So my mom says that this is not the proper age for that kind of thing and me ; being the teen that I am ; did the exact opposite as she said and now I have a gf . So what do you guys think is the proper age to start dating or be in a relationship ? 

Well there isn't really a "proper" age. You can have feelings for someone no matter how old you are. If you mean like a sexual relationship, I would say 9th grade is when the "proper" age starts. That doesn't mean you are getting pregnant at 14, but that is around the age where you start "experimenting".

tgags123 : Ok . That sounds legitimate . I am not going to even ask you what you met by experimenting but I am sure I know what it means already Thanks for your thoughts and views

People develop socially and emotionally at different rates so there is no set age.  I was 14 when I had my first girlfriend.  I think it's good for kids to develop friendships and relationships at every stage of their life so they can learn about themselves and be socialized into society.  If someone doesn't date anyone or doesn't try going out until they're in college or older, they'll have no idea how to handle themselves.  Then they're behind and they won't try to date anyone because they're afraid of failure, they're intimidated, etc.

As long as you can handle the emotional stress of a relationship, you can date.  You have to learn eventually.

Well, I would say 16 or 17 plus for a relationship to stay strong but, sure, it depends on the partners as well. I heard many people saying that the perfect age for a relationship is 18 but, in my opinion, I think some lower ages like 16 or 17 can have a good relationship too!

Depends on the type of relationship. I would say for a non 'physical' relationship, there are a few factors. One, can you be mature about it? If you have to flaunt that you have a girl/boy friend, always have to be around them, etc, then I would say you aren't ready. Flaunting is just publicity, not responsible affection. Getting super worked up about it shows that you probably can't really handle it. Always having to be around the person shows that you are a bit obsessive. Mature. As for physical relationship, I would say that it is appropriate if you can RESPONSIBLY handle the possible consequences. Now, responsibly does not mean both in the relationship stay living with their parents and the parents have to be practically doing the REAL work involved with parenting. If you can't support the kid AND give it the time it needs, then no, it isn't appropriate. So many teens think that they can get babysitters for their kids so they can go out every other night. That is not giving the kid the time they should have with their parents. If that is what you do, you are still in your selfish years, and have no business having a kid. Everyone has their selfish years that they need to go through first. 

Obviously there is the age limit of 16 years old for a marriage and sexual intercource but really there is not a good reason why a 7 year old could  not have a girl friend. I think you can start where you want, but there are limits. When you are young the only things you really do is hug and hold hands and then maybe the odd kiss, all so happy and sweet but it is not serious. When you get a little older boys will begin to find girls more sexually attractive so relationships are almost more required for some. I have heard rumors that a couple in my year at school had dry sex, which is basically sex but with clothes on if you did not know. I am not surprised because if I had the chance I would take it but there is the judgements you will get, it is probably worse off for the girls as well.

Well if u want my opinion, then I'd say 16 or 17 would probably be appropriate age for a relationship, but it is really up to the parents, and I gotta say that if a teenage girl gets pregnant then DONT her and her parents go CRYIN 2 me!!

Awesome-Kid :

If you didn't use protection then why would not they cry to you if you are an adult yourself? Or suppoused to be one.

But yes, 16-17 is fine.

I don't think there is really a proper age for a relationship, but if I have to say what is a proper age, probably 16-18 years of age.

But I truly think it is whether you are mature about being in a relationship and have genuine feelings about it.  Then again, that's just me (who has never been in a relationship) and my thoughts.

I was the same age as you when I got my first girlfriend. My parents didn't mind at all. It was a pretty good one as it lasted six months and then we had a mutual break up and remained friends. Now I'm 16 and we might get back together. I always thought middle school dating was weird. I think once you enter high school, it's fine to date, but that's just my thoughts. My parents' thoughts too.

Mr. Zed : Most people stare dating around 13 to 14 so is some what within 7th through 12th grade 

I think when you start to mentally mature is when it would be ok for you to start dating. For example, my mind matured more quickly than many other people's, and I started dating in 7th grade. However, the normal age for that is around 14 or 15. For some people it takes longer, for others it happens much more quickly.

Well I think 14 is okay I first started dating when I was 14.. it's a big thing.. especially sense it was online. Honestly I don't think there is a proper age unless your mature enough to handle the heart break which I haven't been several times especially at that age. I was playing an online game at the time and I started talking to a guy. He then asked me out.. he was 20 and I was 14.. which is a big deal.. but I didn't know any better at the time. Basically we talked everyday and got to know each other really well it was really different for me especially sense he started telling me that he loved me and cared for me.. he even said when I got about 18 he would come get me.. a lot of things happened in our relationship then a couple of weeks later he broke up with me and told me it was because he was leaving me to go back to his first love.. I cried for a week.. which was ultimately my first heart break.. a lot of my online friends were there for me and told him what he did was wrong because it was.. then one day I was reading a conversation that he was having with a bunch of other people in clan chat. They started talking about creepy stuff... like they started saying they were werewolfs and vampires and started talking about this other world and evil mastermind that was going to come and destroy the earth.. and all the people.. they weren't role playing or joking either.. because some were saying be careful she might be reading the chat.. he then procceded to say that oh she's probably not even paying attention to the chat.. sense she doesn't a lot of the times.. and I sat there and started laughing but was in fear with the things they were talking about.. I believe God got me out of that relationship for a reason.. because it was going to be something he didn't want me to experience which was evil and sadness.. depression. I then spent several months just talking with friends and stuff making new friends and just hanging out online talking with them. I then turned 15 and I met a guy.. named Aaron.. he was my age actually and was really sweet but had so many problems it seemed I was trying to get him to feel better in some way.. I consoled him talked with him and we started dating. It was that normal 15 year old relationship but we started to grow distant.. he started doing sports more than coming online and I just stopped playing sometimes then he just randomly stopped talking to me which broke my heart. I think it was because when he saw my picture he didn't like it.. but I will never know you know. I sent him a long message telling him my feelings for him and how much I missed him and I wanted us to get back together he sent back a really short message that said Whoe now.. it's okay I miss you to... but we never talked again.. I still have him on my Facebook friends list.. and we still like each others statuses.. it seems he is a Christian now and has changed a lot in his life which amazes me and I am happy for him. Time went by and then I met a guy in real life... basically it was my first kiss.. and I was so happy that he liked me the way I liked him.. I did have a kitty kiss when I was about 5 but it wasn't nothing compared to this.. he was so good to me but my family started to keep us apart.. and wouldn't let us be anywhere near each other.. then one day I just decided to break up with him because of my family.. they wouldn't let us get anywhere close.. I don't want to talk about why.. because it's stuff that I don't talk about with anybody.. I felt bad and I broke his heart when I broke up with him but I know in God's eyes it was the right thing to do.. and it was what I wanted to do.. so that is all that matters. I went to see him a couple of times after and I wanted to get back together with him but I knew it wasn't possible. I dated other guys online but they all broke my heart it seemed.. There was one guy who I ended up getting into a cuss fight with.. he even brought his older sister to cuss me out.. he was a cruel person.. I felt bad.. and he just broke me in half... I have been hurt so many times.. it's like I am just now waiting for that guy.. I am not looking and I am waiting.. I did find somebody who I care about and I am going to wait for him now because that is what I want to do and what I feel I want to do. When I was about 16 I got my first job at McDonalds things were good I was single nobody was breaking my heart.. and I met a bunch of guys on Vizzed board talked with them.. and started liking one of them.. he then disappeared for 4 days and it scared me off.. I hate that because when that happens I feel like they just stopped talking to me.. I talked with him the other day and he told me if he didn't want to talk with me he would tell me.. and he wouldn't just disappear at random like that this happened when I was about 17. I then met another guy.. who I ended up dating for 4 months.. it was good.. things were good it seemed but we both were drama queens and had Bipolar Disorder.. which is somewhat a thing that can be good or bad.. I started getting a lot of problems and I just wanted some time to myself so I was talking to about it.. he then freaked out and .. we broke up.. and today .. he still thinks it was my fault we broke up we didn't talk for months.. a lot of bad things happened to my family.. things I have mentioned to a lot of my friends on here and talked about in other threads. I After My 18 birthday I started to talk with him again he said he would give me another chance.. even though I still feel it wasn't my fault before and.. he wasn't listening to what I was trying to say that I just needed some time to myself to get myself together.. we dated for a month.. and the entire month he was working all the time and we basically only talked for 15 minutes a night.. and when we did.. after the call I would always cry and be upset.. he always abused me when it came to yelling at me about almost everything.. and anything.. he was so dramadic all the time I just couldn't handle it.. I got tired of crying and being so sad.. most of myself was negative it seemed. So I gave up.. and I stopped calling him and talking with him.. several people told me it was the right thing to do.. my mom told me she was tired of me crying all the time and she wanted me to be happy.. I just wanted to be happy again and I regret none of it.. I am so sick of being heart broken and treated wrong.. I will tell you to just stay strong.. but be careful in your relationships.. I don't want you to be as heart broken as I have been in my life.. it's not good and it's the worst feeling that you could ever feel. Sometimes I wish I could go back in my life and re do so much because it honestly just sucks.. people are horrible and a lot of guys in general are also... if you male there is a lot of girls that are horrible as well.. it's both genders.. nobody is more than the other.. equal. I do wish I would of waited before dating most of the guys I did.. even though I never did anything wrong.. I could of at least saved so many heart breaks that I had. I will honesty just tell you to be care full and make sure it's what you want is to date at your age.. do a lot of soul searching and realizing and thinking before you make up your mind.. because your my friend and I don't want you to be broken.. Take your time get to know girls and open up more see how they are see if you have the same interests in the girl your talking with before anything. I know I am going to be waiting now.. I did find somebody I care about but right now I will be waiting for him.. I care so much for him and I am major crushing on him and he knows it :3! I wish you so much luck in your relationship.. now that I got out of the relationship I was in I am so much positive things are going so well for me.. I am on top of that mountain still climbing you know. I hope I keep staying positive and doing good.. I hope to make many friends .. I just never want to be sad like I was and I don't want to cry like I was ever again.. I hope you never do either.. Best of luck Zed!



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No one really knows when kids mature to adults, but legal ages are our best estimates so for sexual relationships it's really most proper for there to be two consenting adults. If it's not adults it's really a case-by-case answer.

Mr. Zed : i think there is no proper age but it should be older then 10 and 11 thats for sure

It depends on the relationship. You can have a relationship if you're 10 or older. I think.

I would say that the proper age for this would be at the age of 13. That is the time in your life when you are really maturing and it is when I first got in my relationship. My first one. I think that 12 is cutting it close,and nothing g under 12 for me.

There really is no "proper age" It depends on the person. If they are mature and know how to handle a relationship, they can start anytime they want. However, if they are immature people who have no idea how to handle a relationship, don't know how to treat their partners, and just want a relationship for stupid reasons, than they should never be allowed to date until they are ready to be in one, until the mature and grow up, and find somebody who they want to be with for the rest of their lives.