Sadly, we all forget things. Every day of our long lives, there is plenty of information to absorb into our memories. Sometimes, said memories are really amazing, but we can't remember at all. Other times, we have annoying memories we don't truly appreciate, but stick around constantly, much to our annoyance. Memory is both good and bad.








What is something you'd wish you can remember? What is something you'd wish you can forget? Thank you for remembering my threads.





Fyredove : Memory is a double-edged sword: sometimes good, sometimes bad. Is there anything you would like to remember or forget?

I don't remember.







Sorry, I had to do it.
I forget things all the time, but I think the hardest thing to forget is someone's face. You know, when you can remember things so vividly about them but you can't remember what they look like. That happens far too easily with me, so I have to safeguard against it with pictures.


As for specific things that I've forgotten that I wish I could remember, I wish I could remember every conversation I had with a special friend. I used to hang on her every word, but as time goes by I forget more and more of those memories. And no it isn't a heartbroken thing, I just miss her.


As for things I wish I could forget, of all the things I could pick it would be making an improper joke with a different friend once. It was so out of character that I'm still shocked that I said it all these years later. I have no idea why I said it either. Thankfully she didn't seem to take it as impolitely as she could have (and indeed it wasn't all that bad, just impolite), and she's probably forgotten by now as it's been almost a decade. Still it embarrasses me to no end evrytime I think of it.

This seems to me like one of those secretly really deep questions that I have to get all metaphysical to answer.

But, no, it's simple.

I have forgotten what it is like to be a teenager. I was always moderately comfortable in my own skin back when I was a kid but where I am now makes me compartmentalize the old experiences, the old discomforts, the social anxiety, etc, and I don't remember it being that bad.

I vaguely remember not enjoying going to school in 7th and 8th grade to the point where I would get stomachaches and I'd drink Pepto-Bismol like water but I don't remember the actual experience.

So, when my kids are teens and I say, "Yes, yes, you'll have plenty of boyfriends and this one dumping you doesn't matter," it won't be fair because I haven't been dumped by anyone in 18 years. It must be like childbirth. Women remember it hurting and not being fun but they can't reach back and pull out those specific emotions and feelings of pain.

Outside of that, I don't remember what I've forgotten. I remember how to be a kid still and the energy I bring to my every day experience shows that. I've forgotten the hard parts of being a kid.

I've forgotten tons of things. Heck, I'll probably have to post here again in a week or so because there's so many things I can't remember at any given moment lol. I've done so much damage to my memory and ability to think critically from drug abuse it's not even funny ( though I make jokes about it all the time XD ).

I would say the thing I've forgotten most is what it's like to be a normal non-addicted person. Every day is riddled with aches and pains, be it physical or mental, and it all stems from or revolves around my drug use. I don't remember what it was like to be able to go through a day with out being triggered by the slightest things and have an over whelming craving wash over me. Or what it was like to go through a single day with out experiencing some form of withdrawal, be it acute or post-acute. To not have nearly every waking moment consumed with the effort of reminding my self it's not worth the trouble, the consequences ( personal or legal ) of going back to using, or simply fighting the cravings / withdrawal symptoms I constantly experience. To have real friends who actually care about you, and aren't just there because you benefit them and / or their habit in some way. To genuinely care about what happens to my self and those around me, instead of feeling so apathetic and lethargic it takes nearly every ounce of effort I have just to function enough to stay alive and doing things like eating, bathing, etc.

My life is depressing lol

I say most things since I've said before I have and was born with short term memories, and stuff. I can forget about people most things of the past or some it depends on how it plays out. To be honest I feel sad being born with something. What if you want to remember an important memory and yet....you forgot what it is? That's something I haven't always been able to like, and try in the best of my abilities to remember as much as I can if not I would jot it down somewhere so if I do ever forget I can take a look at it to remember. Its not always nice to forget something you really need to remember. :/

I once wrote a short poem for fun (many, many years ago lol ) that kind of went like this:

When you want to remember, you find you cannot,
When you want to forget, you remember a lot.

=P It was a tribute to the crazy high school years of pulling all-nighters and running on no sleep for weeks. There were times when I had such issues remembering what I did just the day before, which made it even more mortifying when I realized that somehow, I couldn't get some of my most embarrassing mistakes out of my mind no matter how sleep-deprived I became. My only consolation for that was the realization that the scars from those mistakes faded over time (and most people aside from me wouldn't remember the events later), but every time something jolts my memory so that I end up recalling the events (with vivid details no less x_X ), I kind of wonder why it is that I can so easily forget what I ate a few hours ago but can't seem to let go of some of the things that happened years ago. It would irk me to no end until one day when I'd realize that I actually hadn't thought about certain events for a while (and that would be a relief because that meant the events were finally beginning to make their way to the back of my mind).

As for what I would actually like to remember, it would be awesome if I could remember everything with everyone that was fun that has ever happened in my life. =) I cherish those memories and they are a source of strength for when the going gets rough or tough.

I have the worst short-term memory you've ever seen. Unless I specifically tell myself to remember something, I'll probably forget it within seconds. So I've forgotten many things in my life, many important things.

Back in Winter 2015 I had asked this girl out on a date, just on a whim. She said yes, but that day I also had some extra schoolwork. Once class was out.....I forgot all about the date. She called me and I rushed to the date site whereupon I was roasted by all her friends. So that was awkward, but it was a learning experience if anything.

I also can't remember exactly how it was like being a student in elementary school. I can remember it being pretty laid back but the specifics like work and friends evade me.

I have forgotten many things, phone, wallet, keys, car, birthdays, I am sure I've forgotten more but, guess I forgot what those were 
I keep my Google Calendar with me to remind me of things and a board on my fridge so I don't forget bills. I forget names a lot too. Oh, I now remember this one day in school that my teacher asked me about my brother and I completely forgot who he was and that I even had a brother- that was epic, my friends didn't let that one go for a while... turns out... I have 5 brothers  lol. I don't know how that's possible to forget given that we all lived together... but yeah. I forgot where I lived once or twice so, I just sat in the car until I remembered. Oh great, I forgot to go to work on two separate occasions Lord that was bad so, I just said someone was at he hospital lol. Forgot my quarters so I ran a toll, got home and I was sitting on them.. . Oh how could forget this one, I put water to boil to make coffee and forgot about it 6 hours later I smell something beyond burnt... the water burned so bad that it melted the pot on the sides making it all deformed so I hid it and threw it out spent the next two weeks convincing my grandma the pot never existed . I almost ran my sister over with the car one time, I forgot she was putting my nephew's seat belt on and I just started backing out. I forget my age from time to time I'm 23 one week the next 24 and the next 25 - technically I was never 23; I spent a whole year saying 24 and this year I thought I was turning 25, it wasn't until a month before my birthday that I found out I'm actually 24,- I was running a life insurance quote on myself & it told me I was to be 24 - I was convinced the program was defective LOL. Oh worst one, I forgot I was baking cookies, Christmas cookies broke my heart when they were charcoal they were supposed to be all colorful and tasty. I seem to forget a lot of things. 

My mom's always getting on my case about forgetting things she tells me, she thinks I'm just ignoring them. The problem is, I just keep forgetting things randomly. Not to mention I have a procrastination problem on top of that. I could be sitting around, remind myself I need to do something, sit around for a few more minutes and then wonder if there was something I was supposed to be doing. It's that bad.

As far as wishing I could forget something, there are plenty of cringe worthy times I wish I could forget but, try as I might to forget them, they never leave.

I think something I'd like to remember better would be my Grandfathers retirement party. I really love and miss my grandfather and this memory is on of the more lasting memories I have of him and really one of the memories I'd prefer to remember him by because he passed soon after.

One memory I think I would like to forget is ironically today when I threw up at work, i don't know the situation was just somewhat embarrassing to me and while only a few people saw it, I was a little embarrassed  by it.

I usually forget what time I'm supposed to be to work, I got the days down, but due to the schedule changing at a moments notice I constantly come in a day before work to check the schedule. The good thing is that my work is working on making online schedules which will help me greatly.  

I've forgotten tons of things. I've forgotten most of elementary, and pretty much everything before that. There's like only a few good (and bad) memories from those years that stick out at me, and I wish I had more vivid memories instead of the muddy ones I have of those years. I was so carefree back then, and don't get me wrong I like my life now, but I would like to feel like how I did back then more often :/.

On a lighter note, I always "forget" to do my chores :p. Usually I remember that I should probably do them but I'm too lazy to bring myself up to the task so I forget about them. My parents almost always have to remind me xp.

I would like to forget some really disturbing and weird dreams I've had, and forget all of the stupid things I've said/done.

I have forgotten my response for this thread. Jk jk, lol. 

I don't forget a lot of things to be honest. I have a really good memory and I remember a lot. I wish I could forget some of the things I've done, because frankly, they're cringeworthy and pretty stupid, lol.