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06-15-14 01:19 AM
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So I am a 19 year old female who is wondering what to say when I am asked about my sexuality because I am someone who has had crushes on both guys and girls, but hasn't had a crush on a guy in years. I have had crushes on girls since middle school and that's who I mainly who I have crushes on these days too. I don't even really understand why other girls find guys so attractive anymore, to be honest.

I'm not really sure if I should say I am a lesbian or not because yea, I've crushed on guys in the past.

I'm saying ''crushes'' because I've never been in a relationship before (haven't met the right person yet) and I am still a virgin,

Usually, when I am asked, I say I am bisexual, but prefer females and that I am on the pink side of the scale more, but this does NOT fully answer my question.

I am still unsure if that is the right thing for me to say or not.

Help?

Even if you agree, explain?
So I am a 19 year old female who is wondering what to say when I am asked about my sexuality because I am someone who has had crushes on both guys and girls, but hasn't had a crush on a guy in years. I have had crushes on girls since middle school and that's who I mainly who I have crushes on these days too. I don't even really understand why other girls find guys so attractive anymore, to be honest.

I'm not really sure if I should say I am a lesbian or not because yea, I've crushed on guys in the past.

I'm saying ''crushes'' because I've never been in a relationship before (haven't met the right person yet) and I am still a virgin,

Usually, when I am asked, I say I am bisexual, but prefer females and that I am on the pink side of the scale more, but this does NOT fully answer my question.

I am still unsure if that is the right thing for me to say or not.

Help?

Even if you agree, explain?
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06-15-14 05:14 AM
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If you're still unsure, then there's no need to give a definite answer to people.

You can always say that you're more interested in girls at the moment. It's not a full answer, but it should suffice. And if people ask if that makes you a lesbian? You can always tell them that you're unsure yet.
If you're still unsure, then there's no need to give a definite answer to people.

You can always say that you're more interested in girls at the moment. It's not a full answer, but it should suffice. And if people ask if that makes you a lesbian? You can always tell them that you're unsure yet.
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I was on the same boat you were on for a while for a different reason I wont go into detail with. After a while of thinking about it, I was able to just decide that no matter what the gender, if they're really nice to me, have a good personality, and are what I've been looking for in a person, then I'll try to get together with them. When people asked me what I was I would just tell them that I'm looking for the right person. Nothing more.

Like Mistress said, you don't actually have to tell them anything if you aren't sure on what you are at the moment. It's completely normal and is expected in people around this age. It sounds like a personal thing so just work through it and it will all work out in the end.
I was on the same boat you were on for a while for a different reason I wont go into detail with. After a while of thinking about it, I was able to just decide that no matter what the gender, if they're really nice to me, have a good personality, and are what I've been looking for in a person, then I'll try to get together with them. When people asked me what I was I would just tell them that I'm looking for the right person. Nothing more.

Like Mistress said, you don't actually have to tell them anything if you aren't sure on what you are at the moment. It's completely normal and is expected in people around this age. It sounds like a personal thing so just work through it and it will all work out in the end.
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06-15-14 10:17 AM
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Girls find guys attractive still because simply they are straight, and though you say you are bi clearly you have crossed over to lesbianism a long time ago. So just say to whoever you are a lesbian.
Girls find guys attractive still because simply they are straight, and though you say you are bi clearly you have crossed over to lesbianism a long time ago. So just say to whoever you are a lesbian.
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I agree with UFC. It seems like you are more lesbian than anything. Although it may not seem like it, those crushes on guys from awhile ago could have been either hormone changes as they may not have settled yet. A more scarier thought could be you thought you had to like guys as was the societies standards during your more impressionable, younger years. 
I agree with UFC. It seems like you are more lesbian than anything. Although it may not seem like it, those crushes on guys from awhile ago could have been either hormone changes as they may not have settled yet. A more scarier thought could be you thought you had to like guys as was the societies standards during your more impressionable, younger years. 
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I would go with what Mistress said, seeing as you are still on the borderline between true lesbianism and bisexuality. Just let them know which side you prefer, and if that does not suffice, tell them you are unsure. You really cannot go wrong here, unless you tell them something blatantly untrue.
I would go with what Mistress said, seeing as you are still on the borderline between true lesbianism and bisexuality. Just let them know which side you prefer, and if that does not suffice, tell them you are unsure. You really cannot go wrong here, unless you tell them something blatantly untrue.
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I believe everyone is bisexual, but people repress it.

So it goes without saying that I believe you are also bisexual.

However, if you yourself don't know which you are, then no one really can. Only you can define yourself.
I believe everyone is bisexual, but people repress it.

So it goes without saying that I believe you are also bisexual.

However, if you yourself don't know which you are, then no one really can. Only you can define yourself.
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Well, you could say any of the these:
Bisexual :
You could say you are Bi, but you are more inclined to girls than boys

Bi-Curious :
Like before, you could say you like girls, but you aren't sure if you actually like boys as well.

Polysexual :
Many people say this which means something along the lines of "Many-sexual" that explains that they are open to a lot of things, but aren't exactly sure/don't want to say what sexuality they really are.
Well, you could say any of the these:
Bisexual :
You could say you are Bi, but you are more inclined to girls than boys

Bi-Curious :
Like before, you could say you like girls, but you aren't sure if you actually like boys as well.

Polysexual :
Many people say this which means something along the lines of "Many-sexual" that explains that they are open to a lot of things, but aren't exactly sure/don't want to say what sexuality they really are.
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legacyme3 : I'm with you on the bisexuality but I phrase it differently.

People are sexual animals.  We're also social animals.  Human bodies are the most beautiful thing and they are extremely attractive from a sexual standpoint.  That's why nudes are one of the most popular subjects for art classes.  That's why music and songs are about love, breaking up, and sex.  That's why movies always end with the hero kissing the girl.

Sex feels good, connects people socially, physically, spiritual (if you will), and brings us all together.  it's a basic drive along with eating food and sleeping that is a must-do written in our genetic code.  Put a need for the physical desire along with a need for socialization and the most appealing visual things in our world, multiply by "sex feels really really good" and you have people who are attracted to everyone.

I think if our society is okay with it, male/male and female/female relationships would be common.  Cultures in the past who have not repressed same sex relationships have examples of it.  I won't cover the history but Legacy is correct. 

We all like human bodies and culture stops us from freely expressing ourselves.

Eliza, you don't have to define your sexuality.  Let them know your personality first.  Cover the sexuality later.  There's no rush to get there.
legacyme3 : I'm with you on the bisexuality but I phrase it differently.

People are sexual animals.  We're also social animals.  Human bodies are the most beautiful thing and they are extremely attractive from a sexual standpoint.  That's why nudes are one of the most popular subjects for art classes.  That's why music and songs are about love, breaking up, and sex.  That's why movies always end with the hero kissing the girl.

Sex feels good, connects people socially, physically, spiritual (if you will), and brings us all together.  it's a basic drive along with eating food and sleeping that is a must-do written in our genetic code.  Put a need for the physical desire along with a need for socialization and the most appealing visual things in our world, multiply by "sex feels really really good" and you have people who are attracted to everyone.

I think if our society is okay with it, male/male and female/female relationships would be common.  Cultures in the past who have not repressed same sex relationships have examples of it.  I won't cover the history but Legacy is correct. 

We all like human bodies and culture stops us from freely expressing ourselves.

Eliza, you don't have to define your sexuality.  Let them know your personality first.  Cover the sexuality later.  There's no rush to get there.
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warmaker : Thank you for reassuring me of that.
warmaker : Thank you for reassuring me of that.
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