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Should I start a romantic relationship with someone?

 

02-28-16 01:46 AM
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Recently I have been pondering on the thought of forming a romantic relationship with someone. Since I have no friends and is single. But I'm not sure where or how I should start it off. Sometimes when I wake up in mornings I just feel a sense of emptiness. Like something is missing. I believe being in a relationship will fill in that empty feeling. Maybe even bring a little more happiness in my every day life. Has anyone here ever been in one before? If so, could you tell me what it was like? And how it all started?
Recently I have been pondering on the thought of forming a romantic relationship with someone. Since I have no friends and is single. But I'm not sure where or how I should start it off. Sometimes when I wake up in mornings I just feel a sense of emptiness. Like something is missing. I believe being in a relationship will fill in that empty feeling. Maybe even bring a little more happiness in my every day life. Has anyone here ever been in one before? If so, could you tell me what it was like? And how it all started?
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I've never been in one before, but I do have plans to change that. Like you, I do have a feeling of emptiness, provoked by the fact that my friends are all on their own now, differently from when I saw them everyday in school not long ago.

I've tried chatting to girls when going out, but I'm too shy to talk for a long time to someone I know nothing about. Even in night parties, when alcohol lends a hand, I've been unable to produce an actual conversation. Maybe I should add to my shyness the fact I'm not confident in being successful, for various reasons, so it's a hard way for me. Still, I encourage you to try it before anything else, I've made very good friendships with this method, even if none of them escalated to something else.

A way around that is using an online dating site. This way you can know a bit of the person you will eventually meet, and thus you already know what kind of conversation you can put up. People like us that frequent social networks like for example Vizzed have experience in connecting with other people, even if they are oceans away.
I've never been in one before, but I do have plans to change that. Like you, I do have a feeling of emptiness, provoked by the fact that my friends are all on their own now, differently from when I saw them everyday in school not long ago.

I've tried chatting to girls when going out, but I'm too shy to talk for a long time to someone I know nothing about. Even in night parties, when alcohol lends a hand, I've been unable to produce an actual conversation. Maybe I should add to my shyness the fact I'm not confident in being successful, for various reasons, so it's a hard way for me. Still, I encourage you to try it before anything else, I've made very good friendships with this method, even if none of them escalated to something else.

A way around that is using an online dating site. This way you can know a bit of the person you will eventually meet, and thus you already know what kind of conversation you can put up. People like us that frequent social networks like for example Vizzed have experience in connecting with other people, even if they are oceans away.
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I respect your right and understand your desire to be in a relationship. However, I advise caution.  When someone jumps into a relationship just for the sake of being in one... things aren't likely to go well. Feelings can be forced, misunderstandings can take place, and it's then easy for the people in the relationship to lie to themselves about their true feelings or lack thereof. It's also likely to leave you feeling just as lonely or even lonelier. (Because yes... it is VERY possible to still feel lonely while in a relationship.)

It's hard to be lonely, and it's easy to see a 'relationship' as being the solution.  However, there are also other ways to get over the emptiness that are much healthier.

Now, if you're just interested in finding a life partner and it has nothing to do with being lonely?  I say go for it. Perhaps start with things that you like to do, and find a place to do them. For example, if you like walking around in parks, do so and strike up conversations with people there.  If you like board games, find a group that gathers to play them (through some site like meetup.com) and join.  I think the easiest way to strike up those intimidating conversations is by finding common interests.  Besides, having something in common to like is -extremely- important in a relationship, as it helps you bond.

As for relationships, I am married, and it started through a common interest in faith.

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Having confidence is important. I don't have it either, so I understand being shy due to low self-esteem.  And online dating sites can be alright, but not the first route I'd recommend.  After all, you won't gain much practice in -starting- those face to face conversations without actually struggling through them. Sometimes, that awkwardness helps us grow as people and become better at such things that scare us.
I respect your right and understand your desire to be in a relationship. However, I advise caution.  When someone jumps into a relationship just for the sake of being in one... things aren't likely to go well. Feelings can be forced, misunderstandings can take place, and it's then easy for the people in the relationship to lie to themselves about their true feelings or lack thereof. It's also likely to leave you feeling just as lonely or even lonelier. (Because yes... it is VERY possible to still feel lonely while in a relationship.)

It's hard to be lonely, and it's easy to see a 'relationship' as being the solution.  However, there are also other ways to get over the emptiness that are much healthier.

Now, if you're just interested in finding a life partner and it has nothing to do with being lonely?  I say go for it. Perhaps start with things that you like to do, and find a place to do them. For example, if you like walking around in parks, do so and strike up conversations with people there.  If you like board games, find a group that gathers to play them (through some site like meetup.com) and join.  I think the easiest way to strike up those intimidating conversations is by finding common interests.  Besides, having something in common to like is -extremely- important in a relationship, as it helps you bond.

As for relationships, I am married, and it started through a common interest in faith.

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Having confidence is important. I don't have it either, so I understand being shy due to low self-esteem.  And online dating sites can be alright, but not the first route I'd recommend.  After all, you won't gain much practice in -starting- those face to face conversations without actually struggling through them. Sometimes, that awkwardness helps us grow as people and become better at such things that scare us.
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I'm going to somewhat second what SIngelli said, I have personally felt that way sometimes so I know where you're coming from. If there is one advice I have about getting into relationships, it is to not get into one out of loneliness or feeling empty in that sense. I can tell you that if you do it's likely not going to do end well, a partner may seem like it'll help that emptiness but it  won't.

Assuming loneliness isn't the reason though, go for it. Like has been said typically a good starting point is finding people with common interests, means that besides just finding a partner it's also an opportunity to make more friends in general. Like if you're a video game fan try going to conventions (assuming there's some nearby) and talking to people there. It's a nice idea if you're not that skilled at starting up conversations since it also gives you something to talk about from the get go. My second piece of advice is to stay away from dating sites, if you're someone who's kind of socially awkward like me that might feel like an easier way out and though it may work for some typically it will lead to disappointment. It might feel a bit difficult starting up conversations and it might not always go smoothly, but keep doing it and you'll get better at it. 
I'm going to somewhat second what SIngelli said, I have personally felt that way sometimes so I know where you're coming from. If there is one advice I have about getting into relationships, it is to not get into one out of loneliness or feeling empty in that sense. I can tell you that if you do it's likely not going to do end well, a partner may seem like it'll help that emptiness but it  won't.

Assuming loneliness isn't the reason though, go for it. Like has been said typically a good starting point is finding people with common interests, means that besides just finding a partner it's also an opportunity to make more friends in general. Like if you're a video game fan try going to conventions (assuming there's some nearby) and talking to people there. It's a nice idea if you're not that skilled at starting up conversations since it also gives you something to talk about from the get go. My second piece of advice is to stay away from dating sites, if you're someone who's kind of socially awkward like me that might feel like an easier way out and though it may work for some typically it will lead to disappointment. It might feel a bit difficult starting up conversations and it might not always go smoothly, but keep doing it and you'll get better at it. 
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EX Palen : Shyness and uncertainty is also what probably keeps me from forming relationships with others. Outside of the internet I'm not a very social person. I usually keep a distance from other people. Which results in me being lonely all of the time. And having no friends to turn to for advice aside from the ones that added me on vizzed. However, I haven't talked to them in ages. And I'm afraid that they wouldn't want to talk back with me. Ex, I've never tried a online dating site before nor do I know any trustworthy ones for that matter. Due to having difficulties finding the right person real life, I most likely would consider it at some point.

Singelli : I couldn't agree even more. I believe nothing good would come out of jumping into a relationship just for the sake it. To be honest, I'm not a very out doors person. Except for only a few occasions. I would like to in a relationship, but I'm fearful that I wouldn't be able to manage it for long. Maybe I shouldn't be in one. Maybe this feeling I have is just a side effect of my solitude.
EX Palen : Shyness and uncertainty is also what probably keeps me from forming relationships with others. Outside of the internet I'm not a very social person. I usually keep a distance from other people. Which results in me being lonely all of the time. And having no friends to turn to for advice aside from the ones that added me on vizzed. However, I haven't talked to them in ages. And I'm afraid that they wouldn't want to talk back with me. Ex, I've never tried a online dating site before nor do I know any trustworthy ones for that matter. Due to having difficulties finding the right person real life, I most likely would consider it at some point.

Singelli : I couldn't agree even more. I believe nothing good would come out of jumping into a relationship just for the sake it. To be honest, I'm not a very out doors person. Except for only a few occasions. I would like to in a relationship, but I'm fearful that I wouldn't be able to manage it for long. Maybe I shouldn't be in one. Maybe this feeling I have is just a side effect of my solitude.
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Local Mods : Everyone listed some pretty helpful things. I seem to have a lot to consider in the future. You're feel to close now. Thanks.
Local Mods : Everyone listed some pretty helpful things. I seem to have a lot to consider in the future. You're feel to close now. Thanks.
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