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i got embaressed in school how to recover

 

08-26-16 09:03 AM
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Hi guys this week has to be the worst week ever today in Monday I missed school cause somebody soaked my outfit Tuesday was okay Wednesday some kid told me I was useless and didn't belong in school in geometry and told me I was dumb I was super upset and glared at him until the teacher tried to calm me down. Thursday I miss school because I was sick. But today oh today Friday I didn't have much to wear so I thought I put something new right. I go up to school right at 8:30 everybody was looking at my shoes I though I was rocking them or something then my cousin walked up to and asked why are you wearing two different shoes I looked down and there they were I was so embarrassed so then I just walked my self home skipping 1st period. I don't know how to recover from this I can use anybodies help.

I don't like being embarrassed after Wednesday and Thursday I had a mental breakdown cause that was very bad I really don't like being embarrassed please help me?  im gonna wait until 2nd period to go back lucky for me we have a short day today. the reasons i have mental breakdowns is because i get depress Time to time im not strange or anything a lot of people like me and a lot of people don't like me for no reason im not trying to be popular nor am i trying to fit in im just trying to be me. oh yeah don't worry i actually went to school today.

Hi guys this week has to be the worst week ever today in Monday I missed school cause somebody soaked my outfit Tuesday was okay Wednesday some kid told me I was useless and didn't belong in school in geometry and told me I was dumb I was super upset and glared at him until the teacher tried to calm me down. Thursday I miss school because I was sick. But today oh today Friday I didn't have much to wear so I thought I put something new right. I go up to school right at 8:30 everybody was looking at my shoes I though I was rocking them or something then my cousin walked up to and asked why are you wearing two different shoes I looked down and there they were I was so embarrassed so then I just walked my self home skipping 1st period. I don't know how to recover from this I can use anybodies help.

I don't like being embarrassed after Wednesday and Thursday I had a mental breakdown cause that was very bad I really don't like being embarrassed please help me?  im gonna wait until 2nd period to go back lucky for me we have a short day today. the reasons i have mental breakdowns is because i get depress Time to time im not strange or anything a lot of people like me and a lot of people don't like me for no reason im not trying to be popular nor am i trying to fit in im just trying to be me. oh yeah don't worry i actually went to school today.

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Remember that it doesn't matter what people say or think. So you put on the wrong shoes, big deal. If people are going to make a federal case about it, they're not worth listening to anyway. Just ignore them, it won't be fun to pick on you if they don't know if they're upsetting you.

I'm always super self conscious, but I just have to remember that it's all just a game for them. They only pick on you because they think it's fun, not because you did anything to deserve it. They can say anything they want, but that doesn't mean it's true. Just be yourself and enjoy yourself in spite of them and it won't even matter.
Remember that it doesn't matter what people say or think. So you put on the wrong shoes, big deal. If people are going to make a federal case about it, they're not worth listening to anyway. Just ignore them, it won't be fun to pick on you if they don't know if they're upsetting you.

I'm always super self conscious, but I just have to remember that it's all just a game for them. They only pick on you because they think it's fun, not because you did anything to deserve it. They can say anything they want, but that doesn't mean it's true. Just be yourself and enjoy yourself in spite of them and it won't even matter.
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Sorry to hear about this....the last thing you want is to be embarrassed in school. Things like this...can tend to happen to different type of people. These people if they are not considerate of your feelings don't bother to go near them at all. Fang you will have to face your fears, and the only way to do them is to walk with your head held high, ignoring those who laughed at you for no reason. Running, and hiding won't solve the problem. Think on this please you are your own person, and special too. Don't let what happen let you down ok? All things are possible it may not be easy to heal but try.
Sorry to hear about this....the last thing you want is to be embarrassed in school. Things like this...can tend to happen to different type of people. These people if they are not considerate of your feelings don't bother to go near them at all. Fang you will have to face your fears, and the only way to do them is to walk with your head held high, ignoring those who laughed at you for no reason. Running, and hiding won't solve the problem. Think on this please you are your own person, and special too. Don't let what happen let you down ok? All things are possible it may not be easy to heal but try.
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In a week no one will remember or care what happened. You'll be the only one who'll still be thinking about it.

Make sure your shoes match, get your homework done, and keep things moving. If you don't mention it again and try to forget, everyone else will have moved on to something else. So, don't worry. Most of those kids will not care by Monday. It's not a big deal and they're already worried about other things.

That's how you recover. Wear the same shoes and clean clothes from here on out. Be careful you don't have things spilled on you.
In a week no one will remember or care what happened. You'll be the only one who'll still be thinking about it.

Make sure your shoes match, get your homework done, and keep things moving. If you don't mention it again and try to forget, everyone else will have moved on to something else. So, don't worry. Most of those kids will not care by Monday. It's not a big deal and they're already worried about other things.

That's how you recover. Wear the same shoes and clean clothes from here on out. Be careful you don't have things spilled on you.
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Take it from me, I was bullied and humiliated a whole lot. Those kids don't matter, what they think or say means nothing. They have an effect on you because you give them importance. IGNORE them- laugh at them, Heck go back to school and wear two different color sucks and rock them. The only difference between cool kids and "average kids" is confidence. You need to understand that those people don't have any control on your emotions and only you allowed them to and by doing so you are giving them something to do every day so they can feel cool and can distract others from picking on them. Heck I am sure they have more to be made fun of - I don't encourage it but, stuck ups need it from time to time. They soaked you? Well bring a soda bottle and wait for the perfect chance and soak them and laugh loudly and point at them- show them how it feels for once. I wore a crazy outfit to school on purpose and realized how much people criticize and how fake my friends were. Be YOU- a stronger more confident version of you. If you keep leaving, or paying mind to these people and stare them down- get ready to spend the entire school year being bullied. They say something bad to you- laugh very loud like a maniac and say nice come  back douchebag. This is your life and your own experiences and only you can determine how they turn out,. Stand up for yourself and be the person you want to be nothing less. Don't feel bad about anything- heck I look back at the day I shaved one leg but not the other and was wearing a skirt- hilarious now but, not so then. but thing is all of these are important because you take them as such, have fun, be silly, spontaneous other kids will see that and stop bugging you and standing up for yourself will really change your school year. And if you get in trouble oh well what can they do? Nothing can kill you. Push forward- I am on your side you can do it!
Take it from me, I was bullied and humiliated a whole lot. Those kids don't matter, what they think or say means nothing. They have an effect on you because you give them importance. IGNORE them- laugh at them, Heck go back to school and wear two different color sucks and rock them. The only difference between cool kids and "average kids" is confidence. You need to understand that those people don't have any control on your emotions and only you allowed them to and by doing so you are giving them something to do every day so they can feel cool and can distract others from picking on them. Heck I am sure they have more to be made fun of - I don't encourage it but, stuck ups need it from time to time. They soaked you? Well bring a soda bottle and wait for the perfect chance and soak them and laugh loudly and point at them- show them how it feels for once. I wore a crazy outfit to school on purpose and realized how much people criticize and how fake my friends were. Be YOU- a stronger more confident version of you. If you keep leaving, or paying mind to these people and stare them down- get ready to spend the entire school year being bullied. They say something bad to you- laugh very loud like a maniac and say nice come  back douchebag. This is your life and your own experiences and only you can determine how they turn out,. Stand up for yourself and be the person you want to be nothing less. Don't feel bad about anything- heck I look back at the day I shaved one leg but not the other and was wearing a skirt- hilarious now but, not so then. but thing is all of these are important because you take them as such, have fun, be silly, spontaneous other kids will see that and stop bugging you and standing up for yourself will really change your school year. And if you get in trouble oh well what can they do? Nothing can kill you. Push forward- I am on your side you can do it!
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We all have bad days. Just remember that you are there to learn,not to impress the "cool" kids. Just do you,as the kids would say.

P.S. Please change your font color. It is hard to read blue text on a blue background.
We all have bad days. Just remember that you are there to learn,not to impress the "cool" kids. Just do you,as the kids would say.

P.S. Please change your font color. It is hard to read blue text on a blue background.
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First of all, let me say I echo Spidey's sentiments. You don't deserve to be bullied or humiliated, it's not your fault. I agree with what Ghostbear said, and some of what jlove said too. I, however, don't believe being a douchebag to them in response to them being that way to you is right. That basically puts you on the same level as them. Take the high road, dude. When someone insults me irl, I usually make a sarcastic, self-deprecating joke or something, and they usually leave me alone or they think I'm cool. I don't know if it'll work for you, but it's worth a shot. Try your best to avoid the things they make fun of you about, and if they still do, make a joke. I seriously doubt they'll continue harassing you if you do that, since it seems kinda weird to make fun of someone who is willing to make fun of themselves. 
First of all, let me say I echo Spidey's sentiments. You don't deserve to be bullied or humiliated, it's not your fault. I agree with what Ghostbear said, and some of what jlove said too. I, however, don't believe being a douchebag to them in response to them being that way to you is right. That basically puts you on the same level as them. Take the high road, dude. When someone insults me irl, I usually make a sarcastic, self-deprecating joke or something, and they usually leave me alone or they think I'm cool. I don't know if it'll work for you, but it's worth a shot. Try your best to avoid the things they make fun of you about, and if they still do, make a joke. I seriously doubt they'll continue harassing you if you do that, since it seems kinda weird to make fun of someone who is willing to make fun of themselves. 
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RDay13 : You know what's funny about this? The time I had that and years went by when I stopped going to school I had those the people who bullied me and humiliated me saw me on facebook and tried to friend me like they added me. What did I do? I didn't bother adding them back. Goes to show bullies will come around and see what wrong they have done and try to make it up with, that person whom they bullied so badly. It would either be way too late, or just the right moment for them to be forgiven.

fangsonic : violence doesn't always solve the answer. Trust me go with the advice's here and you will do fine. I am sure one day they will all realize how stupid they were towards you. Since you did nothing wrong.  
RDay13 : You know what's funny about this? The time I had that and years went by when I stopped going to school I had those the people who bullied me and humiliated me saw me on facebook and tried to friend me like they added me. What did I do? I didn't bother adding them back. Goes to show bullies will come around and see what wrong they have done and try to make it up with, that person whom they bullied so badly. It would either be way too late, or just the right moment for them to be forgiven.

fangsonic : violence doesn't always solve the answer. Trust me go with the advice's here and you will do fine. I am sure one day they will all realize how stupid they were towards you. Since you did nothing wrong.  
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I'm sorry you had a rough week at school. I'm sure we've all had those horrible times where we wish we could just disappear and forget it ever happened. As for your shoe issue, personally I would just own up to it like if anybody ever asked you why you came in two different shoes just be like, "I was up late gaming pretty hard and wasn't fully awake to care about what shoes I grabbed." Or just say "I was curious to see when someone would notice and let me know." Point is, don't give someone else the power to make you feel you are in the wrong. They can't make fun of you or ridicule you if you beat them to it. Feigning confidence can help you survive high school because then people will think things don't get to you and won't bother to make an effort in ridiculing you. You can of course choose the direct route and confront the people who ridicule you and fight them, that may or may not solve your issue but that  will just open up more problems for you. As for someone telling you that you aren't supposed to be here or that you are dumb, let your actions prove them wrong. Study hard for the first test, beat the people that said you shouldn't be here. All in all, don't let these kids get to you. In high school especially, kids are trying to one up each other and aim for the "popular kid" status for some reason. Ignore them, find your own group and be around people that accept you for who you are, they will help you survive the days of school and you will be glad for it.
I'm sorry you had a rough week at school. I'm sure we've all had those horrible times where we wish we could just disappear and forget it ever happened. As for your shoe issue, personally I would just own up to it like if anybody ever asked you why you came in two different shoes just be like, "I was up late gaming pretty hard and wasn't fully awake to care about what shoes I grabbed." Or just say "I was curious to see when someone would notice and let me know." Point is, don't give someone else the power to make you feel you are in the wrong. They can't make fun of you or ridicule you if you beat them to it. Feigning confidence can help you survive high school because then people will think things don't get to you and won't bother to make an effort in ridiculing you. You can of course choose the direct route and confront the people who ridicule you and fight them, that may or may not solve your issue but that  will just open up more problems for you. As for someone telling you that you aren't supposed to be here or that you are dumb, let your actions prove them wrong. Study hard for the first test, beat the people that said you shouldn't be here. All in all, don't let these kids get to you. In high school especially, kids are trying to one up each other and aim for the "popular kid" status for some reason. Ignore them, find your own group and be around people that accept you for who you are, they will help you survive the days of school and you will be glad for it.
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I think RDay made one of the best suggestions possible here (not to take anything away from everyone else, he just beat me to what I was going to say ).

Be willing to make fun of yourself for your mistakes or shortcomings, and the people trying to pick on you won't enjoy doing it anymore. If you can enjoy laughing at yourself, it takes away all the power they have (or rather, the power you're giving them). Their goal is to bring you down, so if you making a mistake or getting embarrassed is something you can laugh at and find humor in, they have no reason to keep making fun.

Even if you're faking it like Hanzo said, making fun of yourself, especially before anyone else gets the chance, pretty much ruins it for them. 
I think RDay made one of the best suggestions possible here (not to take anything away from everyone else, he just beat me to what I was going to say ).

Be willing to make fun of yourself for your mistakes or shortcomings, and the people trying to pick on you won't enjoy doing it anymore. If you can enjoy laughing at yourself, it takes away all the power they have (or rather, the power you're giving them). Their goal is to bring you down, so if you making a mistake or getting embarrassed is something you can laugh at and find humor in, they have no reason to keep making fun.

Even if you're faking it like Hanzo said, making fun of yourself, especially before anyone else gets the chance, pretty much ruins it for them. 
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fangsonic : Listen to me when I say that you really should not get so embarrassed, but in fact I recommend you embrace it. Perhaps say it was your bad and laugh it off, it may be embarrassing but it isn't that bad to be embarrassed. Take it from a guy who embarreses himself on a daily basis at school and just learn to see the good in it, like perhaps you should be happy that you make them  happy as making people laugh means makes them happy. Embrace your embarrassment and turn it into something funny, trust me when I say things are a lot better when you do that.
fangsonic : Listen to me when I say that you really should not get so embarrassed, but in fact I recommend you embrace it. Perhaps say it was your bad and laugh it off, it may be embarrassing but it isn't that bad to be embarrassed. Take it from a guy who embarreses himself on a daily basis at school and just learn to see the good in it, like perhaps you should be happy that you make them  happy as making people laugh means makes them happy. Embrace your embarrassment and turn it into something funny, trust me when I say things are a lot better when you do that.
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Meh, that's not really embarrassing. Compared to a lot of other people, you're fine. Like someone else said, no one will even care/remember in a weeks time. And If you're still unsure. Keep in mind I've went through stores with clothes inside out, and backwards. If you want advice, make fun of your mistake. Try to turn it into a few jokes maybe. 
Meh, that's not really embarrassing. Compared to a lot of other people, you're fine. Like someone else said, no one will even care/remember in a weeks time. And If you're still unsure. Keep in mind I've went through stores with clothes inside out, and backwards. If you want advice, make fun of your mistake. Try to turn it into a few jokes maybe. 
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Thanks guys for all of your replies it really helps out.
Thanks guys for all of your replies it really helps out.
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You kind of remind me of myself as a teen. Just remember, people only affect you as much as you let them.

One thing I wish I knew when I was in school is once you're out of school, it's done. The gossip, the cliquey-ness, the whole culture of it all - done. What matters is what you learn, and what you do with it - it's so cheesy, but it's true.
You kind of remind me of myself as a teen. Just remember, people only affect you as much as you let them.

One thing I wish I knew when I was in school is once you're out of school, it's done. The gossip, the cliquey-ness, the whole culture of it all - done. What matters is what you learn, and what you do with it - it's so cheesy, but it's true.
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If you want to talk embarrassing… You're talking to the girl that went to a dance wearing sneakers and jeans and actually got someone to dance with her (someone was kind and lent me a dress halfway through though, probably because they couldn't bear to watch it any longer rofl), wore different-colored socks all the time because she thought it was fun (at first, some people giggled but when I continued to wear different-colored socks for the entire year, they eventually thought I was testing my outfits so they stopped caring so much about it after they "realized" what I was doing), and tried on all sorts of crazy accessories including cutting up some of her clothes and hair to see what she could do with them. Some of my classmates probably thought I was crazy at first, but since it seemed like I knew what I was doing (ahaha right~~ rofl), they didn't bother me about it, only complimented me whenever something actually did end up looking nice.

Here's something you can do the next time you think all eyes are on you: When you're in front of the entire class and right before you open your mouth to say anything, pause for a bit and just look around. By that, I mean really LOOK at what everyone sitting in front of you is doing. (You don't even have to make eye contact.) Who is doodling and drawing? Who is yawning and pretending to be awake? Who is looking at you, but actually silently rehearsing their own speech? Who are the ones passing notes? Who are the ones secretly poking at their phones/tablets? Is anyone even looking at you? Pay close attention and count the number of people that actually appear to be waiting for you to say something. You might find that less than 50% of the class is actually listening to you at any given time. If you give a great presentation, the ones that are awake will stop what they're doing just to listen to you, but there will still be those that are not quite mentally there. If you do this enough times, you may eventually (or suddenly) experience a sense of calmness and that's when you've probably moved beyond your own fear. For me, it felt like I became someone else, although I was obviously still me. On that day, I felt as if I was seeing the world clearly for the first time, and it really made me laugh at how silly I had been all along. People don't care all that much, but at the same time they care too much. The ones who will be wrapped up in their own little worlds will be too wrapped up to notice you, and the ones that care about what's going on around them will notice you but if they think they're going to end up scaring you, some of them might not end up trying to approach you at all. After all, who said you had to be the only one that's scared of being rejected? Then there are those that will approach you just because they don't want to appear to be scared. If they are bullies, they'll generally want a reaction from you, so one of the best ways to get rid of them is to give them none. Another way to keep the bullies away is to join a large group (make sure it's a good one though) or create your own so that you have others who can also back you up so that you're never alone.

As for your studies, as long as you keep up with your schoolwork and do well in your classes, you should be fine. If you get mired in the details, you're going to end up missing the big picture. Popularity in the future will often be defined by your financial portfolio anyways. Don't do drugs, don't kill anyone to get a felony on your record, and don't fall into debt among other things and you'll be able to keep most of the doors of your life open. (Quick Translation: Drugs = It's probably going to be difficult for you to become something like a pharmacist. Felony = It's probably going to be difficult for you to become a real estate agent in some states. Debt = Bad or No credit = Many doors closed for renting a house, difficulties with getting any type of loan, no credit cards, etc.)

However, even with all this, don't forget to fail a few times. I don't mean failing in grades, but I mean competing in something in the community that's considered worthwhile (e.g. a race or marathon or sports) and really try to win. If you win, great. You'll know the feeling of winning and that should become a source of motivation. If you fail, also great. You'll get stronger every time you figure out how to bounce back from a failure, and that's how you gain experience. Just remember to play fair and most people will have some form of respect for you no matter what.

If someone criticizes you for something, don't immediately disregard it or brush them off. Sometimes you might find that their words are exactly what you need to be able to save your life. Think carefully about why they would say what they did. Is there any basis to what they said? (Think about your own actions and "statistics" and try to be as realistic as possible.) If what they said really is something that's worth your time to improve upon, then go ahead and do your best to improve. Then there will be nothing negative that they can say about you without resorting to personal attacks, which most people actually do frown upon. Certainly some people will still open doors for those people, but at the same time, other more important doors will open for you that will never be available to those other people. Sometimes, the best things that happen in life happen quietly, and only the few that are present for it will ever know about it. It'll totally be worth it though. Finally, people won't always tell you everything in real life, so do your best to try to get to know the ones that matter to you so that you can be there for them when they need you. Figure out who in your school does matter to you and then work on getting to know them well. Don't force any relationships though, and remember that it's never too late to back out of a bad relationship. (Sadly, many people fall into that trap of not wanting to leave an obviously toxic relationship.)

You are the captain of your ship, and no one else can live your life for you, so make the most of it.

Good luck with classes and school and hope you can learn how to relax a bit so you can enjoy school some more.
If you want to talk embarrassing… You're talking to the girl that went to a dance wearing sneakers and jeans and actually got someone to dance with her (someone was kind and lent me a dress halfway through though, probably because they couldn't bear to watch it any longer rofl), wore different-colored socks all the time because she thought it was fun (at first, some people giggled but when I continued to wear different-colored socks for the entire year, they eventually thought I was testing my outfits so they stopped caring so much about it after they "realized" what I was doing), and tried on all sorts of crazy accessories including cutting up some of her clothes and hair to see what she could do with them. Some of my classmates probably thought I was crazy at first, but since it seemed like I knew what I was doing (ahaha right~~ rofl), they didn't bother me about it, only complimented me whenever something actually did end up looking nice.

Here's something you can do the next time you think all eyes are on you: When you're in front of the entire class and right before you open your mouth to say anything, pause for a bit and just look around. By that, I mean really LOOK at what everyone sitting in front of you is doing. (You don't even have to make eye contact.) Who is doodling and drawing? Who is yawning and pretending to be awake? Who is looking at you, but actually silently rehearsing their own speech? Who are the ones passing notes? Who are the ones secretly poking at their phones/tablets? Is anyone even looking at you? Pay close attention and count the number of people that actually appear to be waiting for you to say something. You might find that less than 50% of the class is actually listening to you at any given time. If you give a great presentation, the ones that are awake will stop what they're doing just to listen to you, but there will still be those that are not quite mentally there. If you do this enough times, you may eventually (or suddenly) experience a sense of calmness and that's when you've probably moved beyond your own fear. For me, it felt like I became someone else, although I was obviously still me. On that day, I felt as if I was seeing the world clearly for the first time, and it really made me laugh at how silly I had been all along. People don't care all that much, but at the same time they care too much. The ones who will be wrapped up in their own little worlds will be too wrapped up to notice you, and the ones that care about what's going on around them will notice you but if they think they're going to end up scaring you, some of them might not end up trying to approach you at all. After all, who said you had to be the only one that's scared of being rejected? Then there are those that will approach you just because they don't want to appear to be scared. If they are bullies, they'll generally want a reaction from you, so one of the best ways to get rid of them is to give them none. Another way to keep the bullies away is to join a large group (make sure it's a good one though) or create your own so that you have others who can also back you up so that you're never alone.

As for your studies, as long as you keep up with your schoolwork and do well in your classes, you should be fine. If you get mired in the details, you're going to end up missing the big picture. Popularity in the future will often be defined by your financial portfolio anyways. Don't do drugs, don't kill anyone to get a felony on your record, and don't fall into debt among other things and you'll be able to keep most of the doors of your life open. (Quick Translation: Drugs = It's probably going to be difficult for you to become something like a pharmacist. Felony = It's probably going to be difficult for you to become a real estate agent in some states. Debt = Bad or No credit = Many doors closed for renting a house, difficulties with getting any type of loan, no credit cards, etc.)

However, even with all this, don't forget to fail a few times. I don't mean failing in grades, but I mean competing in something in the community that's considered worthwhile (e.g. a race or marathon or sports) and really try to win. If you win, great. You'll know the feeling of winning and that should become a source of motivation. If you fail, also great. You'll get stronger every time you figure out how to bounce back from a failure, and that's how you gain experience. Just remember to play fair and most people will have some form of respect for you no matter what.

If someone criticizes you for something, don't immediately disregard it or brush them off. Sometimes you might find that their words are exactly what you need to be able to save your life. Think carefully about why they would say what they did. Is there any basis to what they said? (Think about your own actions and "statistics" and try to be as realistic as possible.) If what they said really is something that's worth your time to improve upon, then go ahead and do your best to improve. Then there will be nothing negative that they can say about you without resorting to personal attacks, which most people actually do frown upon. Certainly some people will still open doors for those people, but at the same time, other more important doors will open for you that will never be available to those other people. Sometimes, the best things that happen in life happen quietly, and only the few that are present for it will ever know about it. It'll totally be worth it though. Finally, people won't always tell you everything in real life, so do your best to try to get to know the ones that matter to you so that you can be there for them when they need you. Figure out who in your school does matter to you and then work on getting to know them well. Don't force any relationships though, and remember that it's never too late to back out of a bad relationship. (Sadly, many people fall into that trap of not wanting to leave an obviously toxic relationship.)

You are the captain of your ship, and no one else can live your life for you, so make the most of it.

Good luck with classes and school and hope you can learn how to relax a bit so you can enjoy school some more.
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