There was an interesting conversation on the radio earlier about Valentine's Day and how some people would rather be single, others are just unlucky.

So, for those of you who want to participate, why are you single?  

Complete the sentence:  I am single because....

I am single because I haven't even tried to not be single.

I must also say I'm generally unlucky, but truth is I haven't ever tried to not be single. I wasn't popular at school, and for the last six years I've been dealing with a chronic disease in order to gain some stability in my health. That battle is now over, and I'm slowly getting back on track with everything I missed, so I will eventually give a try to stop being single and test if I'm really that unlucky in this field as well.

I'm not . But when I was it was because I wasn't really looking for love. However with time, I realized that intimacy without shared feelings leaves a gaping hole that can't be filled in any way. In my experience (to quote a famous French proverb), everything comes to those who can wait. It may come earlier or later, but it will come if your mind is ready for it.

EX Palen : When you do take the time to get to know someone, and you manage to build a friendship with someone, AND you feel like it can go further, maybe mention your recovery from your chronic disease, if you havent at that time. Sometimes, empathy can help get closer to someone, no matter how cheap it may appear to be at first.

As for me, Im single because I just havent found that person I wanted to try and get close who isnt with somebody. Lets just say I have more experience in rejection than I do with legitimate relations.

janus : Is that an unhappy face saying you're not single? Are you unhappy to be in a relationship?

That's interesting.  Go on.

I could probably name a million reasons. Or a number close to 1,000.
I'm trying to say it's not just 1 reason, it's multiple at the same time.
I'm not saying it for empathy or sympathy or whatever. I'm not really putting myself down, I just know myself.
And I know there's a couple of good reasons as to why I am.
Not physically attractive, I don't have many qualities that are valued right now (And no, I don't mean the "Nice guys" attitude.), plus I don't make myself stand out much, I'd rather watch a movie and read a book than go and be social.

Also, I'm pretty sure I am not mature enough for a relationship. So to an extent, I want to be single as to not hurt someone.

I'm single because I simply choose to. I never cared about romances. Then again, I am pretty lonely... Sometimes I do dwell on the though of having a relationship. Would my life be more meaningful? Will I finally find happiness? Things like those. I shouldn't beat myself up over it, though. If it is god's will for me not to be engaged in an relationship, then so be it. It's no problem really. But as I mentioned before, the feeling is of not being in one is just...emptiness. At least for me it is.

As it stands, I'm single because I've decided to be so. I certainly don't plan to stay single forever, but I set some very specific criteria for myself a few years back that I'm still sticking to. Call it being 'old-fashioned', weird, or whatever you feel like calling it, but I decided early on that I wanted to be in a position to treat my partner with the respect she deserves and the ability to provide for myself. To me, this includes...

-being self-sufficient (out of debt, either employed or taking college courses full time, etc)
-being mentally mature (I don't expect myself to be perfect, but I've seen too many relationships fail from people going too quickly. I want to be able to not only be the man my girl deserves, but also a man I can be proud of)
-having long-term goals (this helps me stay motivated to spend money wisely, treat people as I should, etc)

These are, of course, personal criteria. I've never held anyone else to these criteria, nor do I plan to in the future. I'm only just now finding myself fulfilling these criteria (probably by late april or early may), and I'll potentially consider getting involved in a relationship with someone then.

Ghostbear1111 : I was answering the question "are you single", and since I'm in a relationship I said I wasn't. Despite some downs I have to say that I have been living the 10 happiest years of my life so far. And the smiley was : P not : (

I am single because there is nobody around me that will actually talk to me, for starters. Secondly, I am single because I have very little common interests with girls around here. We have very little in common! I also don't attend public school. And all anybody at my youth group talks about in their school. And how their school is the best school. And the homeschooled community there has been in the same group together for their entire lives. So I am an outcast among them too.

And even despite all of that. I would like to have a job, and be able to provide for myself before meeting a girl I would want to date and eventually marry. I just want to give her, whoever she is, the best possible future. So maybe it is a good thing that I'm single right now.

I am single because I do not seize opportunities. There have been girls that, when I look back on it, have almost certainly been interested in me, but I just never really bothered to get to know them better or pick them up or flirt with them. And nowadays I'm just too quiet for anyone to know anything about me. It's not that I'm shy, I just like silence and don't talk a lot in real life.

I am single because it's a lot more fun. That and the fact I've been wronged so many times I really don't trust anybody. When girls are interested, I simply get far enough to bed them, and in the words of the overrated Jay-Z "On to the next one"

I'm single because girls don't like me lol. As far as I know only two girls have ever liked me. One was a psychopath and the other turned out to be a lesbian lol. None of the girls I am interested in reciprocate the feeling, which is why I'm single.

I am single because right now I'm not interested in dating. If somebody asked me out and I liked them I would consider it though. Waiting is key.

I am single and I am proud of being single. I never had a love my whole life nor ever will.

Mostly because being single, you can manage to do things under your own terms, and whenever you work and get money, the money is all for yourself (after expenses is taken out). Plus, I am happy by myself, I don't need a significant other to keep me happy, and it will stay like that. I won't say about what will happen in the future because anything can happen, but for the short-term, I will be happy being single.

I'm single because I've discovered that I'm attracted to unhealthy guys lol. In hindsight, I've had healthy guys show interest in me, who I just didn't feel the connection with and so I basically just seen them as friends. So I'm kind of working on my judgement-skills.

I'm single because I'm a bit different I suppose.

I'm a sort of complicated person, my past is complicated and so is my present. I've also always been a person that's more mature than other people my age which makes it hard to find people that actually understand me. Most people my age has always thought that I'm a bit weird because I'm deep and likes to analyze things.
Apart from that I'm also quite picky when it comes to boys. I want someone that can "tame" me, and someone who doesn't get "tamed" by me instead, I'm a rather strong willed person. All boyfriends I ever had has always been to easily changed. I don't want someone who always does what I want them to, I want a little challenge. Sigh, it's so hard to find the right person.... Maybe I never will.

I am single because I tend to get everybody angry.  After awhile they tend to notice I cannot be changed and that... oh heck. I am just a bad man.