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Okay as you can see i'm talking about invisible fighting just hear me out. You know when you are arguing with someone in your family but it never escalated but you feel like it should have been longer so you could have proven a point or just told that person out? So instead of this actually happening our mind makes different arcs of the same argument but this time you continue you're fight and it always turns out the way you want it too. 

So my question is why do we as humans do this in our minds? 

And have you ever had this happen during a fight with a parent or a sibling?

It seems i invisi-fight all the time. It's fairly often i get into arguments with family, particularly my sister and i feel i never get to develop my full point then. So i continue in my mind. This happened at least once a month, and it tortures me. I think it happens because we don't think fully during the argument, and our full train of thought activates only afterwards.

I've had this too, and when I think of possible outcomes, they sometimes get close or are exactly the same as the real outcomes, which is pretty impressive of my brain, to think of the most logical answer. But sometimes I let myself win in my head, or sometimes I start to yell 'HEEEY you!' and nobody can hear it Like Boxia said, I think you get more thoughts when the argument is over and you have more time to think.

UGH! I KNOW INVISIBLE FIGHTING IS SO STUPID. I MEAN IN RISE OF THE ROBOTS YOU CAN'T EVEN SEE YOURSELF SO WHY

Joking aside, this sounds like your brain trying to tie off a lose end. Have you ever read a great book with a really lame ending? Sometimes I'd just think of one for them, to resolve the conflict and loose ends. Your brain sees the tension was unresolved and is giving you scenarios. I would wager most have you winning the arguments?

I think this might be like when you think of an answer to an argument later, and of course they are almost always about differences of opinion, so you often are still trying to prove your case -even though there is no actual debate going on still. The person you are fighting with as not engaged or kept up their end of your heated discussion, so your mind just does it for you, maybe.

I mean, as humans we're all a pretty passive-agressive bunch. With my family, there's a ton of this, and honestly, I prefer it rather than escalated conflicts that lead to half-baked thoughts. "Invisi-fighting" is a nice alternative to screaming at each other, and it gives me time to think about WHY I feel this way rather than why the other person is such a horrible, horrible person.

I don't know why people do this but I do this all the time. If I had to guess I would say people want to be satisfied and complete an argument since they believe they are right but don't want to offend their family so we create an alternate time line thus satisfying everyone peacefully. There is no more arguing and both parties feel as if they are right.

deg2000 : This is quite common, I have often done the same thing myself. I think the reason that we continue the argument in our mind and always seem to win there has to do with our nature. More times than not, we simply would like to have our way. When we argue, often we do not get what we wanted out of it and begin to feel slighted. Our mind begins to go over the conversation. We talk it through again, we find better words that we were unable to come up with on the spot. We even tend to see that as the supreme logic of the argument and end up putting the opponent in their place. Funny thing is, if we would happen to do the argument over and pull of the revised responses perfectly, we still would probably not win. At least not as much as our brain tells us we do! We tend to want justification, and when we feel that we lack it, our brain tries to create it. I think that is why we always seem to manage to silence our enemies in the imaginary battle where in the real world it would not help. Then after we cool down, everyone feels like they won to some degree and everything is fine...at least mostly anyway. I guess it is our mind and heart's way of balancing things out and seeing if the winner actually is right and also helps you to recover from the heat of the argument.

No never had that happen before, but that's cool that you did, I choose my words wisely always have always will, I try to get in fights as little as possible especially with either friend's or family, because really you never know when you may need something from someone and such, and remember if there was no family or friends then you only have yourself, though yourself is a mighty mighty weapon, even the greatest have fallen if numbers are insufficient. Strategy is your friend yes, but the human body can only do so much unless trained properly. Another thing which not sure if you believe or not as I stated earlier that if you don't have friends or family then what do you have you also have God as well depending on your view point.

deg2000 : i happen to do that a lot before a fight happens but i lay it out in my mind like and rpg with choices in dialogue, and what possible outcomes will happen and during a fight i wanna make the most valid points i can quickly thinking what i will do if i say this