When I was in school I had to do a report on an issue that is everywhere in the world so what I did was a paper on Bullying and it went with me having to do much more study then I ever have... I'll make it short because I doubt anyone wants to here a long report.

"Everyday someone, Somewhere is getting bullied because they have been labeled differently and others stand back and do nothing to when everyone can do the simplest and stand up for the person being bullied."

Bullying is an issue that needs to be addressed but usually goes unchecked in big inner city schools. I, personally, was never bullied *I'm a big guy so no one would even dare make me angry.* but from everything I've heard it can leave complete mental and emotional problems for the rest of your life.
I hear there's a bill, at least in wisconsin, that the parents of bullies can now be ticketed for their children's actions. I think that it could help but it would also hinder more than it's worth.

Here's my report... I have actual facts included in it.

   “Hey Kid give your Lunch money and you won’t get hurt.” Ever heard this in your life time so far? This is or perhaps was the common method of bullying primarily used on the school ground but it has to be a misconception if one were to believe all bullying had started out on the school ground. Bullying it has been around quiet possibly ever since the dawning of man which can date back all the way to the Pleistocene time of caveman/Neanderthals where strength and intimidation would be used to for the primary focus to obtain another tribe or group of cavemen of their hunt. Yet no one can be sure of the actually time and age that bullying had started because the way of being bullied has changed with the passage of time but however long ago it began it still persists to this very day and age.
   Now bullying has surely/absolutely has been around much longer than I have and the proof to my saying is very easy to show through simple searches for out there are many or rather countless cases of people being bullied, experiencing bullying, or having witnessed bullying such as one person’s experience they had shared which helped to form a DVD called The Bully Project this person was Alex {who had his last name hidden for matters of personal security} shared this bit of personal experience as he quoted, "They punch me in the jaw, strangle me, they knock things out of my hand, take things from me, sit on me. They push me so far that I want to become the bully." What he had shared with them shows one of the larger effects of bullying where the person gets bullied so much that they themselves want to become bullies which of course is not the right way to deal with the issue. Upon their site they include another example of physical bullying where others afraid of being bullied join the bully in their bullying upon a miss Ja’meya, “It feels like everybody just turned against me. It was like nine of them, nine or ten of them, calling me stupid and dumb, and they started throwing things at me, and one of the guys said something to me, and he threatened me, telling me what he was going to do to me, and he’ll fight girls, and everybody was laughing." She had experienced what some call pressure where others go to the side that won’t be picked on resulting in more people becoming bullies. There are 4 forms of bullying used to this day which are known as Verbal, Social, Physical, and the latest in our time of modern technology… Cyber.
   It’s time for a breakdown on the styles of bullying and the place we shall start is Verbal. Verbal bullying is the most common form of bullying used it simply consists of the use of name calling such as the classic bullying term used, “You are stupid.” Yet if you look at it the term stupid is becoming so broad in terms that it’s lost great impact of use by bullies to pick upon their victim which leads into the other form of verbal bullying which strikes how the bullies victim looks like through teasing such as if the victim is always know for wearing the same jacket even if it’s getting old and looking like it’s nothing more than say… garbage. The bully will pick up on that and uses its appearance in a way to relate back to their victim like perhaps through saying something like… “The only thing I’ve ever seen uglier than that old jacket you wear is your face loser.” Verbal bullying its pain through words but some can avoid being the victims of such bullying if they remind themselves of that classic little saying, “Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Even through the term is more on the physical level where as some people can suffer from a deal of emotional damage if verbally bullied enough in their life.
   The next rather common form of bullying to discuss is the Social bullying. This style is more commonly used by ‘clicks/groups’ that form on school grounds where a number of people with some similar aspect like playing on a sports team for example will purposely avoid other, spread rumors around the people they all like to pick on to see them react negatively to the lies they spread, or even go as far as to make two friends turn upon each other destroying their friendship the one thing that two people can both share and treasure. Social bullying in some opinions is also known as group bullying where the bully focus is upon a group of people rather than a single individual but not even the members with a social bully group are safe themselves because a reason for why these individuals come together as a group usually share the reason that they were also bullied on and couldn’t stand it any longer so used the power in numbers to band themselves together to become the bully rather than being the bullied.
   Now to get into what is described as the more destructive form of bullying which is Physical bullying the most direct form used throughout the history of the world. Its name describes exactly what is used as the bully will inflict physical damage on their victim to get what they want. Kids getting beaten up because they had something the bully saw of value such as new shoes or some kind of electronic like video game handheld systems or music players to the rather cheaper of things like school supplies. Now where as this can be the easiest form of bullying to report on to an official it is also the most hard one to report because by getting beaten by the bully the victim is hit by a sense of fear which some believe to be if they tell someone then they’ll once again be beaten up so they keep quiet but are not actually safe from receiving the same bullying style again the next day. Although this type is the more physical version of bullying it can also have a psychological effect on the victim if as they are being beaten the bully repeatedly calls them a name which if repeated long enough can result in a trigger word that when the victim hears causes them to go into a broken like state where it is much easier to harm them.
   Now to cover the last form of bullying which is more commonly used today in the world, Cyber bullying. Now a day in our present life time everyone either carries around a cellphone or has access to a computer in their house and many victims of bullying have retreated to the internet as what they believed to be a bully free area but as we have come to know, “Nowhere is safe, Not even the internet.” At first the victims of bullying could roam the internet even join online forms to chat with people and feels safe but what they were unaware of was the internet was like a ocean so vast you could never see the hidden dangers until it was too late… One day a person would onto a forum site they have been a part of for a while helping them completely forget they were ever a victim of bullying but then they find it… An unmarked message left to them from another user of the forum they both use, they are curious so they open it but then regret it, in the message they would find a large paragraph that describes what the sender saw as the annoying things they do, the desperation they show on the forum to talk to others, and the lack of confidence they have. But this bullying isn’t only on the computer in forums but can appear in the victims Email if they give it out to easily or even on their cellphone. Cyber bullying through text messages are the hardest themselves to avoid because when the text is received all we get initially is either an unknown number or name of someone that is registered in the phones address book… We don’t know that the message contains names we the message sender is calling the phone owner until they check it. Cyber bullying is one of the worst because it can be the most indirect or misleading because the messages will likely be sent un-named so the victim is more curious toward the message so they become far more likely to open it.
   All four of these bullying forms have their effects and while those may differ they also all relate to causing a deal of emotional distress to the victim which can have some of the worst effects such as suicidal behavior and tendency of self-harm. According to finding reported by people of Yale university, ‘Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims.’ The are even more facts on the matter which can be read on Bullyingstatics.org which include these stats directly related to bullying and suicide… ‘Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.’ This one fact alone shows how big suicide is by giving an estimated number, likely person to out of a certain group, percentage of high school students who have considered or even attempted it. They also have a fact that states a study in Britain had revealed that at least half of all young people’s reason for suicide was because of bullying. Now while these might contain interesting facts there are still many more out their including stories that have either come the friend of someone who committed suicide or from someone who tried to commit it but failed to go through with it.
   We have to step up! How is it that all this time we’ve been standing back on the sidelines as innocent, weak, fragile, and different people are being bullied… Oh right the reason is because WE are acting like chickens because we are afraid of being bullied ourselves. Well here’s a start fact… “I have been bullied before. I have gone through each of those forms of bullying so I know how it feels, I known what it sounds like, I know how it is read, and I even know how it feels to be near suicide because of it. BUT! Hey guess what I’m still here and I’m going to do my part to help!” What is it we can do, is what I bet you’re thinking right now and if it’s not then tell me… Why are you reading this? If you can’t answer that question then just put this paper down and walk away but if you can answer that question then here is what we can do. Stand up! If you stand up for someone you can make the bully lose his intimidation on them and the more that stand up to the bully, the more the bully will back down and stop. Speak out. If you see someone being bullied doesn’t just stand around there and do nothing go look for an adult or someone with authority who can step in and help, but if the person you try asking for help doesn’t then go try another because we need to speak out and tell someone to stop the bullying. Make a difference. If you can stand up and make the attempt of change then others will surely follow your example and join you in bringing an end to bullying once and for all.
   Now in conclusion I’ve described a great deal on bullying even including one of the commonly used means of escaping from it which is a choice that no one deserves to make in their life. Those types of bullying ranging from the use of words to physical action all way their toll on us and we must step up to make a change to stop these individuals and groups that go out of their way to belittle or exclude others or target the simple to break ones.

Right now I'm watching the Cartoon Network Bullying Ads and how poor they really show it.

Where I am Bullying is sort of non-existent. Everyone just messed around. Yet they still have Bullying PSAs at the school. Maybe they ARE working...

I'm sure that Bullying is a serious issue, but it's just that I never experienced it.

I feel schools try to make an effort to stop bullying in some sort of way, by holding assemblies, activity days, discussions, etc. Many reactions to a lot of kids would be is to sit through all this stuff, then the next day forget about it. Sometimes it's not their fault...they haven't experienced it, and feel they know their school enough to know there isn't bullying going on, but hey, bullying can happen in even the "nicest" of places. Many attempts to stop bullying are really inadequate...it's like telling people not to buy fast food, there's always gonna be that person with the rebellious mindset.

I've never been bullied, but yes, it's a huge problem. We all try to prevent it. But, it's like telling people to quit smoking. It's hard to stop. When a person bullies, he'll keep it going, no matter what the consequence. We should all try to stop it, by hold assemblies, PSAs, stuff like that. But if the schools don't enforce it, which many don't, it's useless. And most of the time, it doesn't stop until the victim does something himself.

Every single day is a new day where even outside of school I find myself constantly being Cyber bullied. It is completely impossible to escape.

Lightning Fang07 : Man, Cartoon Network is bad at addressing the issue on bullying. It's far worse than that. I was bullied my whole 3rd grade. In middle school, I helped two kips from being bullied. They were bullied because they didn't really fit in much. This is what causes bullying. Bullies just like to pick on kids that aren't like them.

Eniitan : I like how bullies are people that brag about themselves, but people with no confidence, or have a medical disorder are actually cool people.

Eniitan : I agree 10,000% with you.

Lightning Fang07, your paper is well researched and written. I stopped everything else that I was doing when I saw your thread. You see, this topic is very sensitive for me. I was bullied before all of this social awareness kicked into effect. This was the late 80's and early nineties and it consisted of the first 3 types. I experienced my first deep depression in adolescence. I decided that during summer vacations from school, if I didn't go anywhere or see anyone, then people might forget that I existed.

Many times over the years, I've tried to figure out what caused the bullying. Most times I come to the conclusion that there is something fundamentally wrong with me but then I realize that the problem went on for so long that I was basically taught that there must be something wrong with me. So, there is nothing wrong me except that I BELIEVE there is something wrong with me.  (exhausting...) 

I am constantly self-defeating, overly critical of myself and have self worth issues. The psychological damage has been extensive and has effected literally every aspect of my life. The suicide thought, yeah I have that every 3 to 7 days. People who read this may not understand and I don't expect them to.  

How do I make a difference: I'm not that kid anymore. Years of physical labor have changed the fat kid into a force to be reckoned with. I'm quick to intervene and become the goodwill ambassador between 2 "warring nations". I have 4 kids, 10 and under. The oldest had some experiences with bullying. My son and I had a man to man and he put a swift end to that crap. Plus, the school administrators have a zero tolerance attitude towards bullying. When I was a kid, teachers and adults witnessed and knew some of the things that were happening but did very little. 

Eniitan : I remember being "quiet" in my early 20's, be careful and find your passions. They give you something to hold onto as the years pass...

Well, talking about this is uncomfortable and I'm tempted to not Submit the Reply...but it's important to talk about it so others might be convinced to "make a difference".

Well I've never been bullied nor have I've seen some one get bullied but I know it happens more in the form of cyber bulling rather than physical bulling. I feel as though cyber bulling isn't really actual bulling because its just verbal written words and I honestly fail to see how verbal words could hurt anyone and furthermore why should you care about what someone's thinks about you or care what rude and ignorant things someone says to you. The school anti bullying programs are pretty pointless in my opinion and it fails to relate to the kids and provide a halfway decent example of bullying and how to resolve it. 

Bullying is a problem and I feel sorry for the people who have been scarred for their adulthoods and committed suicide because they were too raw to develop there own confidence in themselves and backbones, but to me I would say it's at least 85% the parents fault for being a**h***s or abuses there kids and they copy their parents or lash out at the kids because of this. The other 15% is that they are simply born bullying monsters and there was nothing the parents could ever do

UFC : You have  real clean point there how a large deal can be the result of negative parenting where the child uses what they have learned from their own parents actions.

Lightning Fang07 : yes i'm sure that's the case most of the time, then again since i'm a nice person I probably haven't a clue what goes on inside of the heads and mentality of people like that   

UFC : Again I'd agree with that because I'm a rather nice guy and I try to help others but things don't usually go well and I wind up hurt in a way.

I guess bullying is an issue in other places, but I have never been bullied or witnessed anyone getting bullied where I live. Weird.

tgags123 : Some people can find themselves lucky to never experience or witness bullying but they can still try and do their part in case the issue arises.