Parris Island for the Marines, I've moved to another city with no friends and no job and made things happen, I graduated college with a degree, and I've done a lot of other stuff.

Parenting is insanely hard, even with a strong marriage and a great relationship with my wife. The other dads and moms on here will understand. Those of you with pets will maybe have a glimpse. Otherwise, it's unfathomable how tough this is.

The first hard thing in my life my finding the motivation to take care of my health. By the time I was 18 (only 15 years ago) I was overweight if not obese, I was not moving a lot and generally felt crappy about myself. I finally found the motivation to move (I biked a lot) and train. However it was not until about 5 years ago when I discovered the paleo diet that I finally got into eating habits that are healthy. Unless I do not sleep well, I ALWAYS have the energy I need to do my tasks.

The second hard thing was to find love. Until age 23 I can not say I had a serious relationship; only meaningless contacts with others and that felt quite empty. Before my present relationship I did meet someone but he did not want to get involved in a relationship. But when I finally met my present husband... Love is such a hard thing to describe. Let's just say that I have been living the 10 happiest years of my life.

Mine is to actually change a structure of something you have been used too for years. which would be lifestyle. like seriously when you do something your body, mind, and soul will get used to it. So changing something small or big from it would be hard and getting used too. How should I explain this better? When you have done like for instance the same thing everyday for 24 hours for years, and then you have to change something in order to make things better for you. Its not an easy progress to do, and to try on. I mean I don't mind, but then it wouldn't always have the best way to stay. Even when I try too do it. '-'

A decision that I'm still trying to make is if I want to stay and hang in their for my girlfriend. I mean its a long story but, and I don't mean to sound like a wuss, but she treats me like absolute trash and I still don't know what to do because I have some strong feelings for her... 

Beastmode64 : If your girlfriend is treating you like absolute trash then she really shouldn't be your girlfriend anymore as it would hurt more to stay as her "boyfriend".

The hardest thing I probably had to do is probably change what I've been doing for a long time much like Eniitan said in his post. Though some of it is through things I cannot control I'm really an introverted lazy person and would rather spend my days just sitting indoors and not doing much though I will go out occasionally for a change to get some air and exercise so it isn't all bad.

Another problem I have is contributing to the topic, mainly because of the fact that I haven't really done much. For me it's the same things day in day out, which is a problem I'll admit though it's not entirely my fault that I haven't got much life experience - I'd say about 60% of it is my fault which is still a lot.

geeogree : You are completely correct.

I'm a father of two kids and my wife and I have a strong, stable relationship. Nothing like having a 3 year old and a 1 year old challenge even the best of marriages and relationships. It's hard. It's almost impossible because the kids are so young, they simply take, take, and take some more without being able to really give much back. Some of the moments and emotional memories are happening but it's a constant struggle to deal with the daily grind of having kids. We build our schedule around their needs, they always come first in everything, and even with the help and support of family members who babysit and watch them, they have to be the most challenging thing I've every experienced.

I've seen people say they think having a kid will help their struggling marriage. I've seen people talk about wanting babies at 16 or 17 years of age or right away as soon as they get married.

Take your time with families, people. There's no rush to it because once you start, you're pretty much stuck for the next 20 years or more. You don't get your own time, you have a different kind of freedom but you can't up and just go do things. It's insane how difficult this is and we both have jobs so we can afford kids. I don't know how families who are more poor manage it. I don't know how mothers of 4, 5, or 6 kids get through the day. I guess the ages are spread out enough that the older ones help with the younger ones but two kids is hard.

Being a dad is the hardest thing I've ever done.