I was testing in the RGR the other day, as per my job, and I was apparently so into it that I didn't notice my grandmother coming in behind to watch me test. She spoke after a while, and had a tone of concern in her voice.

She said that the way I was doing things lately, whether it be eating, watching tv, or surfing the internet, made me look almost less human, she said I sort of resembled a robot, because I was apparently showing a lack of emotion doing everything.

I went into chat the other day with 4 anonymous people, and after a petty argument got out of hand I finally showed an emotion, one that grandma didn't like. This emotion was anger. Which was apparently very visible.

So according to her, the only emotions I show are stoic, angry, and the very rare content from when I do something in a video game.

I have looked into anger management to control my anger, but once it goes, I fear I will just have two modes, stoic, and content.

It's made me think that maybe I really am a mess of a person, because I seem incapable of showing much for positive emotions, although when it comes to anger, I am very good at showing it.

So does this make me a bad person, because the only emotions I show often are anger and the stoic stony face my grandmother is used to? Is there any advice to maybe get me to smile more? I don't want to be without emotion, especially since that's what used to make me who I was. And not just a machine of a person who follows his schedule every day.

legacyme3 : I've never met you in reality so I wouldn't know if you were a bad type of person. You're completely fine in the chat room, and your posts aren't hurtful or disrespectful to anyone. It's normal to get angry at infuriating things, or to get gratification by accomplishing something in your mind's eye.
I could suggest maybe, that while looking up on anger management or trying to solve the problem on your own, that you could try appearing happier around your grandmother to make her feel better. You don't necessarily have to be happy, but it could maybe cheer up your grandmother until you figure out the solution.

Eh. I can relate somewhat. I'm always content. A smile never caresses this lips, but I'm not an angry person. I'm kind and what not. What helps me get a smile is funny videos I watch on Youtube and just chat in chat rooms with some friends. Though I don't know what you do, but try getting off the computer and go hang out with some friends. Have a good time. I don't know if it's much help with my small advise, but at least I try. :p

well i dont know you in real life. but it sounds like you've been devoured by video games. let me explain. based on what you said, you're worry is that you're a bad person because you can get really focused on what you're doing. however. i truly think that this is not the case. you are not a bad person. you just need to get out more. and i mean that in an advise sort of way, not the "get the hell off of you're computer" sort of way. maybe you need a break or a vacation to remind you of the more important things in life. liiiiikkkkeee not computers. let me know if this helps at all.






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owlflame : The thing is, I'm not even addicted to them, I go outside for a few hours every day, and I go running. Running has always been one of my biggest hobbies, and I have medals from when I was in high school running at state championships.

I get out plenty, and I spend the rest of my free time eating, relaxing, or on a computer.

I do not think that necessarily makes you a bad person. Just one with a smaller emotional range on a daily basis, which is perfectly okay. On the other end of the spectrum are people crying one minute, laughing the next, and sound completely crazy. I was sorta like that, but after I started talking a lot with others in real life it went away. Try making new friends, and actually talk to other people, it makes you express emotions more outwardly so others know what you mean. On the Internet I can say I'm mad or I'm happy with or without even showing emotion in real life. That's just what I'd think as a solution.

Te it from the resident automaton, Leggy. There is nothing wrong with being slightyly robotic. Heck, I am and I still survive day in and day out. Maybe emotions are wrong, and being robotic is right. We cannot determine that.

But, as I've said before, somewhere, somehow, we're all robotic in some fashion, some more than others. And the flip-side: We're all hum4n, too.

Try to find a medium like I did.

Stats:
99% J4ZZZzzZZ
1% "Human"

well im not sure what to say. although im not really one to talk, a good life is not roboticly sitting in front of a computer. i dont have many pieces of advice at this point. but i just want to leave on the note. that you are not a bad person. on the contrary. i think you're cool. and im not sure anger managment is the "quick fix" you need right now. maybe you should just go chill with friends. and if you already do... do it more . ps hope that emoticon right there helped

no your not a bad person because 1. you are wonder if your a bad person a bad person would care and 2.your action are bad per say the worst thing you did was get angry you did hit or scream at someone did you?
as for advice i can really say because most people say im to happy sometimes but i do have a temper which is hard for me to keep so you can try hitting something like a punching bag

well, I wouldn't say you were bad. Just keep playing games, and reality in balance. Remember, playing games (and posting) can be fun, but don't let that be your life, let the real world be it


p.s. you seem not bad here on vizzed, so don't think your evil or horrible

No you are not a bad person because everyone eats, watches TV, and surf the internet mostly everyday. There is nothing wrong with doing what you do.

YOU?! (laughs) first of all, you were a local mod. I truly bad person wouldn't even be trusted. Second, no one here hates you. I sure the hell don't.

pieman9 :

That's nice, but there's a few people who rather dislike me

And who are they? Dumb*** spammers that don't know anything about you?

pieman9 : not at liberty to say, but it's a member who has been here longer than I have. Lame person anyway =3

I don't think having few positive emotions make you a bad person by nature. There's nothing morally wrong with being stoic. It just makes you a more serious & harder to please person, in my opinion. But not a bad one.

Well I don't know you in real life but, Since I'v been here , I think your a really cool person and sometimes your posts make me laugh or giggle lol. But just because you may be angry more than you are happy or positive in life does not make you a bad person one bit. I understand where your coming from though cause I used to be in your same position .. I thought I was a bad person cause I was rarley happy and if I was I was like laughing histricaly or being crazy minded and stuff and would stay angry alot. Not saying that your not happy I was just saying I wasn't happy and never acted it. I Think your a cool person because you throw things out there like they are and reveal the real truth of the situation which is amusing to me.

All in all I don't think your a bad person.

People are just so ignorant to us nice people. We all should be treated with respect on Vizzed.

legacyme3 : Correct me I get off topic.

I agree with Annette that expressing few emotions does not make you a bad person. I will mention that some people, such as myself, will become concerned for you, but it is not a bad thing to be stoic every now and then.

Sometimes it can be a good thing to notto be moved by what happens around us. I have been constantly wracked with angry and sorrow by everything I have seen in this world; I have been too emotional for my own good. I almost can't stop thinking about the lack of understanding people have between each other, and I have been focused on it too much.

As far as advice goes... to bring out of you (for lack of better words) some of the more preferred emotions, just surround yourself with people who care for you. Talking to them may just be the least you need --add me and send a PM if you want to. And have a good laugh every so often --thecasualty's near-identical post might be a good place to get started.