It's a horrible feeling when a relationship/friendship of yours gets ruined, regardless of whether it's your fault or not. This happened to me a couple weeks ago...

I'm not sure if it will get restored or not, but today the person talked to me after barely talking to me for a few weeks. They didn't seem mad or sad about it either. I decided, after a ton of thought and hesitation, to text them an apology this afternoon but I'm not sure if they'll ever receive it or answer it. So far it's been over an hour and no response, and I'm struggling not to get very nervous. I need to have faith that they'll see it. If they don't I'll have to talk to them about it at school on Monday. I've had faith but I'm still getting very nervous.

All of my Christian vizzed friends, please pray for me that this situation will end OK. I know there aren't details in this post at all, sorry about that. I just thought it would be a good idea to hide what's going on for now.

Eniitan : This is what I was telling you about in my private message.

Most phones capables of texting nowadays have a notification ping to tell you if the phone you texted did indeed receive the text. Did you hear the notification ping, is it in your notification log? If the persons phone isn't on when you text them then you won't get the notification until they power on again. So... Maybe their phone isn't on and they simply haven't gotten it yet? Far fetched ja but its a possibility. You already said they acted with non-hostility when you last interacted with them face to face, so thats a good sign. Unless they acted cordially, then their probably still a little upset but still willing to fake it when they see you. Not the best, but still 'good.' How was your text worded? Did you give the impression you want a reply back?

I hate these kinds of situations. Waiting to talk to someone again when things aren't right is tough. All you want to do is find a way to make things right so that things can go back to normal.


I hope that you hear back soon and that things are good. Give it time though. It's only been a few weeks and they may not be over it yet. At this point there isn't much else you can do now that you have apologized.

Geeo actually posted on my thread, and it was pretty much to the same question. You should check his reply out.

Chindogu : I'm not sure if they're faking it or not, but we were alone in a room away from everyone else, and they decided to help me out with what I was doing. I've learned from the past that they have a tight schedule so they might not see my text for a while.

It was worded calmly and I made the person aware that I was regretful about what happened in the past. I also said that it's their choice whether they forgive me or not and that either way, I needed to give them the apology. I didn't give them an impression that I wanted a reply back because it was more of a text to think about rather than to respond to right away. If they don't respond I might ask them on Monday if they received it.

geeogree : They've really seemed to be over it lately, acting cheery (which they don't always do). I will give it time since I've had to do that for one of my friends once. I almost lost that friend but I didn't because of the way I handled it with patience.

Time is able to cure most wounds, I can assure you. If they acted somewhat friendly, then they are over it. It's rare to openly say it if the topic isn't brought on, so it's simply an incident that both them and you have decided to forget like if it never happened.

I'm in for saying that you shouldn't talk to them about this matter anymore. I blocked two of my friends on whatsapp for doing a very bad thing to me and a common friend, but I got over it and unblocked them, to the point that our friendship now is even better than before, even though none of us have done anything special to strengthen it.

I don't want to bring up a discussion here, but I think we should also mention the age factor. Between 14-18 years old is a dangerous span, you can do a lot of mistakes, and some people aren't as willing as to overcome it like they would after that span. So then again, if you apologized in a way they can see it (I mean that you don't have to do anything else for them to see), let it be. Bringing out the topic again can reopen the wound, and personally I'm not a fan of bringing back topics me or my close friends want to forget about.

I'm sure they will see the text before Monday, if they haven't already, because being friendly to you again could mean that they have seen and accepted it. My suggestion is that you forget about that incident, there's nothing more you can do about it, and if they seem friendly again rekindle your friendship.

EX Palen : I didn't even want to talk to them about it since I want to move on, I just felt I needed to apologize before we both could move on. I thought it would make things better if I apologized first.

They texted me last night right before I was about to go to bed kindly asking me not to talk to them. They didn't say the word "ever" or even seem mad. They didn't even use an exclamation point. The only thing I can (and will) do at this point is listen to them, try my best to move on, and hope that they eventually do too. I think they just want plenty more time to get over it. Maybe even a year but the wait will be worth it if it happens In fact, even if it doesn't happen it'll be worth it. This is a great experience to learn from and I already know I'll be OK!

I hope this situation gets fixed soon. It's never fun to wait on replies when things go wrong between you and a friend. It's one of the scarier experiences out there in my opinion. Time usually heals things like that, but a long time of not talking can also be a bad thing at times too. Anyway I'll be praying for you dude.

A user of this : I appreciate that, thank you

Local Mods : I've been doing very well with moving on from this, so now this thread can be closed too!