Title explains it all. If you've been broken up, who did the breakup? It's never mutual, it always starts out as somebody's idea, whether the other person agrees or not.

And how many times have you split up with someone? Explain your story here.

I got dumped by my ex just recently, at the beginning of September. And that hit HARD for me. I loved her a lot, but she couldn't handle a relationship, or just didn't love me anymore. I'll never know. But I've only been dumped once, since I've only had one relationship. Obviously, it was all her idea.

Been broken up with twice, and been the one TO break up only once.

First time I was broken up with was during junior year over a really stupid argument. I can't even remember what it was about. We had been best friends before dating and then after breaking up, things were never the same.

The second time a guy broke up with me was last year and he literally did it because I didn't have a car. He didn't like driving the whole five miles to my house. I really hate him now.

The one and only time I was the one to break up with someone was also last year. It was with my current boyfriend, Jake. I'd rather not get into what happened, but it needed to happen and we got back together like two days later because I decided to give him another chance. (And things have been pretty good ever since. =P)

I've broken up with somewhere between 7 and 10 girls 15 times.

I forget the exact amount because they don't really matter to me, and I never really loved them. Looking back, I barely liked them. Rather not get into specifics.

I've only been broken up with once. That was my current girlfriend (Tabi). I agree it needed to happen. I was in a bad spot, and it really woke me up. I needed to change, and I feel I have. The problem was me, and I no longer think I am a problem. Those 2 days we weren't together were the worst of my life. I found out I really needed her. I'm glad she forgave me.

Hmm...well, I seem to only had one girlfriend and she dumped me three times.  After that, I was completely done with her because she never loved me.  If I ever get back with her, I would probably be messed up in the head because I know that I am not ready to get back with her, especially when she is confused about being bisexual.

I've been in 4 relationships before. I've broken up with them all... never really liked any of them.

I've dumped a lot of girlfriends in my past.. but have only been dumped a few times myself.

So I can sort of put myself in the shoes of the girl dumping me.. but only once recently did it actually affect me when I had a girlfriend tell me off. This was because I actually loved her for about 11 years - though I can't say for sure if I still do or not, heh, figure that one out lol. I think that I still do love her but I haven't talked to her for a while now.

Ironically, about a month after we split up I started seeing someone else.

My first boyfriend I dumped.  I found him making out with his cousin in the back of the school store!  Yah so that break up had to happen!

Second one was in college and the guy hated that I was poor and got tired of trying to pay for everything. (Dude I had to pay for my own living expenses, car, insurance, rent stuff like that) all he had to do was pay for his car.   So he dumped me and went out with a richer girl that looked just like me....  Some how I did not feel bad at all knowing what a sleez bag he was.

The last relationship was a mutual dump.  I was moving away and really the relationship was fake so there was not emotional strain on either of us.  It though was a good laugh making a pretend fight in the club room~!  Ah good times~

The worst relationship was my second one the guy just cared about appearance and money.  The first one I have no idea what to think about that one.  The third one was the most fun.  It was a fun 2 year practical joke that worked and no one ever knew the truth.

First of all, I am really sorry to hear about your break-up.

As for me... I've had lots of experience with this, and it always sucks.

First boyfriend - dumped me for saying "no"
Second boyfriend - Mostly mutual break-up, I initiated because I was just the token girlfriend to hide that he was gay
Third boyfriend - Really really possessive, so I dumped him. I've made many rants about him
Fourth boyfriend - Mutual break-up, he initiated. We were and still are better off as friends.
Fifth boyfriend - Online relationship, he dumped me... claimed to have cancer. Very immature.
Sixth boyfriend - Left me for another woman after being engaged for one month, oh and I'd been supporting him financially. Still owes me money.
Seventh boyfriend - Dumped me on three occasions, all to go after other women. Found out he was cheating on me later.

I've been dumped once last September. She decided that she didn't feel wanted (despite my trying to do something with her every chance I got) and that we didn't talk enough (I tried to talk to her all the time, she was just always busy or sick). Then she took offense when I didn't compliment her new haircut the way she wanted while some other guy called her sexy. THEN I sent a fb message out to a few friends cause I got a new cell number and don't have unlimited texting, so I'm cheap like that, and she replied to it with this long, drawn-out, personal message about a new program her doctor put her on for her mild autism. To add the icing to the already flaming cake, I wasn't able to respond to her mix-up first because I was busy with the county fair and couldn't check my Facebook messages. Then there's the way she did it: changing her Facebook status to "single" and ignoring me for 3 days while I'm trying to find out if I messed up or just if her family had ended up buying a house in Florida like they wanted to and she didn't think she could handle long distance.

But anyways looking back, there was nothing to the relationship to begin with. I'm a very physical contact oriented person and I just wasn't feeling that spark, and now I'm happy with someone else. But before I realized that, she nearly gave me a heart attack.

Elara : Wow, I assume you've seen a lot. A few questions, if you are comfortable answering them.

First boyfriend: saying no to what?
Seventh boyfriend: So did you do a final breakup yourself after he cheated? Or did you find out through the grapevine that he was cheating the whole time?

bigNATE : Lucky. My ex just blocked me on her FB. Like a day ago, maybe two. I'm thinking she hates me now, and I'm hoping to be proven wrong.

Zeldisaster : That sucks man .

Zeldisaster : Sure.

First boyfriend: Saying "no" having sex in a crowded movie theater.

Seventh boyfriend: It was actually a really long and drawn out thing. After the third break-up I chased after him for seven months... pretty much the only difference was that we were not "officially" together. That stopped when I found out that he was sleeping with at least two of my best friends behind my back... both of them knew, but none told me. It ended right then, and he was lucky that he was out of the state when I found out. I'm also fairly sure that he cheated on me after we got back together the second time, but I can't get him to admit it.

Elara : You make it sound like you two are together now.

Zeldisaster : HA! No. However, despite everything we are still friends.

...As if my day hadn't already bad enough, I came home from college to find a lovely gem in my inbox. She says she feels that she rushed into the relationship and just sort of reacted when I first asked her out. She says she still loves me, just not in the way that she thought. We had a nice conversation a few hours later on the phone, and even though there were a few awkward silences, there isn't much patching up to do: I'm hurt of course, but she was as gentle as possible and still wants to be close, and on top of that I do love her, so...I can't be mad at her. It's like trying to be mad at a doctor for performing a surgery you were hoping to avoid. They did their best to make it easy on you, and you know that avoiding it would have made things worse. It still hurts afterwards, but it's better than putting it off and having a huge mess to clean up.

bigNATE : Did that just happen? Life is hard sometimes, man. Good to see you're still friends with her, and even better that she was the one who wanted to be friends. More than I can say about my situation. She unblocked me on FB, so that's good. But she still is completely avoiding me in every other way.

Glad to know that me getting a job doesn't mean a thing to her... Happiest day I've had since the breakup, and she couldn't care less. So I'm kinda mad, or sad, I don't even know.

Zeldisaster : Yeah I learned this at about 5 on Monday.
...and I feel really bad talking about a bright side when you're going through hell, but I may end up back together with her eventually. She opened up yesterday and told me that she really doesn't know what to do with herself and just doesn't wanna date anyone now. It took me about an hour of trying to convince her that I care and I wanna help her get through whatever funk she's in, but she decided she just needs a friend now and we'll see how long it takes her to feel OK again.

bigNATE : Similar story with me. She said she can't take the burden of dating anyone, but she seemed convinced that I'm, as she calls it, "a negative influence in her life." So obviously I won't be able to help if she thinks I'm the Anti-Christ. I wish I was in your shoes, you have a reason to look forward to the future... Eventually she'll realize you're right with her.

I've been in about 15 relation ships and each one of them dumped me.
Of course now that i'm in a relation ship with an amazing guy a few of them
have come crawling back and i just sit there laughing. since none of them cared really since most the relation ships only lasted a week. all tho my last broke up hit me hard.
I love him very much but he said it was best if we broke up since he's leaving for the army and he doesn't want me waiting forever he's tried to convince me he still loved me and cares and Just as i was starting to believe him he blocked me so i'm just like f*** it i may love you but your an a**.