Flibbith : Well i am pretty shallow about girls, if a girl is either fat but pretty or skinny and ugly i would still date them but this girl is large and not so good looking so even though she is nice i wouldn't date her. Did i say i am shallow? I am a nice guy but a little choosey.

I hope nobody catches me sandwitching.

I have had a girl that has tried to impress me with the things that she has brought me. I liked the things that she got me but I couldn't keep getting stuff from her and I really didn't like her as much as she like me, so I gave her all the stuff back and told her how I felt about the situation.

Nope.  I don't except gifts from random people.

I have experienced this, but it's never worked - nobody has dated me or got in my pants because they were loaded. XD

I actually have some male friends who buy me things frequently... I don't expect it, they insist on it. They know they're in the "friend zone" and have no chance - they tell me they want to have a good time and make me happy when we hang out, so I'm not going to complain. 0=)

Everyone buys a relationship, the food you eat together and movies you to watch cost money. How about when you get married? The rings and wedding isn't free. How about when you have a baby? That also costs tons of money. How about when you get divorced? Say good bye to 50% of your cash and pay child support.

Relationships are not free, they are expensive. Maybe you can pretend its free but at some point or another you are going to have to pay money to see and be with one another, pay money to eat with one another, pay for presents during valentines day and their bdays and christmas. Oh and how can I forget, paying for anniversaries and renewal weddings

Maybe its them trying to be nice or does every gift have to imply sexual favors in return? If so, it must be odd getting presents from your parents and relatives lol.

Annette : Thanks for responding Annette
, come to think of it i don't think i ever got anywhere buying stuff for girls either. People either like me or they don't. Again appreciate the post , i always like reading what you have to say, oh and jigsaw makes a pretty good point too haha.

Well, I've never had this experience, or any other for that matter....

And although JigSaw makes a good point about life and the way the world works, JigSaw seems to have missed the point of buying into initial affection, which shouldn't be the case. Obviously the traditional first date would be someone paying for dinner or something, but that's different trying to impress someone with gifts alone.

This has never happened to me. Though if a guy was doing this to me to get in my pants.. it wouldn't work.. I'm alot smarter than that. If he was doing it because he liked me thats a different story but.. you never know with people.

My brother used to do that for girls he liked, the unfortunate thing is the lack of honesty people have in the situation. If you're not interested, you don't have to be mean in the rejection yet being honest is the best policy. You lead a person on because they are nice and you can enjoy the lovely things they can provide you when you know you'll end up saying "let's be friends" which is kind of silly when you think about it.

Some people avoid saying it because they like the feeling of being pampered and will come to expect things out of this newly formed habit. Anyway, I practice the complete opposite and make sure that I go Dutch on my dates in order to find a real connection and if someone happens to be interested I would be honest and extend friendship right off the bat. I would personally feel like a jerk for accepting something while being unable to reciprocate the desired affection. That's my 2 cents.

-AoD

It also happened to me, but I don't have interest at her cause she's too young back then.

One girl tried to impress me once by having some silly original pressing of the Descendents album that neither of us actually cared about but I followed her home anyway and listend to the first half of the record. I think.

I wouldn't worry about it, you could just feign ignorance as if you just thought she was a nice neighbor who knew you had a sweet tooth, that way she doesn't feel awkward around you and you get free cookies , never turn down free cookies!!

Never happened to me and I don't think I will ever use someone's money for any selfish reason it might bite me back later on.

It really never happen to me nether, It really depends on what you're doing, like of you go out it's pretty much you or the person your with paying for it all, or you pay have and him/her pays the other half, as for gifts, a lot does do that, like get a lot of gifts for him or her, So more likely yeah, but it depends on what kind of relationship you want.

This had happened to me when my little 4-year old cousin started giving me some sorts of candies and chocolates. He said he wanted me to become his sister and ask his parents to adopt me, and I replied to him, "Isn't it enough for you that you had me as your full cousin already?"

jlh : Not really… I do know of a few friends of mine who have kind of done the same thing that this neighbor did for you. One of my friends was supposedly going to move to a different state years back and she went as far as throwing a going away party for herself. She brought all the goodies and supplies and brought the space at a restaurant to have the party.

Most of her “Friends” are the type that are only around her when they need something. Either if they need money or whatever she can give them at the time but when she doesn’t have anything to give most of them are nowhere to be found. It’s sad frankly. I didn’t go to the “Party” because among other things I was probably one of the few people who told her the truth and told her that these people weren’t really friends and such. She never moved and unfortunately she has pretty much continued the same pattern as she did years ago. Any time she gets money instead of doing the responsible thing and saving it, she’ll go out and splurge it on whatever “Friend” is around her at the time or the latest “Johnny come lately” that sweet talks her.

Although I am still friends with her I try to keep a distance because unfortunately it seems as though no matter what I say to her that it doesn’t register with her and at almost thirty years old; I simply have reached a point where I cannot spend my time trying to convince someone who is only a few years younger than me to grow up. It’s a lesson everyone has to learn eventually. Learning from mistakes is one thing, putting lessons into practice however is a different story. I realize that some may think that is a bit cold to say but that is how I feel.

I hope that eventually she’ll get the wakeup call she needs and will get those people who I refer to as leeches out of her life and finally straighten up. I wish her nothing but the best but it’s just a scenario where I have said pretty much all I can say, as many times as I can say it. It’s up to her now.

um some people try to buy our friendship but they have to earn it  how do you earn it i dont knew i dont have friends in the real world  there no one that care to earn my friendship  but i have friends here