So my friend asked me a question "What should I do" 
"Do i do it?"
"How are we going to hide it?

I need advice from ths great community. My bro likes this girl ... Really likes this girl they are close nuff said. and ever since they found out what happened... He's been very confused. and she's confused. And they didn't know they were second cousins.

So do I tell him . Drop her. Or Do what you love. 

(I met her father) ... scary



I mean second cousins isn't that bad is it? Yeah they related... but its not like brother and sisters and first cousin...... etc

But You all can help me pls >3

I still consider 2nd cousins somewhat incestful. If they were 3rd cousins then it is all fair game since it's further apart in the relationship.

While it is a little incest-ish, it is far better than if they were 1st cousins (that would have been more awkward). Also 1st cousins relationships can be prohibited by laws (some American states don't allow 1st Cousins to marry, but second cousins are okay).

I would say they are okay to date, just because their parents were/are 1st cousins doesn't mean that children of 1st cousins are not allowed to date each other. It might be awkward where you are meeting the family (like you said about the father), but if both parents believe that they are good for each other, than whatever family relationship that existed before they were dating will take a back seat.

Now is the family close and do their parents see each other on a regular basis (like Thanksgiving, birthdays, Christmas, etc)? If there is no formal relationship between the 1st cousins, than will make things better for 2nd cousins. However, if the 1st cousins do interact with each other on some basis, it could make things difficult but not impossible for them to date. If the parents are not close to each other, than the 2nd cousins should pursue the relationship as if they were strangers.

I also suggest that they don't hide the relationship because that could make things worse. If both sides are worried about their parents reaction, than ask them if it would be okay to date; thou they should ask the question in a way that the parents believe that they are thinking about a relationship, not if the relationship they are currently in is okay. If the parents don't seem to mind, then date and reveal the relationship after a while. If the parents have a problem with it, than its not the end of the world and they should date; but wait longer to reveal the relationship so that the parent who disagrees can see how this guy/girl he/she is with makes them happy.

That is my advice, and hope you keep us posted.

Do not try to stop something that they have going on. If they feel okay continuing the relationship, do not discourage them. In fact, it would be better to give them some encouragement. The odds are that many people would be against a relationship of that nature, and they would likely need all the moral support that they can get. 

My family is very close. Our second cousins are just as close as our first cousins. So this answer may be a little biased, but I say that that is still incest. If I were you, I would tell them that they should probably break up, as they are still family. That is just my opinion.

Well, cousins are legal. And 2nd cousins really aren't even related. I think you should tell him the truth since he is your friend, but let him decide for himself if he wants to keep going out with her, or if he wants to just be... cousins.

Here is the update;

So, they tried to work things out, but unfortunately they figured it's just not going too, The family is too close. My friend said that they were going to try fwb (friends with benefits) and they did, but he said it's not worth the feeling you get. So the update is, they are sticking to friends.  


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