This topic is kind of in relation to a post I made in another topic, which if anyone is interested in I'll edit the link in to after I make the post. I just wanna get it out.

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And here is the topic and my post in it
https://www.vizzed.com/boards/thread.php?id=53794&page=1
Made by Ro.kerr

It seems I screwed up pretty big because of not doing something...but rather doing nothing. Just before Christmas last year the job centre put me on some lame job preparation course, just CV stuff and what to wear at interviews and things....it was to last two weeks. So the first week happens and luckily I had a friend with me on it and we both talked on it.

However there was this girl who was there, I noticed her earlier in the day as she was on the same bus as me but I didn't know she was going to the same place. Anyway during the breaks a bunch of us just kinda sat with each other, the girl called Joanne lives just off the road in my area that I used to live at, I now live at the other end. We got on, meeting at the bus stop to get there and going home on the same bus...we spoke pretty well about stuff, socialising. However me being a complete dolt couldn't ask her number or anything, all I got was her address....which was something. I froze I didn't give her mine either....

So the first week passes and the next week is to happen the next year in January....so I wait out the two weeks and see her on the first day and the same goes over so I think "Tomorrow I'll ask her to hang out or something" So tomorrow comes....no Joanne, and then we learn that the course is to end on the Tuesday as we made progress fast (Should have seen it coming really, we didn't really do much other than write stuff) and Joanne wasn't there....wasn't there because Tuesday was interview clothes day (I find this out later). So, feeling bummed out I go home regretting not doing anything with her earlier.

But I had her address so I go round her place sometime after the course finishes and her brother tells me she has just left for job centre. So I walk up to the bus stop she gets it at and she is there, this is where she tells me about not being there before. This is also where I screw up my last chance with her I think. She gets on the bus and I fail to ask her to even just hang. I take a trip round hers soon after, her dad answers and he tells me she isn't interested.

Of course, I'm regretting a lot here because of my incapability to ask her to even just hang out, it seems she might have taken up the offer before being friendly and all that, paying attention to me. If there ever was anything she felt, it seems she might have lost it now. I learnt this on the Wednesday last week. She has my house number, I left it at her place once when her brother answered but I never got a call from her and I don't expect I ever will.

So, I'm a bit full of regret right about now. People I know are saying different things about it...some say I should go down to hers and ask to be friends, some say I should drop a note through her door asking her to contact me (for friends again), some say write out a letter, others say I should leave it and wait until I bump into her at the stop or on the street and just start talking again. Either way, I messed up.

The only thing I have to go on is that I know she has appointments every other Wednesday with the job centre, but I aint gonna go all stalker like that, forget that.

Not really looking for any help or advise, although people are welcome to give any if they want to. Just felt like posting it and to anyone else too timid to ask girls out and things....don't be, I know it's hard....but really, don't build up the courage too late like I did.

You're not looking for advice or suggestions.  I'll just respond.

Women are easy to read.  They're obvious with their expectations, wants, and desires.  I'm well-practiced at talking to girls, listening to them, and understanding them.  They're like books, you just have to crack the cover.

Oh, whether I can read them or not, I have trouble responding.

As for looking for advise or suggestions...well, technically...I'm not sure if I am or not. But people can give them if they want just incase it might actually help.

Xegethra : Sucks man.

At lest now you know for next time, just do it! But this is what I would do for this girl: either do to her house when you know she's there, or "bump into" her, and just say: Would you like to hang out sometimes, give me your number and I'll call you". Don't force her to make a decision of hanging out then and there, just get her cell. Then about 2 days later, (not on a weekend), call her up and ask her out.

The thing you have to remember now is this: since you aren't getting anywhere with her, there's nothing to loose. Just go for it. The main thing is, just don't talk a bunch, or over explain, or get nervous when she has the WTF are you doing at my house look (which she will). Just ask for her number cause it would be nice to hang out, and as awkward as it seems when you ask her for it, give it a couple days, and then call.

I think that's your best chance mate, either she gives it to you, or she blows you off, either way, you haven't lost anything and now you won't wonder if there's anything you could have done. My guess is she will play along and tell you, then you just say you have things to do (it looks good if your busy) and leave.

Best of luck mate.

Things happen dude.
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Glad to read you are not taking it too hard. Just a post to document an occasion or two of being young. (I miss being Innocent.)
Don't fret none.
It could be allot worse.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBpMIqpggtk

Good Luck for the next time.
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Peace.

Well, I was thinking about what you guys said....and you'll never guess what happened, I certainly didn't. I was just on my Facebook when she AND her brother popped up in the people you may know box.

So I went and had a look and it's most definitely them, a bit embarrassing as I was on the downstairs computer this time and not my own, so mom walks by and sees the surname as I was looking at the friends list...it turns out that a lot of her family and people she knows, know my family and people I know, her brother has some of my old school friends on there and my mom recognises her mom, a bit of her dad, grandma and her uncle.

I would have gotten her Facebook ages ago had I managed to ask of it....then it would have been easier to message her, even if she would have said no, still would have been easier to ask. I did do some searches for it a while back, but I remembered her surname wrong (of course I did, how can I not?) so the results came up nothing...I missed out the e in her surname and for whatever bizarre reason I must not have thought to try it with an e.

Of course this brings up other suggestions from people, my mom thinks I should get friendly with her brother, some friends think I should message her right away, some say wait a little a while to do it, and some are sticking to the wait till you bump into her thing.

Whatever I am to do if anything, I only feel marginally better now....still wish I had found this a lot earlier.

Xegethra : Don't think to hard about who to befriend first or whatever: you like her, she probably likes(ed) you, just message her and get it over with. Stop torturing yourself.

If you prefer taking the more "playful" path and start the push-pull games, then get to know her brother and incidentally start hanging out with her, but never seeming really  interested; many girls will notice you more if they think they can't get you. But why play the game? It doesn't seem like it's your style!

Most girls also like guys who are themselves and who know what they themselves want, you want to be with her, so do it! Get it done, she's someone you're interested in, get to know her better, and it could go somewhere.

Light Knight: Yeah I'm no good at games....my mom also suggested I get friendly with her brother or something, but he knows I like her. As it was him or her dad who answered the door those times.

But yeah, I think I'll message her. It doesn't look like she uses the account so much, but I'll give it a shot anyway. I guess I could always just message her a hello and ask her how she is doing and see if she replies to that.

As for being myself, there is no way I can ever hide that, whether I wanted to or not...I'm awkward and whatnot and it shows.

Also, I dunno what it means but there is no add friend option on her page, I was curious about this....there is only a message option.

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Heh, messing up grammar

Xegethra : If she has a cell phone, getting that should also be a priority. If she doesn't user facebook, you need some way of getting in touch with her if you can't any other way.

But you have the right idea, just see if she responds to you, and then if she does, you know what to do!

Light Knight: Yeah, I really wish I got her mobile number....but again, being too faint hearted until it was too late doesn't help. But I sent the message to her anyway, just one saying hello and asking how she is doing really....

I was thinking that if she responds, I could just talk to her with it for a few days/messages and not really ask her out or to hang out or anything until a little while down the line. We have a pub on the end of the area, when it's the right time, I could ask her to hang out there.

Xegethra : Sure thing! Just don't wait too long, as it gets harder and harder the more you have to loose.

Light Knight: Haha yeah, I won't leave it too long. Hope she replies soon though, I'll take it that she isn't interested if she takes too long....a shame really if she isn't

Or that she doesn't use her FB, eh?

Light Knight : Hah, if she doesn't use it then that would suck, but if she wants to get back to me she can. She does have my house number, however I'm just of the mindset that she might not be inclined to act on it...either through shyness or no interest...Maybe if she is interested but shy I can little by little win her. Or if she isn't interested maybe that can change....I don't know really, she knows I like her, it's up to her if she responds and accepts it I guess.

Of course now that I have sent her that message, she will know for sure that I have Facebook, so yeah I hope she uses it often enough to really respond.