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i've tried to keep diaries in the past, but it just hasn't worked out. i honestly feel better telling other people my thoughts in hopes of maybe connecting with someone. i just don't know how to go about it. i don't know, maybe this is stupid. i don't even know if i'm even going to be able to type what i feel. it's going to be hard, and i'm probably going to regret this later but i'm doing it anyways! i don't even know who reads these things, but if you read this all the way through thank you. i really appreciate it.
i lost all my friends. it's funny how easily you can lose your friends. it just takes a few hours to ruin a lifelong friendship that you were so sure would last forever. well, i would kind of be lying if i said it was a few hours. it has been building up for a while. and just like that, all my friends are gone. 
its her birthday this weekend and she said we were gonna have a party next week so i was like oh okay cool. her mother posted about the party they were having this weekend. so i was confused. i asked her what happened and she said she didnt want to invite me because she thought i would be bored. she didnt even mention it to me and she went behind my back. so cool. im so glad she did that. that made me happy. then she said she didnt feel like we were connecting anymore or whatever. apparently im a buzzkill and all this dumb stuff. she didnt even really explain her feelings properly, and when i tried to get her to she just said that we arent friends anymore. 
there's never been a moment where i truly felt more alone in my life, and i've felt down more times than the average person should in a lifetime. but i can say this is what tears me up the most: she refuses to explain herself. she would rather stop being my friend than explain herself. and with her, i'm sure i lost my other friends. 
i don't really know what to do. i guess that's why im typing this. a lot of thoughts went through my head when i learned that she didnt want me around. is it my fault? am i really that bad? what did i possibly do to her that made her not want me to celebrate her birthday with me? is she even going to miss me when i'm gone? and i'm still having those thoughts, you know? it's hard not to. but i really feel like none of this was completely my fault. i dunno. my thoughts are all over the place. i guess i shouldn't have expected a friendship to last forever when people grow and things change. but i'm still wondering why she decided to do this to me. i was hurt and confused, and i still am because she still hasn't given me any type of closure. it just all happened so fast. 
thanks to whoever read all the way through. if you didn't, that's fine too. thanks for clicking on it.
i've tried to keep diaries in the past, but it just hasn't worked out. i honestly feel better telling other people my thoughts in hopes of maybe connecting with someone. i just don't know how to go about it. i don't know, maybe this is stupid. i don't even know if i'm even going to be able to type what i feel. it's going to be hard, and i'm probably going to regret this later but i'm doing it anyways! i don't even know who reads these things, but if you read this all the way through thank you. i really appreciate it.
i lost all my friends. it's funny how easily you can lose your friends. it just takes a few hours to ruin a lifelong friendship that you were so sure would last forever. well, i would kind of be lying if i said it was a few hours. it has been building up for a while. and just like that, all my friends are gone. 
its her birthday this weekend and she said we were gonna have a party next week so i was like oh okay cool. her mother posted about the party they were having this weekend. so i was confused. i asked her what happened and she said she didnt want to invite me because she thought i would be bored. she didnt even mention it to me and she went behind my back. so cool. im so glad she did that. that made me happy. then she said she didnt feel like we were connecting anymore or whatever. apparently im a buzzkill and all this dumb stuff. she didnt even really explain her feelings properly, and when i tried to get her to she just said that we arent friends anymore. 
there's never been a moment where i truly felt more alone in my life, and i've felt down more times than the average person should in a lifetime. but i can say this is what tears me up the most: she refuses to explain herself. she would rather stop being my friend than explain herself. and with her, i'm sure i lost my other friends. 
i don't really know what to do. i guess that's why im typing this. a lot of thoughts went through my head when i learned that she didnt want me around. is it my fault? am i really that bad? what did i possibly do to her that made her not want me to celebrate her birthday with me? is she even going to miss me when i'm gone? and i'm still having those thoughts, you know? it's hard not to. but i really feel like none of this was completely my fault. i dunno. my thoughts are all over the place. i guess i shouldn't have expected a friendship to last forever when people grow and things change. but i'm still wondering why she decided to do this to me. i was hurt and confused, and i still am because she still hasn't given me any type of closure. it just all happened so fast. 
thanks to whoever read all the way through. if you didn't, that's fine too. thanks for clicking on it.
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Makalya : I am sorry for what has happened between you and your friend. That is really sad that a good friend of yours decided to stop the friendship. I don't think you should feel bad if you know that deep down, you did nothing bad to her. The only thing that I can think of that maybe contributed to her ending the friendship maybe a rumor that someone else may have spread and she heard about it. I hope that you find out why she ended the friendship and hope that you might be able to become friends again (if you want). 
Makalya : I am sorry for what has happened between you and your friend. That is really sad that a good friend of yours decided to stop the friendship. I don't think you should feel bad if you know that deep down, you did nothing bad to her. The only thing that I can think of that maybe contributed to her ending the friendship maybe a rumor that someone else may have spread and she heard about it. I hope that you find out why she ended the friendship and hope that you might be able to become friends again (if you want). 
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I can somehow relate to this, with a different ending though.

A few years ago I went out with three friends of mine. Two of them started to flirt with everything that walked, while the other friend and me were getting so done with the night. After roaming around for a bit on our own, we went to the parking lot, expecting them to come, but they didn't. We tried contacting them via Whatsapp, and they told us they had already left, since one of them was the only one with a driving license back then.

I felt so furious then. I considered the one with the driving license my best friend, for many things I saw him doing that inspired me, but that night I felt consumed by rage like never before. What's more, he didn't even care about the fact that I had left my shoes in his car, as I had to borrow ones from the friend that stayed with me.

I ended up blocking both of them from Whatsapp and had no intention to talk back to them. I remember my friend telling me how they wanted to contact me, but I said I was so done with them. However, the apologies came in months after, and we resumed our friendship. Eventually, I lost sight of one of them, since he's very attached to his girlfriend (whichever he has at the moment), but I've been able to build an stronger friendship with the other one, not to mention the friend that stayed with me has all my trust for being the only one that hasn't betrayed me.

Just like you, I never thought that friendship would end someday, but it did (twice). It also wasn't my fault, it was just him being a jerk. On that night, I wouldn't have cared if the world ended, to be honest. I put a big value on bonds, they are the only reason I'm still alive after all, so feeling betrayed that way by the one I considered the closest to me was a big blow.

I doubt you've lost all your other friends just because of what she's done, I've also seen similar situations to that. It could hurt you even more to discover that some of those friends have severed their bonds with you because of her, but if you manage to find at least one who hasn't it will make you feel so much better. I'll leave up to you if you want to try it or not.

Life will give you a second chance, I'm sure of it. Don't give up now, it's a difficult age and as someone who has passed it I reassure you it will get better.
I can somehow relate to this, with a different ending though.

A few years ago I went out with three friends of mine. Two of them started to flirt with everything that walked, while the other friend and me were getting so done with the night. After roaming around for a bit on our own, we went to the parking lot, expecting them to come, but they didn't. We tried contacting them via Whatsapp, and they told us they had already left, since one of them was the only one with a driving license back then.

I felt so furious then. I considered the one with the driving license my best friend, for many things I saw him doing that inspired me, but that night I felt consumed by rage like never before. What's more, he didn't even care about the fact that I had left my shoes in his car, as I had to borrow ones from the friend that stayed with me.

I ended up blocking both of them from Whatsapp and had no intention to talk back to them. I remember my friend telling me how they wanted to contact me, but I said I was so done with them. However, the apologies came in months after, and we resumed our friendship. Eventually, I lost sight of one of them, since he's very attached to his girlfriend (whichever he has at the moment), but I've been able to build an stronger friendship with the other one, not to mention the friend that stayed with me has all my trust for being the only one that hasn't betrayed me.

Just like you, I never thought that friendship would end someday, but it did (twice). It also wasn't my fault, it was just him being a jerk. On that night, I wouldn't have cared if the world ended, to be honest. I put a big value on bonds, they are the only reason I'm still alive after all, so feeling betrayed that way by the one I considered the closest to me was a big blow.

I doubt you've lost all your other friends just because of what she's done, I've also seen similar situations to that. It could hurt you even more to discover that some of those friends have severed their bonds with you because of her, but if you manage to find at least one who hasn't it will make you feel so much better. I'll leave up to you if you want to try it or not.

Life will give you a second chance, I'm sure of it. Don't give up now, it's a difficult age and as someone who has passed it I reassure you it will get better.
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That...Really sucks, Makalya. I don't understand why people do that to others. I mean; you're the polar opposite of a buzzkill, for starters. And I think you will be better off without somebody like that around you anyway. This stuff is never fun. But...It is what it is. Try to focus on the friends you do have, that's how I deal with it.

Stay rad, you hip memester. T^T
That...Really sucks, Makalya. I don't understand why people do that to others. I mean; you're the polar opposite of a buzzkill, for starters. And I think you will be better off without somebody like that around you anyway. This stuff is never fun. But...It is what it is. Try to focus on the friends you do have, that's how I deal with it.

Stay rad, you hip memester. T^T
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Yeah, friends do that. I should know, I've had people on this site, whom I thought I was friends with turn out to be jerks.

I know this pain. It hurts. Not much else to say about it, other than it IS something shocking once it happens. Lifetime friends do last longer than a few years, but as time goes on, people can start to put their buddies on the back burner.

I actually am pretty careful about who I actually call a friend. If they want to hang out with me, and ping me on steam every once in a while, then I know they actually care. If I always have to contact them, and they aren't a superior on some level, then that's probably just me looking for someone to bother rather than them actually appreciating my company. Different people view that differently though.

I actually have a lot of people who contact me who aren't on the same level. They probably value me as a friend, more than I do them. But you know what? I always treat them nicely and make sure they're never ostracized.

Then there are the real special friendships whom I care about a lot. I think it's sill silly that people say we should love everyone equally, when some relationships ARE that much more special than others.

I know this sort of thing sucks. But all I can really say is to suck it up. . . reflect on it as much as you need too, and then move on. In time you'll find people who are really worth caring about. For me, most of those people are online. But I do know people IRL whom I get along with and who've actually sought me out at Smash Tournaments. Getting connected with other video gamers IRL helped with the friend aspect a lot. XD

Hope this helps.

Yeah, friends do that. I should know, I've had people on this site, whom I thought I was friends with turn out to be jerks.

I know this pain. It hurts. Not much else to say about it, other than it IS something shocking once it happens. Lifetime friends do last longer than a few years, but as time goes on, people can start to put their buddies on the back burner.

I actually am pretty careful about who I actually call a friend. If they want to hang out with me, and ping me on steam every once in a while, then I know they actually care. If I always have to contact them, and they aren't a superior on some level, then that's probably just me looking for someone to bother rather than them actually appreciating my company. Different people view that differently though.

I actually have a lot of people who contact me who aren't on the same level. They probably value me as a friend, more than I do them. But you know what? I always treat them nicely and make sure they're never ostracized.

Then there are the real special friendships whom I care about a lot. I think it's sill silly that people say we should love everyone equally, when some relationships ARE that much more special than others.

I know this sort of thing sucks. But all I can really say is to suck it up. . . reflect on it as much as you need too, and then move on. In time you'll find people who are really worth caring about. For me, most of those people are online. But I do know people IRL whom I get along with and who've actually sought me out at Smash Tournaments. Getting connected with other video gamers IRL helped with the friend aspect a lot. XD

Hope this helps.

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See what I told you? You've got some wonderful people behind you. And you'll have me, too. No matter what situation between the two of us. You know we're both in very similar piles of s*** and I'd rather not type it out right now but you know I'm here, because I love you. And all of these people are here for you, too.
See what I told you? You've got some wonderful people behind you. And you'll have me, too. No matter what situation between the two of us. You know we're both in very similar piles of s*** and I'd rather not type it out right now but you know I'm here, because I love you. And all of these people are here for you, too.
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Didn't see this thread until just now. I have to go to bed soon so I'll make this quick -

Like Gal said, we are all here to support you. I remember when I was going through some tough times, and when I got home from school, I went directly to my computer to check Vizzed. I still do that sometimes.

Some people may have problems with this site, even though I disagree with those people in some aspects of that statement, but that's for another thread. You can't deny that Vizzed has one of the best, if not the best communities you will ever find on the internet.

So just remember, we are your friends, too. Sure, we may not live next to each other and we may haven't seen each other in person before, but all of us are your friend still. If you ever need any help, Vizzed is here, and so are your friends.

I hope this situation gets resolved soon. Let us know what happens in the future.
Didn't see this thread until just now. I have to go to bed soon so I'll make this quick -

Like Gal said, we are all here to support you. I remember when I was going through some tough times, and when I got home from school, I went directly to my computer to check Vizzed. I still do that sometimes.

Some people may have problems with this site, even though I disagree with those people in some aspects of that statement, but that's for another thread. You can't deny that Vizzed has one of the best, if not the best communities you will ever find on the internet.

So just remember, we are your friends, too. Sure, we may not live next to each other and we may haven't seen each other in person before, but all of us are your friend still. If you ever need any help, Vizzed is here, and so are your friends.

I hope this situation gets resolved soon. Let us know what happens in the future.
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Makalya : Take this from someone who went through some of the same things you have. People grow apart sometimes, it's something that happens and even if you don't like it, it will happen. The best thing to do is let your friend go, eventually you will find new friends and you won't be so alone anymore. Sorry if I am not explaining this well, but just take my advice ok?

Hope I helped ^^
Makalya : Take this from someone who went through some of the same things you have. People grow apart sometimes, it's something that happens and even if you don't like it, it will happen. The best thing to do is let your friend go, eventually you will find new friends and you won't be so alone anymore. Sorry if I am not explaining this well, but just take my advice ok?

Hope I helped ^^
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i'd like to thank you guys for expressing your concern and sharing some of your stories. it felt good to know that people actually cared and knew what i was going through. 
i'm slowly getting better, in case you guys were wondering. i cried about it for a good two days, but then i decided to focus on some of my better friends and also try being more open to new friendships. 
i've really grown from this experience, and learned a valuable lesson: just because you've known somebody for a while, doesn't mean they're a good friend and it's okay to let toxic people go. 
as for you guys who have shared some stories with me, i really genuinely hope things are getting better for you. and if not, then they will. life is temporary, and you fabulous people deserve some fabulous friends. and if you need anybody to talk to, then i'm here! send me a pm on vizzed or wherever you have me on and we can talk about it.
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i'd like to thank you guys for expressing your concern and sharing some of your stories. it felt good to know that people actually cared and knew what i was going through. 
i'm slowly getting better, in case you guys were wondering. i cried about it for a good two days, but then i decided to focus on some of my better friends and also try being more open to new friendships. 
i've really grown from this experience, and learned a valuable lesson: just because you've known somebody for a while, doesn't mean they're a good friend and it's okay to let toxic people go. 
as for you guys who have shared some stories with me, i really genuinely hope things are getting better for you. and if not, then they will. life is temporary, and you fabulous people deserve some fabulous friends. and if you need anybody to talk to, then i'm here! send me a pm on vizzed or wherever you have me on and we can talk about it.
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Threads like this are my favourite. Not because of how your friend has treated you, because that's truly heartbreaking, but because sad times like these are when you get to see how supportive and encouraging this community really is. No matter what, you've got friends in us.

I'm struggling with a couple friendships that seem to have ended in similar ways. To clarify, one looks like it's ending (one of my closest friendships for the past 4 years), and I still have no closure from the abrupt end to the best friendship I've ever had. All that to say, I know how you feel, and I'm another shoulder to lean on.

It does get easier, but not when you convince yourself that they're so terrible. It gets easier when you realize that your identity isn't based on your friendship with your friend. This broken friendship is not what defines you. It's how you pick up the pieces that shows who you really are, and that someone is strong enough to be 'ok' again.

Pick up the pieces, keep a few, but leave them on a shelf. They're not part of your life anymore, but they're good reminders of how sweet friendships can be (and how abruptly they can end). Look at the pieces often. Value them because they remind you of the good times, the hard times, and everything in between. That friendship mattered, it will always be a part of you. Remember it, don't shut it out, but don't let it define who you are. You're bigger than any one other person, or any one relationship.
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Threads like this are my favourite. Not because of how your friend has treated you, because that's truly heartbreaking, but because sad times like these are when you get to see how supportive and encouraging this community really is. No matter what, you've got friends in us.

I'm struggling with a couple friendships that seem to have ended in similar ways. To clarify, one looks like it's ending (one of my closest friendships for the past 4 years), and I still have no closure from the abrupt end to the best friendship I've ever had. All that to say, I know how you feel, and I'm another shoulder to lean on.

It does get easier, but not when you convince yourself that they're so terrible. It gets easier when you realize that your identity isn't based on your friendship with your friend. This broken friendship is not what defines you. It's how you pick up the pieces that shows who you really are, and that someone is strong enough to be 'ok' again.

Pick up the pieces, keep a few, but leave them on a shelf. They're not part of your life anymore, but they're good reminders of how sweet friendships can be (and how abruptly they can end). Look at the pieces often. Value them because they remind you of the good times, the hard times, and everything in between. That friendship mattered, it will always be a part of you. Remember it, don't shut it out, but don't let it define who you are. You're bigger than any one other person, or any one relationship.
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This reply is a little late but better late than never I suppose (I tell myself anyway) I just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear that 1v1 me on toontown Okay being serious for a moment I've been through similar situations in the past and I started having similar thoughts, it sucks but there's not always much you can do about it, people just grow apart, and some people would rather do that, you just have to move on from it. Like you said, it's something you grow and learn from. That aside as others have emphasised don't think you're alone, we're all behind you.
This reply is a little late but better late than never I suppose (I tell myself anyway) I just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear that 1v1 me on toontown Okay being serious for a moment I've been through similar situations in the past and I started having similar thoughts, it sucks but there's not always much you can do about it, people just grow apart, and some people would rather do that, you just have to move on from it. Like you said, it's something you grow and learn from. That aside as others have emphasised don't think you're alone, we're all behind you.
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That's too bad that something like that happened to you.  Usually it's something that's been happening where one person recognizes a change in a relationship and the other person doesn't.

And it might make you feel better to assign blame, "It's not my fault" or "It's my fault" but in reality... it just happened.  That's it.  

I don't know what you're looking for, if anything.  You're just getting your feelings out, that's good.  You didn't get any kind of closure so you don't understand what happened.  That's bad because you can't make any changes in other relationships.  But this one person's reality isn't the same as others so you may have bothered her by doing or saying something and that same action wouldn't affect other people.

It's too bad it happened.  I'm sorry.  If it were me, I'd text, email, call, whatever, one more time, and say, "I don't know what I did or said to make you feel like this but I'm sorry.  I just tried to be your friend." and then leave her alone and don't contact her again.

Maybe that will get an answer.  You are never wrong apologizing and that often puts the other person in a position where they feel like they need to respond.

Either way, I'm sorry for your loss.
That's too bad that something like that happened to you.  Usually it's something that's been happening where one person recognizes a change in a relationship and the other person doesn't.

And it might make you feel better to assign blame, "It's not my fault" or "It's my fault" but in reality... it just happened.  That's it.  

I don't know what you're looking for, if anything.  You're just getting your feelings out, that's good.  You didn't get any kind of closure so you don't understand what happened.  That's bad because you can't make any changes in other relationships.  But this one person's reality isn't the same as others so you may have bothered her by doing or saying something and that same action wouldn't affect other people.

It's too bad it happened.  I'm sorry.  If it were me, I'd text, email, call, whatever, one more time, and say, "I don't know what I did or said to make you feel like this but I'm sorry.  I just tried to be your friend." and then leave her alone and don't contact her again.

Maybe that will get an answer.  You are never wrong apologizing and that often puts the other person in a position where they feel like they need to respond.

Either way, I'm sorry for your loss.
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Good to hear that you're now doing better. Some people only want you as friends for what you have, not for who you are. That's probably what happened in that friendship before the person suddenly wasn't interested in being your friend anymore.

Everyone changes something about themselves, especially throughout high school. I used to have a really close friend who I'd get to hang out with almost every day and back then I was one of the few friends he had. Now he has a ton of friends (and a girlfriend, which is the thing he said would happen to him last) and I got left in the dust. My mom arranged for me and him to hang out at a restaurant, just me and him, so we could possibly reconnect and become friends again.

Instead, he brought his mischievous friend with him and that ruined the whole point. We had fun during that night, but now things are right back to how they were before. He's never really seemed interested in hanging out with me anyway. He never texts me unless I text him first, and he says hi to me in the hallway, but then continues walking and not saying anything. Also, even though his other friend can just ride the bus, he said he can only take one friend home and he chose the other guy. So everything's changed, and I keep debating whether or not I should just move on.
Good to hear that you're now doing better. Some people only want you as friends for what you have, not for who you are. That's probably what happened in that friendship before the person suddenly wasn't interested in being your friend anymore.

Everyone changes something about themselves, especially throughout high school. I used to have a really close friend who I'd get to hang out with almost every day and back then I was one of the few friends he had. Now he has a ton of friends (and a girlfriend, which is the thing he said would happen to him last) and I got left in the dust. My mom arranged for me and him to hang out at a restaurant, just me and him, so we could possibly reconnect and become friends again.

Instead, he brought his mischievous friend with him and that ruined the whole point. We had fun during that night, but now things are right back to how they were before. He's never really seemed interested in hanging out with me anyway. He never texts me unless I text him first, and he says hi to me in the hallway, but then continues walking and not saying anything. Also, even though his other friend can just ride the bus, he said he can only take one friend home and he chose the other guy. So everything's changed, and I keep debating whether or not I should just move on.
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