Okay So yesterday I went over to this guys house that I like. His parents were at work and we were just chillin...So we were playing old Pokémon games having a good time and then we went and had lunch..then went out for Gelato... When we were eating our Gelato I kissed him...nothing serious just a kiss. Then we went back to his house and went in his room to watch a movie. So in the middle of the movie we started making out...Which was fine because he was a good kisser but anyway... He undid his belt buckle...Now I thought he was just you know getting comfy because his belt was to tight. So I ignored that...Then he grabbed my hips..Like normal...Then he reached inside my shirt and well uh..."felt me up" I took his hands out of my shirt... And then we kept kissing. ( I let this slide because hes a teenage boy..I gave him a pass) Them he took off his pants. At that point I was like wtf. But then he like layed on top of me....then he started to unbutton my jeans and I pushed him off... I was flirting with him all day...and  I put my hand in his back pocket of his jeans but I wasn't trying to seduce him... I yelled at him he apologized like a million times then dropped me off at my house and was a gentlemen... I'm not going to report him because I really like him...And I think I was giving him the wrong signs, Plus has a teenage boy with raging hormones and I'm H.A.W.T. My friends say I should report Him..and I'm wondering... Should I let him off with a warning and be on high alert or should I tell somebody?   
Lets please keep this in the vizzed community don't tell your parents or call the police..I will handle it..Im almost an adult! 

I remember we was discussing about this....its how young boys and girls are. I think you should only make out when you are ready for such relationship. Other wise don't do it at all. Although you like the guy it is up to you if you want to report him or not. People make mistakes its how we learn from them, that it effects us in a way...

Glaceonwhisper : Maybe from his point of view he thought you were really trying to hit on him when on the other hand you really wasn't try to. You just wanted to spend some time with him and didn't want things to go that far. At least not yet, I agree with Enii that you should only make out when your ready for that kind of relationship. Everyone deserves a second chance and it's really up to you if you want to report him or not.

I guess it depends on a number of factors.

1. Was this your first time being with him (dating I mean), or have you two been going out for a while?

2. What is his age? If he was younger then you I would let it slide, but if he was older (18-19) then that could give some pause.

3. By putting your hand in his back pocket were you just taking your "makeout stance" or were attempting to squeeze him? If you were attempting to squeeze, that could have been taken as a sign of flirting/seducing.

I would say that this was a mixed signals case. You two were making out at first. The belt buckle undoing might have been a clear sign (what guy in a similar situation would undue his belt buckle for any other reason besides...well you know), that might have been the time to have spoken up.

That being said you did the right thing by getting him to stop feeling him up, if you were not ready to have sex.

I would say that you let him side a bit, if you do end up reporting this; it can screw up his life (and I doubt you want to do that given that its clear you like this guy). I'm not saying that you shouldn't report this at all; but it seems like this was a case of signals being mixed up. Give him a warning that you want a serious relationship first, but don't tell him outright to never pull that kind of thing again as that sounds mean.

Also I wouldn't tell your parents or his parents about what happened as that will make things worse. Its your decision about what you want to proceed. If you are going to report, then tell your parents as they should be the ones to proceed with police. Also it would help to write down the events that transpired for future reference if you wish to proceed, that way you can recall most of what happened (not saying that you won't).

Also this might be more of a topic for trusted and elite members given the maturity of the subject. I'll let you decide if you want the mods to move this thread. But given this is on the café, I'm not sure how comfortable you are with a subject like this being available to everyone on the board rather then to those who are trusted/elites.

Good luck with whatever you decide and hopefully you post your decision as well (not that you don't have to, but if your going to report you might want additional help).

Oldschool41 : Okay well 

1. We aren't going out..its more casual... 
2. Hes older
3. I was not trying to grab his butt

And ya that's what  i thought... and I really like him..So i don't wanna ruin his life..and my dad should stay as far away from this as possible...  

Glaceonwhisper : Okay, that helps a bit more.

I would still let it slide a bit. I think he got the message by your refusal and the relationship is as you said casual/early stage of a relationship. Clearly he likes you (otherwise he wouldn't have done what he did) and as you said you like him, so try to put this aside and let the relationship progress further. However if he does this again, you should report or at least stay away from him; but I think he got the message given that he apologized after.

Like you said and I mentioned before, this was a case of mixed signals (even thou after you brushed off him feeling you, that should have been a clear sign). Brush it off for the most part, but keep it in the back of your mind encase something like this happens again.

He stopped when you told him to. Why would you report him? He didn't rape you or anything. It was in the heat of the moment and when you told him to stop, he was respectful and he stopped and he apologized as well. I don't really see anything wrong with this. It is just going to be awkward between you guys now. He didn't harm you, right?