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Why hasn't my crush messaged me back? Serious answers only.

 

09-14-15 08:12 PM
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So there was this girl I liked who I added recently on Facebook and Instagram. She does NOT know I like her. She does NOT have an Interested In on Facebook, or a relationship status listed, or any romantic photos. We haven't even seen each other in a few semesters, since Spring 2014.

She accepted me on Facebook and answered my first message and in a receptive, non-one-worded answer. She said "I'm good! Thanks for asking! How are you?" and I replied back and asked her what classes she was taking. No response.

Sent another one to ask her when she'll be back at our school here in New York (from her Instagram photos, she was back home). No response. Not even a Seen.

Then I requested to follow her on Instagram. She accepted AND followed back. I asked her on INSTAGRAM via private message if she was at school a couple of days ago because I THOUGHT I saw someone who looked like her, but I didn't say anything to that person because I wasn't sure if it was her or not.

Guess what? No response. Not even a Seen (again).

What's with her???

I'm trying to forget about her romantically and tell myself that I'm under NO obligation to reply to her anymore if she ever DOES mesage me again, but seriously, what's with her???

I mean, if I didn't like someone even as a PERSON, I would NOT follow them back on Instagram!
So there was this girl I liked who I added recently on Facebook and Instagram. She does NOT know I like her. She does NOT have an Interested In on Facebook, or a relationship status listed, or any romantic photos. We haven't even seen each other in a few semesters, since Spring 2014.

She accepted me on Facebook and answered my first message and in a receptive, non-one-worded answer. She said "I'm good! Thanks for asking! How are you?" and I replied back and asked her what classes she was taking. No response.

Sent another one to ask her when she'll be back at our school here in New York (from her Instagram photos, she was back home). No response. Not even a Seen.

Then I requested to follow her on Instagram. She accepted AND followed back. I asked her on INSTAGRAM via private message if she was at school a couple of days ago because I THOUGHT I saw someone who looked like her, but I didn't say anything to that person because I wasn't sure if it was her or not.

Guess what? No response. Not even a Seen (again).

What's with her???

I'm trying to forget about her romantically and tell myself that I'm under NO obligation to reply to her anymore if she ever DOES mesage me again, but seriously, what's with her???

I mean, if I didn't like someone even as a PERSON, I would NOT follow them back on Instagram!
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09-16-15 09:22 AM
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I hate to break it to you but the most likely answer is just that she doesn't care. If you haven't actually seen her since spring of '14 and you two were never close in the first place, you've probably fallen completely off her radar and she'd rather leave it sitting there unread than end up in an awkward (for her) conversation with somebody she only kinda knows and hasn't seen in a year and a half. Alternatively she's just too busy for an actual conversation. Accepting a follow request and following back takes a few seconds; if she replies once it gives you the notion of a conversation (as evidenced by the Facebook exchange) and she just doesn't have time for that. Fingers crossed it's just the latter for your sake!
I hate to break it to you but the most likely answer is just that she doesn't care. If you haven't actually seen her since spring of '14 and you two were never close in the first place, you've probably fallen completely off her radar and she'd rather leave it sitting there unread than end up in an awkward (for her) conversation with somebody she only kinda knows and hasn't seen in a year and a half. Alternatively she's just too busy for an actual conversation. Accepting a follow request and following back takes a few seconds; if she replies once it gives you the notion of a conversation (as evidenced by the Facebook exchange) and she just doesn't have time for that. Fingers crossed it's just the latter for your sake!
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Well, she could probably have forgotten about it because she became busy with something or went MIA. I personally don't answer back all friend requests I receive nor I answer PMs on Facebook simply because I don't feel like it. Probably she does the same.

Have you tried to open up a random chat on Facebook? A friend of mine once did that to me and we ended up having a nice conversation after years of not seeing each other. Try to catch her online, and open up a conversation, like "Long time no talk!" or something like that. If she ignores that as well, forget about her and walk your own path without looking back.

I don't want to start a heavy discussion here, but I can't help asking myself a question: What if she knows about your interests and doesn't want to be your friend because of it? Coming to think about it, it's the most common answer in these cases, sadly enough. 
Well, she could probably have forgotten about it because she became busy with something or went MIA. I personally don't answer back all friend requests I receive nor I answer PMs on Facebook simply because I don't feel like it. Probably she does the same.

Have you tried to open up a random chat on Facebook? A friend of mine once did that to me and we ended up having a nice conversation after years of not seeing each other. Try to catch her online, and open up a conversation, like "Long time no talk!" or something like that. If she ignores that as well, forget about her and walk your own path without looking back.

I don't want to start a heavy discussion here, but I can't help asking myself a question: What if she knows about your interests and doesn't want to be your friend because of it? Coming to think about it, it's the most common answer in these cases, sadly enough. 
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She probably forgotten who you are :/
She probably forgotten who you are :/
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Thanks guys. But I have another issue with her. Today, she posted a photo of her and this guy on her Instagram.
I commented and asked "Cute! Is that your boyfriend?"
I meant for it to sound casual and platonic, just like how any other female friend would ask.
But then she deleted the comment!!!
Why would she do this???

My motivation behind liking the photo and commenting on it (I would NEVER tell her this!!!)
was to find out for sure if she was even single or not
And I figured if she replied with an answer, not only would I benefit from it
but so would others who have a crush on her too (I mean, she's REALLY pretty!!!)
If I got an answer & IF she really does have a boyfriend, which I didnt get, we would not have to waste so much time and energy on her, right?

Weird things are, we're STILL following each other on Instagram and shes STILL my Facebook friend....
Thanks guys. But I have another issue with her. Today, she posted a photo of her and this guy on her Instagram.
I commented and asked "Cute! Is that your boyfriend?"
I meant for it to sound casual and platonic, just like how any other female friend would ask.
But then she deleted the comment!!!
Why would she do this???

My motivation behind liking the photo and commenting on it (I would NEVER tell her this!!!)
was to find out for sure if she was even single or not
And I figured if she replied with an answer, not only would I benefit from it
but so would others who have a crush on her too (I mean, she's REALLY pretty!!!)
If I got an answer & IF she really does have a boyfriend, which I didnt get, we would not have to waste so much time and energy on her, right?

Weird things are, we're STILL following each other on Instagram and shes STILL my Facebook friend....
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Just to be as honest as possible, just because a person follows you on Facebook and Instagram doesn't automatically mean that she likes you in real life. I know this sounds weird, but sometimes (especially younger people) people want as many friends on these social media sites so they look "cool"

Honestly, it seems that maybe she's not interested in you the same way that you are interested in her. I would just try to hang back a little and see if she ever responds. You've sent her several messages without a response...continuing to message her would probably only come off as annoying.
Just to be as honest as possible, just because a person follows you on Facebook and Instagram doesn't automatically mean that she likes you in real life. I know this sounds weird, but sometimes (especially younger people) people want as many friends on these social media sites so they look "cool"

Honestly, it seems that maybe she's not interested in you the same way that you are interested in her. I would just try to hang back a little and see if she ever responds. You've sent her several messages without a response...continuing to message her would probably only come off as annoying.
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Jordanv78 : Yea I dont think I'll say anything anymore....at least not for a while....I still kinda think that deleting the comment was a bit rude though....I mean, if shes gonna post a photo of she and some guy in a romantic pose, she should expect it to get commented on right?
Jordanv78 : Yea I dont think I'll say anything anymore....at least not for a while....I still kinda think that deleting the comment was a bit rude though....I mean, if shes gonna post a photo of she and some guy in a romantic pose, she should expect it to get commented on right?
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I would seem that others are right, she has forgotten you and/or doesn't much care about you, as it would seem you two were just acquaintances, correct? I'm not sure why exactly you are interested in her anymore than she is in you, but I'm not here to pester.

Best thing to do is just play the waiting game, and play the waiting game, and play the waiting game...
I would seem that others are right, she has forgotten you and/or doesn't much care about you, as it would seem you two were just acquaintances, correct? I'm not sure why exactly you are interested in her anymore than she is in you, but I'm not here to pester.

Best thing to do is just play the waiting game, and play the waiting game, and play the waiting game...
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Deleting the comment was rude but only because she didn't message you a reason.  It could be that there is a story behind the picture.  Maybe it is her crush, or for some other reason doesn't want to have a comment like that about the picture but not giving you a reason is not cool.  She seems fairly indifferent towards you I would not pursue but at the same time I wouldn't shut her out either, though if the lines of communication come up I'd want an explanation for deleting the comment.
Deleting the comment was rude but only because she didn't message you a reason.  It could be that there is a story behind the picture.  Maybe it is her crush, or for some other reason doesn't want to have a comment like that about the picture but not giving you a reason is not cool.  She seems fairly indifferent towards you I would not pursue but at the same time I wouldn't shut her out either, though if the lines of communication come up I'd want an explanation for deleting the comment.
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fightorace : I totally agree with you, but what do you mean by "its her crush"? Who is? I am? He is? They seemed to be in a romance-like pose in the photo, so I assume its her boyfriend but I "asked" just to be sure....and idk if this matters or not but she recently posted another picture with him but then deleted it like a few minutes later....uh, what's up with that???
fightorace : I totally agree with you, but what do you mean by "its her crush"? Who is? I am? He is? They seemed to be in a romance-like pose in the photo, so I assume its her boyfriend but I "asked" just to be sure....and idk if this matters or not but she recently posted another picture with him but then deleted it like a few minutes later....uh, what's up with that???
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EX Palen : Sorry. I'm just coming back to this thread now. I don't see how she'd know unless she really DID skim my Facebook/Instagram profile....now what?
EX Palen : Sorry. I'm just coming back to this thread now. I don't see how she'd know unless she really DID skim my Facebook/Instagram profile....now what?
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bigger0gamer : Well, I had a crush on her. I thought she was really cute. Kinda like how straight girls/women say that there's a cute guy at school/a guy they have a crush on.
bigger0gamer : Well, I had a crush on her. I thought she was really cute. Kinda like how straight girls/women say that there's a cute guy at school/a guy they have a crush on.
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Some people do not hold the same standard as you. she might have added you on whatever just because she could. It's a bit unrealistic to think she added you for a reason and if she refuses to communicate with you, she probably doesn't care.

I'm not trying to be mean but you can't hold others to your standards or expect them to think like you do.
Some people do not hold the same standard as you. she might have added you on whatever just because she could. It's a bit unrealistic to think she added you for a reason and if she refuses to communicate with you, she probably doesn't care.

I'm not trying to be mean but you can't hold others to your standards or expect them to think like you do.
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