Hmm. Hey guys its me. I thought to do a thread I haven't done in years. Similar to troubles and running away thread I did before. Someone helped me to make this idea. You see. We all have problems. But it depends how we deal with them. Holding grudges against someone or people are not always the way to go especially if they are a family member. Not unless there is a real reason too. Even so. These types of things can change you into a negative person if you don't really sort them out for a long period of time. Funny as this may sound. We can be immature at times about things even me. we may be right about it we may be not. Even if you are right about it. There is only one way to solve the problem. The person who may had wrong you for years or however long may want to talk to you again. You might not know this. To improve ones self you have to make the effort again to talk to the person who was once a friend. 


I know its hard to always do something like this. but, I feel and think if you don't do it, when you should and come to a peaceful terms with that person it will be too late. You have been angry and upset with these people. Because they never said sorry to you for what they said that they shouldn't have said. And I find it. If you don't be the bigger person to go again and try. You are just being petty. Maybe that's how you prefer to be like I dunno. But I do know is that if you want to improve on yourself more. You need to tackle and end feuds from the past. Because holding things for such a long time is wrong in a way. When you release something you have kept within you. You would feel a lot more better. Than not doing it and regretting it later. I smile and say human beings are such incredible creatures in their own way. How they have the power to do things they like and love. How they do things in life. I rather go all out and smile for something I am happy I got fixed. Instead of keeping a rage within me which isn't me. As I type this I wonder about a lot of things in life. And what people do how they pursue things. How they can fix whatever problems one has. But the most one you need to focus on is. Yourself. If you don't take care of yourself who will? Yes families are there for you to advice you. But you are to pick up the pieces within yourself to conquer what you are feeling and how you deal with it.

Friends will be there for you. Families will be there for you. It depends on your situation with them though. I leave you with these words. Because one problem happened in the past. Don't become petty and immature about it. Go at it again to solve the problem with that person. No matter the wrongs they have done.


I thought to let this off my mind. I'm glad it did. I hope this thread inspires you in a way.

Wow, Eniitan, you're so right about this.

I know I've thought the same thing many times, but I could never have put it down in words like this!
I'm glad that you posted this and I sincerely hope that it will reach out to many people and maybe make the world just a little bit better somewhere! If more people realized this I think having relationships with other people would be a lot smoother. 

We're all just humans and everyone can make mistakes, we've just got to learn how to let our old grudges go. I've done many bad things against other people in my past, and I've changed now. I hope that if I ever meet them again they'll find it in their hearts to forgive and move on.

I think we're all worth a second chance!

This is true especially with those that we see in our everyday lives.  I myself have had problems with family members and though I have forgiven them I don't wish to be around them.  Sometimes in these types of situations where you just can't see eye to eye you have to come to a mutual understanding. 

The way I've always looked at it is if I have to see the person everyday and be around them anyway why stress yourself out by keeping tension between you.  Certain personality types just don't jive, but if everyone makes the effort to at the very least tolerate one another then we will all be much better off.

I think this level of understanding comes with age.  If you are in your late teens early twenties and have come to this conclusion already about the relationships in your life then you are mature beyond your years.  When I was younger I too would get caught up in trying to get even with a person that had wronged me or go out of my way to give someone a hard time if I felt they had slighted me, but when you get older and more patient you start to realize that acting this way isn't worth the effort or the time.

For the most part,I think that Eniitan is correct. But you can only try so many times before you figure out it is worthless to even attempt it. People cannot be changed easily or at all. Some people are so dead set in their ways,you would have an easier time breaking granite with your fists and feet than changing them. I agree it is important to try and try again,but just as important is knowing when to stop,especially if the intrusion is not welcomed or will not be received well. Sometimes you have to let go and close that part of your life.

I am sorry I am not being upbeat about this thread,but this is just how I feel. Again,Eniitan,I agree for the most part.

Oldschool777 : I already know....thanks for pointing out somethings I didn't explain more in details or I didn't put in at all. When a friend you least expects does something out of the ordinary. And you hurt some much from that. You try to help them see from their wrong ways. But things don't look good and that friend seems gone to you. Then you have to stop as you would be continuing hurting yourself more for no reason. There is a thin line of doing a damage so much, that they don't try and right what wrong they have done. Then you know it is best for yourself to break from that person who was once a friend. I've come to see from when that person comes back in a presence of that old friend. That the person who was hurt would ignore. When you do something bad you first apologize, and use words in a way to express how you feel and how bad you felt for saying such bad things in front of that person.

Even though she or he tried to help and was blocked out from that. People find it hard to forgive person for what they have done. Because you tried to help them see what would happen. They didn't listen. But I say....if you really want to be that persons friend again. You need to approach that person rightly and say *I know you are fuming at me from what happened in the past. But I would like to talk to you. Please? Just please hear me out* if you say something along those lines then that old friend will hear what you have to say no matter how angry you are. But if they don't try and do that of course they will stay angry at you for a long long time. When people have problems with friends and people. Its up to them on how they want to fix things either relationship or friendship. No one is perfect but if we do our best to do something then you become more mature because you overpowered something a negativity you felt towards that person who hurt you in the first place.

I really do understand what you mean. And this explain proves it. ^^