Trust - is a thing that I don't let people gain from me a lot of times. I have trusted many whether it be online or in real life and the next thing I know they backstab me or break my heart in numerous amounts of ways. Some say do you trust to easily because of my past relationships.. I do a lot of online dating because I believe that I have a shot at finding my true love one day.


I just got out of a terrible online relationship that I was in for several months. We were together 4 months and then we broke up then we got together for about a month and I broke it off because every time we got off the phone I would cry because of how controlling and abusive he was to me.


Yes I trusted him.. it was kind of hard showing it though because of the way he acted and treated me. When your in a relationship with somebody whether it be friendship or romance your suppose to be there for the person your with.


Your not suppose to let them down and tear them apart. Trust is something I have earned with many people because I keep secrets and I have never revealed any of what somebody has told me and let's just say that range's from about 100- 1000 secrets in my life. I keep all of your secrets so why would you somebody who is suppose to be my friend go off and tell mine?

You are suppose to keep that secret and when that bond is broken it is pretty hard to gain it back from that person. I don't trust easy now.. I have just really met the wrong people probably at the wrong time.

Trust means everything to me and once you earn that from me just know that you are somebody who is special to me and I would hope that you would honor that thought.


Respect is somewhat easier to gain from me or in people in general. Most people don't have to sit around trying to prove themselves with me because I see through a lot of what that person is saying or is trying to explain.


I have a lot of understanding when it comes to respecting people and others respecting me. A lot of times I had no respect for anybody at my younger ages.

I would yell and put others down because I simply didn't know what respect was and I was out of control. A lot of times now people try to prove themselves to me after they went and messed up and I lost respect for them.


I give second chances yes I think everyone should. If you break that second chance though it's kind of hard to give you a 3rd shot. I have learned from my mistakes and I see that when somebody breaks the second chance they repeat themselves over and over.

Respect is something that is easily earned by treating people with kindness and not putting them down. Bringing them up when they are feeling sad and forget full and really just want to give up at times. When this happens they become negative and may show less respect for some.

I understand this because I went through it. A lot of people were there for me but I was hurting a lot and I showed litter by litter respect for people. As I grew older I learned that it wasn't right and what I was doing was wrong.

To gain respect and trust from someone I believe one must be honest at all times and in all situations.  Without honesty there can be no trust and without trust there can be no respect.  Such a simple thing, but lots of people find it difficult or impossible to apply this in their lives.

Once trust is broken it is very very hard to gain that back in a person. Sometimes it might take years to gain it back and sometimes it is never gained back.  

Its sad in today's world that one must be on guard most all the time to make sure they are being lied to, deceived or being mistreated by someone that they thought was a honest person, someone that they had a lot of respect for and that they could trust in all things.

I feel this is the entire truth concerning these objectives and I would hope that others felt the same way. I hope to apply trust in others more aware and careful now. I don't want to get hurt again.



Bintsy<33

Trust....its hard for me to give out mine, so I understand what you said here. As before I never trusted people to me before people were strangers to me. I never trusted anyone when I first came to this site. You are right trust is very hard to give out. Because you could never know when someone can hurt you. Without them knowing it or. With them knowing it. I still am like that now....I have who I trust and who to give it to. I've had some friends hurt me...but we would always sort it out. Trusted, is something you should never play with. It could break someones heart. Knowing all they have done for that person and trusted them too as well. And giving out respect as well is something you should always, and I mean always take to consideration about it. Respect is not easy given out, its earned.

Bintsy : nice post and thread

good post um trust well i don't really trust anybody

Trust is a very complicated subject for me. What I mean by that is.... I don't trust very easily either, however, once I do trust someone, I tend to give them TOO many chances. That's the problem I'm having with trust. I've been told many times, I'm too nice when it comes to friendships.

Bintsy : Very good thread topic. Thanks for sharing that with us.

Trust is a tough one.  It's not fair for you to be distrustful of a person because your past had failures in it.  If you don't trust anyone because of some other people, you're giving no one a fair shot at getting to know you.  As I meet and develop relationships with people, I trust everyone equally at first.  Just because one person broke my trust and made me question or end our relationship doesn't mean the other people I know will do the same.

Each person is different and should be treated different.  One guy is not the same as all the others so please don't discount anyone new because of the old.  That's not fair to them or to yourself.  One of the greatest feelings in the world is to explicitly trust someone and be completely trusted by them.  It takes a tremendous amount of love for yourself to trust others and that may be the toughest part.

Respect is different for me too.  People start out with trust and they can lose it.  I don't respect people until they prove themselves again and again that they are competent, capable, aware, and make good decisions.  Everyone starts out with a level 0 respect and a level 100 trust.  Their decision making and what they do as time goes on affects those numbers.

I've had a family member in an abusive relationship so I can understand how you could be hurting. Trust is never something you earn easily. I'm a really naive person so I tend to just trust everyone really. I won't lie it's given me problems before. The way I see it trust leads to respect. If you can keep someone's trust and they see that it leads to respect and respect leads to a stronger relationship. Not that I would really know much on this matter but that's my ideal. I can relate to you when it come to putting others down. I have anger issues and sometimes I just like to be in control of the situations. Sometimes it turns out well other times...not so much. Being naive isn't really a bad thing, I find it better and healthier than being someone who trusts no one.