warmaker : A good ice breaker I feel is to try to make someone laugh. I don’t necessarily look for things intentionally to make someone laugh but I have been told that I can be funny at times and I in fact use to do impressions when I was younger before my voice got too deep. One of the voices that I use to do on a regular basis which people who knew me when I was younger still ask me to do is Al Bundy. It was one of the ones that people told me I was hilarious because I use to be able to change my voice and could keep that voice all day if I was asked. The one voice that I can still do is Don Coleone from The Godfather.

I don’t know necessarily if it sends out signals to people that you might be interested in them but trying to lighten the mood and make someone laugh, especially someone who may be having a rough day is good at breaking the ice. At least it’s a good starting point, once you break the ice then I would focus on common interests and that furthers the lines of communication. It is then best to just wait and see how things go, play things as they come and try not to force anything. No matter what always be honest.

bvd1022 : I agree. Make them laugh and they're YOURS.

Hmm. I haven't really gone past the crush stage in a few years. I guess I'm too picky. But from the times I was in love, I would touch their hands or something or lay my head on their shoulder or something. I'd also go out of my way to help them or just be very generous when it came to money or gifts.

Needless to say, I'm still single. I'm probably too picky or something. I may wait too long to be sure that this is the one. Then again, it's only been two times I've been really been interested in someone to the point that they occupy my thoughts like a drug fiend. I'm older, little more good looking, and I've had more experience around women since then so maybe it's just a matter of time.

If I'm interested in someone I tell them, "Hey, I like you."

Then I let it go from there.

It works because that's my personality. If it puts them off we aren't a match anyway since I'm straight and to the point. I'm not changing for a girl either.

legacyme3: Well some people are like that but more often than not being
a straight shooter doesn’t have much to do with things. Often you can be
interested in someone and friends with someone for years but you don’t act for
a couple of different reasons.



One if
you’re friends you obviously worry about what happens if you let your feelings
be known to your friend and your friend doesn’t feel the same way or, if your
friend does feel the same way what happens once the relationship progresses and
for one reason or another things don’t work out? I have struck out a couple of times in this area
so I speak from experience here.


There is also the obvious questions of attraction and things
like, “I like her but I’m not in her league.” Or, “I like her but I don’t think
she likes me.” It can be a balancing act
and it’s not the easiest thing to do.

I
do agree as someone who has learned as he’s gotten older to be more authentic
that it’s best to be straight with people no matter what the level of the
relationship is.

I don't like the whole "sending signals" game. It's just that: a game. If you feel like you wanna talk to someone & are comfortable enough to approach this person despite the fact that you don't know them, then there is no good reason to not go up & engage in some conversation or just introduce yourself to them.

And if you're not confident enough to go up to that person, then what would you do if your signals worked & they start coming your way? You don't know what you would do if you stepped up to them so what makes it so easy to deal w/ them coming to you? Nothing important has changed: you are still strangers to each other, you only see each other as attractive & nothing more, & still have to come up w/ something to talk about.

If I really like someone, say it was in school. I would go up to them and try and make conversation. I would get to know him/her as much as I could. If they interest me, then I would keep talking to them. If I see someone who I think is cute, but when he/she talks to me and we don't have a lot in common, I wouldn't go ask them out on a date. I would probably stay friends. However if we did have a lot in common, then I would give genuine smiles to him/her when they said something funny, I would spend time with them, and give them my cell number and probably say "Hey I want to get to know you more, text me anytime and we can chat"

legacyme3 : I wish I could be more open like you:O Would make things a lot easier.

What i prefer to do is make a lavishly colored poster that says "hey, want to date", then i tape it to my head and walk around for a day, see if the girl responds

Please dont actually do this.

My current Girlfriend I played the signal game. She loved retro games like me. She loved Yoshi. (This was in high school) I came to school dressed as Yoshi and said. Will you go to the dance withe me! In my best Yoshi impression which was terrible.

well from a psychology point of view it's good to kind of mimic or copy their little movements, like when they move their arms or cross them. smiling at them always helps if you're not creepy about it. i guess you have to be subtle but not too subtle. to be honest though im not the best person to be giving this advice

Oh that's easy use eye contact that's what my uncle told me

I usually say things and make expressions.. sometimes I even bite my lip lol.. its weird but yeah. Just realized I do it because my bf told me.. lol sometimes if I have enough courage though I will flat out tell them I like them and get to the point. Sometimes I do hide my feelings more than people realize and these days half the people in real life know what I'm going through in life and end up saying your immature and that's all.. it's like whatever to you because you don't know me.. you don't know what I go through and if you even had a slightest bit of care for me you would ask.. not like I would tell you but.. it would let me have hope.


Anyways Bintsy

Quick and short glances to get there attention...
It just picks up from there really.

I just stare at them. They are so stupid that they do not notice! 

Barathemos :
I think they do notice but they are just really creeped out by you staring at them.... xD

I'm pretty impatient, so after a week or so, I bluntly let them know I'm interested. No matter the outcome, I at least get rid of the wondering feeling that gnaws at me. I've known others to go months, even years, living with their feelings going unknown. Can't do that.