Well I have said that I am moving in with my grandfather to become his care taker. This is great for me I will have space to do things I want to do. Also I will have a car now to do things when I want to do them.

The one big worry I have is my little sister. All her life I have been here in this house for her every single day. She knew when I went to the doctors or hospital I would be back home. Now I am moving out. She is already showing signs of not wanting me to move. I think she realizes I won't be here to keep things stable for her. I am the one that gives her food, plays with her, and makes her feel good when she is sad. She is used to not having her parents around to make her feel better when she is sick or sad. I am always here for her and now I will be gone.

I don't know what I am asking, but I guess I just need to know how I should soften the blow of this life changing event for her.

Well, the only thing I can suggest is find a way to keep in touch with each other, at least that should help you and your sister out.

Well so far what I have been doing is calming her down. I let her pick out stuff for my room and bathroom. My bathroom has all submarine stuff since she loves the movie "Yellow Submarine". My bedroom is all black and red our favorite colors. She also has her own little place in the house. My closet is perfect for her to hid in. It has a raised floor and is big enough for her to sleep in and has it's own light. So she can close herself in there and play with her toys when she visits~ She also loves the kitchen my refrigerator can dispense water and ice from the door~ She loves that since it's like a water cooler. She can grab crushed ice for a snack whenever she wants!

I also am allowing her to help me pack. Though she is angry that she can't have any of the boxes. I reassured her that she'd have so many boxes that she could build a fort with her friend next door. Also I'm not moving too far just to center of town. We will only live about 20 minutes walking distance away. (Though due to the busy road I'd have to drive not going to walk on hat horror of a road. Last night my step mom tried walking on it and she almost got ran over twice then was attacked by wild cats! She's ok though a police trooper saved her~)

It's nice of you to be such a great sister. The most important thing is that you do what makes you happy, and it sounds like going to your grandpa's house will be a great move for you.

It might be hard at first, but your sister will adjust quickly. Just promise that you will visit her often, and I think she will be ok.

when we moved from Calgary to Ottawa my little cousins were upset, since we had lived with them the whole time and was always around but they were fine after a while.
I think your little sister might be upset at first but she'll be find and I'm sure you can always visit once and a while.

It's been breaking my heart lately. Every day she is crying and calling me on the phone wanting me to come home. Yesterday when I had to take care of her for a few hours she clung on to me when I was walking down the stair case when I had to leave. She takes every chance she get to talk to me right now. Today though I only heard from her one time before she went to bed. I hope she'll get used to this soon. It does break my heart.

It sounds like she is starting to adapt. Honestly, it's a normal transition in life and it will be good for her and you in the long run, so take heart. Like you said, if a situation comes up where she really needs you, you are only a short drive away and she knows that. Give it a few weeks and she should be just fine.

I think what you have done so far have been great ideas. Knowing that she is welcome there any time will undoubtedly help her adapt.

As someone who has moved... several times.

The first week is the hardest. Once you get settled in.. it will be fine.

The older the person the easier the move.

It's just going to be a little confusing for younger children.

I remember that my aunt lived with me for a  couple of years, and although we argued a lot, she was like a big sister to me. When she moved the house didn't feel the same.

For you, I'd suggest telling her to visit often, stay in touch via e-mail/phone, and be sure to try to make the last memories important to her.

Well I am on week 3 I think of being moved. It's still really hard for my little sister. My grandpa and I came over my dad's house for dinner and when we were going to leave my little sister had a break down. She was trying to drag me to my old bedroom to go to bed. That was a little heart wrenching.

Two days before my sister told me she understood that I no longer lived with her but she wanted me to see her more. So I thought that meant she had gotten over the move but last night showed me she hasn't yet.