Hey guys. Its me again. I just made a thread a few hours ago about my girl and engagement rings and you all have been helpful. I still want to know more about that subject so please keep letting me know. This thread isnt really family friendly but im gonna try to make it that way. I was starting to think that maybe my girl doesnt love me for me but loves me because of what i can "do". Ever since the last couple of months things have been getting harder in our relationship. But... every time we try to safely recreate our version of the birds and the bees it fixes everything. Then that night and the days after thats all she talks to me about. We cant really hold a conversion without her getting mad and hanging up. Which is almost every time we talk on the phone. She even a few timea broke up with me for no reason just so i can ask her out again. Her reason for doing that... because its cute. Im very shy. Ive never asked a female including her out. But she keeps making me do it. I love her to death and i dont want to break her heart since i hate hurting others. But how can you tell if someone loves you for you... or for your "fun time". Please help me on this. Its tearing me apart. I dont know if she honestly loves me or not. Please guys and girls... i need help :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(  i am literally losing my mind because ive been thinking about this. Its affecting my sleep, the way i eat, and my health :'( :'( :'( :'(  please... help me figure this out. Im begging you guys. Any help at all.

I will be honest with you, that sounds like a grade A example of a toxic relationship. If you honestly think that she is worth it, continue the relationship, but I would recommend you confront her with your feelings, even if it may endanger your relationship. What she is doing is not fair to you. It is pretty difficult to tell if someone loves you for you, since you really cannot get inside someone else's head, but this just seems like she is toying with you, to put it bluntly. Your best option is to confront her about it, even if it may end with some sad results. Or not, maybe wait for some other people to post ideas, I am probably not the best source for this sort of thing, but it seems like one of the few options that may actually help you turn your relationship in a positive direction. Otherwise, ending is might be a good solution. 

The fact that she keeps breaking up with you sounds like a red flag to me and all the other things don't sound good either.



I agree with sop281, you need to talk to her, and if you can't talk to her about the relationship, then I think that your relationship shouldn't continue, just a personal opinion.

It is a terrible relationship.  Run.  Seriously.

If she keeps breaking up with you and wanting you to ask her out is not a good thing, This has happened to me before and it does not turn out good. Trust me. You just need to get yourself out of that relationship because she sounds a little crazy. This story is almost exactly like what happened to me.

Trust me, you will find someone sooooo much better and when you do you'll realize how "toxic" this relationship is. They will treat you so much better and you will like it.

Thanks everyone... i do need to end it. There just one problem... ive tried in the past to end it multiple different times and every time i felt like i am a donkey and like im scum and end up not doing it. Idk if im too nice or what but i honestly dont know how to end it without feeling like its my fault.