Ok I'm not gonna give suggestions to you Zeldisaster. Thats just not fair. Haha. But JusTReal, I think that the best gift you can give is one you made yourself. The fact that you put your own time and effort into it makes it great.

Somethimng you made is cool. Or even just doing something like cooking for her and going on. Picnic is fun. As long as she knows that she matters to you she will be happy. Ooh, write her a letter telling her how you feel...or poetry or a song if your better at that.

You will know she likes it if she brags to her friends about it. Or if she acts the same way a day later.

If you are paranoid that she might cheat then first you need to ask yourself why you fear this. See my response to a similar question a few posts back. For the most part we are loyal as long as you treat us well though, and you have to remember that we are more socially intimate than guys so what you see as flirting we see as being friendly. But yeah, as before, communication is key.

If she wants you to say it that often then it is most likely insecurity. We get like that. Don't refuse to stop doing it but ask her (polietly) why she needs to here it so much and let her know it has you worried that you aren't treating her right or something. It could just be that she likes hearing it. You never know. Just make sure that you make it clear that you do love her and that you won't love her any less if you don't say it all the time.

Zeld: you can't be 100% sure. I've been with my wife for 6 years now (marriage and dating) and while I don't think she would ever cheat on me.... I can never know for sure. The worst thing I could do is to not trust her. If I stopped trusting her then the relationship would suffer because of that. So my suggestion would be to trust that she won't cheat on you. It's tough to do early on but as the relationship progresses it becomes easier.

Ok, so some of the advice you all gave worked, other advice didn't. Let's chalk it up to "it depends on the girl" but yeah. Because of that fact, all this advice is hit-or-miss, honestly. Could make it insanely better, or may not work at all. It just depends on how the girl in question acts...

How's ^that^ for feedback, Elara? Haha

My advice to you all is that if you wanna try to figure out if a woman has the potential to do anything, cheat on you, drugs, alcohol, break up with you, anything, ask her about HER PAST. If she was in a car crash long ago, she's more-than-likely not gonna tell you that up-front, even though her actions and fears may revolve around that. You may just have to flat-out ask her about it. If she used to hang around a ton of guys all the time, even if she's your wife now and she says that "you're the only guy who matters" (girls ALWAYS say that), that still could end up where she misses the attention of all those other guys, thus you should be cautious. And you should ask about it (especially if you notice she still keeps a lot of them around).

Good luck trying to discredit ^this^ advice, where a girl's actions revolve around her past. But you're all welcome to try!

I do not disagree at all. I would assume that the past would always come up when talking. Of course, you have to keep in mind that the same thing applies to guys.

If you like a girl, and thing seems to be going well for quite a while, she likes you back... but gradually you can see her see her starting to like you more as "just friends" or "as a brother" what can you do to stop that?

Are you sure she's not just getting more comfortable around you? Or is it less affection or something like that?

Really, that is a tough question because I am not sure what you can do. There is always the sweet eomantic gesture/sweep her off her feet plan... which is hard to do and has no certainty of helping. There is doing little things to show that you care. There is analyzing your actions to see what is causing the shift and seeing if you can reverse the trend. That is all I can think of with the information given.

Sorry for so many questions but for me its quite serious.

1: What does it mean when a girl asks you things like well...have you ever......choked your chicken?

2: How can you tell if a girl hates you or likes you because this one girl stands up for me but acts like I'm the weirdest boy ever when she has to talk to me.

3: Also this may sound creepy to many but would it be meant to humiliate a boy if a girl asked them to rub her foot?

Thanks for listening!

-Nicker/ND4/UP1.

1)It means she is curious because she's heard that all guys do. Just be honest.

2)I don't think she likes you in that way... I mean, maybe... but it could just be that she defends you due to her own sense of right and wrong. Could you clarify on her actions when talking to you?

3) It entirely depends on context. It can be, or it could be a sign of trust, or it could just be that she really wants her foot rubbed by someone else since it feels better.

Well by her actions I mean like because I have a crush on her but ever since then she has acted like this. For example when I had given a piece of paper to my friend Dan and I saw that she didn't have any paper I offered some to her. Only to be rudely denied "No I don't want paper with Mark (my rl name.) germs on it." But then when Dan gave her the paper that I had given him she took it from him and said that I was jealous of her being friends with Dan(who used to go out with her.)

I hope that cleared it up better Elara.

-Nicker/ND4/UP1.

It could me that she:


A.

Originally posted by Elara

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Defends you due to her own sense of right and wrong

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B. Isn't sure how to act so everything comes out wrong
C. Is trying to make you jealous
D. Is trying to make you two guys fight just for kicks
E. Is just plain mean
F. Is completely oblivious


We don't really know her personality so it could be anyone's guess.

Well thanks for atleast trying to awnser ladies. *Hugs Surgiac*

But thank you the most Surg. Becuase you gave options of why the girl was defending me.

-Nicker/ND4/UP1.

Or she's trying to make you two fight to see who cares more about here. Some girls do that... don't know why. But yeah, like Surgiac said, it's something that is hard to tell from our end.

You could always just ask why she acts that way yet defends you.

Ok I know that I said before that I wouldn't have any more questions, but then this idea came up. And, sorry Elara, but I'm gonna need multiple opinions on this one. Guy, girl, as long as you can answer it, have at it.

What sort of actions define the word "flirting?"

Apparently there's a bunch of ways a girl can flirt with you, and I wanted to have a point of reference for the future. Lol

And how would you know she's flirting with you over something like IM or text message?

So what's it like to never have been kicked in the balls? Lol, I am asking anything.

What do you imagine it's like, and what do you think the equivalent would be on girls?

Lmao I wanna answer this one!!! Please?

Ok, BTowns. First off, lets say I do know of girls getting kicked between the legs, and getting punched in the boobs. Both hurt as an equivalent if they're aimed right (so I've heard them say to me, never done it myself) So yeah. If she gets punched in the chest, expect her to scream just like we do. And if your shoe impales her pelvic bone between her legs, expect her to drop just like we do. It hurts. (so I've heard)

Heh. Ive never been kicked between the legs before, but I guess the pelvic bone does hurt when I sit on it too hard, hrmm...
..But then again, a blow hard enough to get your bones does sound painful, regardless of which part of the body it hits...
..Eh, I dont know. Ive never been kicked between the legs before. Just my opinion, hrmm.

As for that flirting thing. I dont know, perhaps its when a girl gets a little *too* friendly with a guy...? As in, way more friendly then how she would normally react with her friends..? Including guy-friends.
Fluttering eyelids... raising the pitch of their voice..they should probably be signs..I suppose.
..Gah. I'm just too unexperienced in this. But I might learn something from this thread, no..?

I've been kicked in the crotch before, and trust me it frigging hurts. I don't know if I would call it the same kind of hurt, but it does drop you to your knees.

Flirting... that one is really hard to define so it's good that you are getting multiple opinions. Problem is there is play-flirting and then flirting. Play-flirting is what you see us do a lot with our best friends (female or male), jokes about being sexy and "you didn't say that last night" kind of thing. Flirting... well, I'm sure you know what she does when she flirts with you, right? It varies a lot from girl to girl. Usually it's a lot of staring when you don't think he's looking, compliments or come-ons put in a funny way so you don't seem like you are flirting. We try to be subtle more often than not because we want the guy to make the first move. Talking fast, or slower than normal (nerves). Fidgiting with things like clothes or hair, trying to look pretty, things like that.

As the creator of the site isn't even around, and it's more a less a everyone asks any girl something, it's not much a "Your forum" type of thread. I'll move this over to the Girlz and Guyz, and I really hope it doesn't affect it's popularity.

By the way, a big thanks to the other girls, especially Elara, who have been answering all our questions.

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