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12-28-11 11:36 PM
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So there's something I wanted an answer to, but I'm not too sure about and haven't really bothered asking anyone before, but here goes...

I don't really "fit in" with a lot of other people. And no, it's not what your thinking. It's just that a lot of what people find enjoyable, I don't. Quite a few of my friends go to nightclubs and school parties and all that jazz, but I don't. I've just never found it appealing. I just viewed it as boring and beneath me to go to a place where trashy people get drunk and dance badly in a cesspool of STD's (hopefully that wasn't too harsh, as that is not my intention). Whenever I tell them that, they just roll their eyes and leave, like I'm missing out on something (although I highly doubt I am).

I don't  ever drink either. It isn't because of religious commandment, I just don't like the taste of alcohol and I think all the terrible stuff that could happen when your drunk isn't worth any of the perceived "good times" you could possibly have.

I'm in high school, but I don't ever date. It's just that it seems like a waste of time, seeing as how most high school relationships don't last the better part of the month and everyone (including myself, albeit) seems to be immature, stupid, and not worth dating at this point in my life. People laugh at me for never having my first kiss or having a girlfriend, but I just shrug it off.

I also have a cynical point of view, as I've seen and heard many human injustices across the world (on the news, anyway), and have grown to believe that people are naturally selfish and usually do things for their own benefits (there are a few exception, but I digress). Whenever I express this opinion to other people, they call me a "pessimist and a downer" and say "well I'm a good person, so you're wrong". Once again, that's their point of view, but I feel that they aren't looking at the bigger picture.

If you've read up to this point, I acknowledge your patience and kindness. It's just that I'm not sure if I'm socially awkward, know better, or if I'm just an oddball. And the people on this board are really helpful and kind, so I thought it would be a good idea to turn to you guys. Please reply to this thread and let me know your thoughts. Any and all advice will be much obliged. Thank you.
So there's something I wanted an answer to, but I'm not too sure about and haven't really bothered asking anyone before, but here goes...

I don't really "fit in" with a lot of other people. And no, it's not what your thinking. It's just that a lot of what people find enjoyable, I don't. Quite a few of my friends go to nightclubs and school parties and all that jazz, but I don't. I've just never found it appealing. I just viewed it as boring and beneath me to go to a place where trashy people get drunk and dance badly in a cesspool of STD's (hopefully that wasn't too harsh, as that is not my intention). Whenever I tell them that, they just roll their eyes and leave, like I'm missing out on something (although I highly doubt I am).

I don't  ever drink either. It isn't because of religious commandment, I just don't like the taste of alcohol and I think all the terrible stuff that could happen when your drunk isn't worth any of the perceived "good times" you could possibly have.

I'm in high school, but I don't ever date. It's just that it seems like a waste of time, seeing as how most high school relationships don't last the better part of the month and everyone (including myself, albeit) seems to be immature, stupid, and not worth dating at this point in my life. People laugh at me for never having my first kiss or having a girlfriend, but I just shrug it off.

I also have a cynical point of view, as I've seen and heard many human injustices across the world (on the news, anyway), and have grown to believe that people are naturally selfish and usually do things for their own benefits (there are a few exception, but I digress). Whenever I express this opinion to other people, they call me a "pessimist and a downer" and say "well I'm a good person, so you're wrong". Once again, that's their point of view, but I feel that they aren't looking at the bigger picture.

If you've read up to this point, I acknowledge your patience and kindness. It's just that I'm not sure if I'm socially awkward, know better, or if I'm just an oddball. And the people on this board are really helpful and kind, so I thought it would be a good idea to turn to you guys. Please reply to this thread and let me know your thoughts. Any and all advice will be much obliged. Thank you.
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You may be a little, but you have reasons. You don't go to parties maybe because you have to study to enter a good college. You do not have to rely on the news to judge people and just jump to conclusions. Drinking? Really ? Why do you want to drink if still un high school (too late for me). Why not date? Do you have atleast some girls as friends? If yes, try to courage up if you like her and try to have a nice time until the break-up. If you do not want one, totally respect it be abstinence.Try to look at a different perspective than cynical. People will not be how they look like. I hope this helps
You may be a little, but you have reasons. You don't go to parties maybe because you have to study to enter a good college. You do not have to rely on the news to judge people and just jump to conclusions. Drinking? Really ? Why do you want to drink if still un high school (too late for me). Why not date? Do you have atleast some girls as friends? If yes, try to courage up if you like her and try to have a nice time until the break-up. If you do not want one, totally respect it be abstinence.Try to look at a different perspective than cynical. People will not be how they look like. I hope this helps
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First off, I don't think you have too much to worry about. The type of different you are talking about is not a bad thing. As a matter of fact, you are a lot like me in some ways. I, too, hate the club and party scenes. I never have fun and don't like to drink heavily in crowds. It is boring to me and i don't understand why people find getting completely wasted fun when they don't remember over half of what happened. Pointless. 

I don't drink much, because I also don't generally like the taste of alcohol. Especially the hard stuff. It does not taste good. However, my fiancee and I occasionally make our own drinks that are either not super strong or at least doesn't have that overpowering alcohol aroma. I like wines if they are good quality. But even then, I don't have a drink very often. It is kind of a rare occasion. 

I get where you are coming from with dating in high school. It is true that the majority of them don't last. In my opinion, however, it doesn't make it pointless. Dating is important in that it helps you learn what kind of person which a relationship simply does not work. It can help you kind of learn how to be in a real relationship. For me, I only dated 3 girls in high school, and that was it. It worked out because for the third one, we have been together for nearly six years, and we are getting married next summer. But it is not wrong to not date. My perception is more shaped by the fact that my high school relationship is a rare occasion that has lasted.

I also have a similar view of people, but not that they are inherently selfish. I agree that there really is almost no selfless actions. Almost any good deed is at least partly done for self satisfaction. For people that want to help others, it makes them feel good. If they didn't feel good doing it, they wouldn't likely do it, therefore it is not really a selfless act. I think my way of looking at it gives people a little more credit, but really isn't all that different.

Anyway, I do find you to be awkward, but who cares? My fiancee and I are awkward people, and we know it.There is nothing wrong with it. If others have a problem with it, forget them and let them continue their intolerant perceptions
First off, I don't think you have too much to worry about. The type of different you are talking about is not a bad thing. As a matter of fact, you are a lot like me in some ways. I, too, hate the club and party scenes. I never have fun and don't like to drink heavily in crowds. It is boring to me and i don't understand why people find getting completely wasted fun when they don't remember over half of what happened. Pointless. 

I don't drink much, because I also don't generally like the taste of alcohol. Especially the hard stuff. It does not taste good. However, my fiancee and I occasionally make our own drinks that are either not super strong or at least doesn't have that overpowering alcohol aroma. I like wines if they are good quality. But even then, I don't have a drink very often. It is kind of a rare occasion. 

I get where you are coming from with dating in high school. It is true that the majority of them don't last. In my opinion, however, it doesn't make it pointless. Dating is important in that it helps you learn what kind of person which a relationship simply does not work. It can help you kind of learn how to be in a real relationship. For me, I only dated 3 girls in high school, and that was it. It worked out because for the third one, we have been together for nearly six years, and we are getting married next summer. But it is not wrong to not date. My perception is more shaped by the fact that my high school relationship is a rare occasion that has lasted.

I also have a similar view of people, but not that they are inherently selfish. I agree that there really is almost no selfless actions. Almost any good deed is at least partly done for self satisfaction. For people that want to help others, it makes them feel good. If they didn't feel good doing it, they wouldn't likely do it, therefore it is not really a selfless act. I think my way of looking at it gives people a little more credit, but really isn't all that different.

Anyway, I do find you to be awkward, but who cares? My fiancee and I are awkward people, and we know it.There is nothing wrong with it. If others have a problem with it, forget them and let them continue their intolerant perceptions
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rcarter2 : Yours sounded better than mine, but then again, I'm still in school.
Just listen to him U4EA, mine sounds minor compared to his
rcarter2 : Yours sounded better than mine, but then again, I'm still in school.
Just listen to him U4EA, mine sounds minor compared to his
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Look everyone has a kind of prepared mind, psychology and state of mind. Well maybe its a matter of time you will change with time. Now its your life, your vision, and there are various ways of looking at the facts, "if there is a glass of half water....some people will say it is half empty whilst others will say its half full...so it is just a matter of opinion.. "

Now that you don't have a girlfriend, hey people are different you see, maybe you have not met or seen the right kind of girl...you have to maybe give yourself time.

It is just that your mind has to match what it perceives in reality as the perfect woman/girl for you. And there are some people also like that who only think about their work and nothing else, you see. You don't have to change yourself but rather accept your self and have full confidence in yourself.

Yeah I agree injustice it is bounded to life although not wished, but this is life and in some way or the other these kind of things do happen knowingly or unknowingly. We can't help it life is in a way non-linear...it varies much...you should understand this. "If there is good there is bad"....;"If there is positive there is negative"....Life is a blend of everything....positive,negative,neutral...

"I also have a cynical point of view, as I've seen and heard many human injustices across the world (on the news, anyway), and have grown to believe that people are naturally selfish and usually do things for their own benefits (there are a few exception, but I digress)"....

Well a good thinking is one which is equilibrium, right you have seen people that are bad but what about the good ones...There is an equilibrium try to see it...

Look there are/were good people like:Respected: Mother Teresa,Jimmy Carter,Sompop Jantraka,Queen Noor,Mahatma Gandhi.....among many...(you can't digress..if u digress you are doing like the baby..."who shuts his eye as he saw a problem coming onto him....what he thinks is that when he does so he no longer is in trouble...which is totally false..." )

I hope this helps you out to look at things with a new angle.




[Edit:Thank you for the reminder gamegeek]





Look everyone has a kind of prepared mind, psychology and state of mind. Well maybe its a matter of time you will change with time. Now its your life, your vision, and there are various ways of looking at the facts, "if there is a glass of half water....some people will say it is half empty whilst others will say its half full...so it is just a matter of opinion.. "

Now that you don't have a girlfriend, hey people are different you see, maybe you have not met or seen the right kind of girl...you have to maybe give yourself time.

It is just that your mind has to match what it perceives in reality as the perfect woman/girl for you. And there are some people also like that who only think about their work and nothing else, you see. You don't have to change yourself but rather accept your self and have full confidence in yourself.

Yeah I agree injustice it is bounded to life although not wished, but this is life and in some way or the other these kind of things do happen knowingly or unknowingly. We can't help it life is in a way non-linear...it varies much...you should understand this. "If there is good there is bad"....;"If there is positive there is negative"....Life is a blend of everything....positive,negative,neutral...

"I also have a cynical point of view, as I've seen and heard many human injustices across the world (on the news, anyway), and have grown to believe that people are naturally selfish and usually do things for their own benefits (there are a few exception, but I digress)"....

Well a good thinking is one which is equilibrium, right you have seen people that are bad but what about the good ones...There is an equilibrium try to see it...

Look there are/were good people like:Respected: Mother Teresa,Jimmy Carter,Sompop Jantraka,Queen Noor,Mahatma Gandhi.....among many...(you can't digress..if u digress you are doing like the baby..."who shuts his eye as he saw a problem coming onto him....what he thinks is that when he does so he no longer is in trouble...which is totally false..." )

I hope this helps you out to look at things with a new angle.




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Bro, I've been there - done that, except on a different level. When I was about 14 I was initiated into a local biker gang - at first I thought I fitted in with the group, then eventually I had to learn how things actually were.

Well back in 2003 I split paths with the club - point being is that I've done a lot of criminal stuff and drugs, or whatever in my past, but at the time I was 19 I made an attempt to start all over, and so here I am now.... well, I'm sorta talking from the opposite side from your post, but now I'm not that person - I haven't been that person for about 8 years..

In other words I'm not all that comfortable with giving support or whatever, but you're only 15...you have to keep an eye on your life when you are older, not on the present as much.
Bro, I've been there - done that, except on a different level. When I was about 14 I was initiated into a local biker gang - at first I thought I fitted in with the group, then eventually I had to learn how things actually were.

Well back in 2003 I split paths with the club - point being is that I've done a lot of criminal stuff and drugs, or whatever in my past, but at the time I was 19 I made an attempt to start all over, and so here I am now.... well, I'm sorta talking from the opposite side from your post, but now I'm not that person - I haven't been that person for about 8 years..

In other words I'm not all that comfortable with giving support or whatever, but you're only 15...you have to keep an eye on your life when you are older, not on the present as much.
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Don't be the dancer for the idiots.  You keep dancing for them you will just be used.  I keep trying to do everything everyone else likes to do and ignore my own wants and I just keep getting used no payback for what I give.

What I am saying is that I was far far more happy doing what I liked and being who I wanted to be.  Then there was a time when it seemed I was bumming people out with who I was so I decided to put the act on by doing what everyone else liked to do and acted how they wanted me to act like.  Now I'm a shrivled up depressed little beep.  I miss the days when I could lock myself away from everyone and do what I wanted to do.  I had friends back then and enjoyed life by ignoring the masses and just having fun by going against the flow.

My advice be who you want to be, don't try to please your friends by doing what they like and thus making you feel worse down the road.  I was never happy at parties, it was more fun just hanging out with a few friends and doing something worth wile like watching movies, playing games stuff like that.

Hope this makes some sort of sense.
Don't be the dancer for the idiots.  You keep dancing for them you will just be used.  I keep trying to do everything everyone else likes to do and ignore my own wants and I just keep getting used no payback for what I give.

What I am saying is that I was far far more happy doing what I liked and being who I wanted to be.  Then there was a time when it seemed I was bumming people out with who I was so I decided to put the act on by doing what everyone else liked to do and acted how they wanted me to act like.  Now I'm a shrivled up depressed little beep.  I miss the days when I could lock myself away from everyone and do what I wanted to do.  I had friends back then and enjoyed life by ignoring the masses and just having fun by going against the flow.

My advice be who you want to be, don't try to please your friends by doing what they like and thus making you feel worse down the road.  I was never happy at parties, it was more fun just hanging out with a few friends and doing something worth wile like watching movies, playing games stuff like that.

Hope this makes some sort of sense.
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I don't think you're socially awkward. In fact, I'd say you have it right.
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U4EA : To answer your question "Is there something wrong with me?" : No.

You're fine.  You're just a person.  But if you want to fit in socially (I think you do) you need to make adjustments to your attitude and how you treat others.  Allow me to point out some conflicts and you can decide what to do from there.

1.  Not going to social events.  When people go to social events they practice and learn the art of verbal and physical socializing.  It's not writing words and ideas on a board online.  It's dealing with people who are living and breathing and in your space.  The longer you go without practice and getting comfortable with this, the more difficult life may be.  Others are going to be more and more comfortable and outgoing and you will miss out on those opportunities.  It doesn't just 'happen' where you suddenly fit in to a social group.  You have to learn their culture and what they like.  If they like dances, dancing around and looking like idiots with STDs, well, that's what's popular.  If you're not there, no one will know you exist.  What does it hurt going and saying hello?  At worst you're bored for an hour or two and out twenty bucks.  At best you meet friends who like what you like.

2.  There are a ton of kids in high school who don't like drinking.  I'd be shocked if most of them did it as much as they claim.  They're trying to be cool and popular.  If you stand your ground, people will respect you for it. 

3.  Very few H.S. relationships last forever.  But do you really want to marry the first girl or guy you date?  This isn't about finding the love of your life.  It's about learning how to have relationships and how to deal with other people on an intimate level.  If you don't know how, when you meet someone you really care for, you won't have any idea how to treat them since you never had practical application when you were younger.  *Side-note* I started dating a girl in 1999 when I was a junior in high school.  We've been married the past five years and we're happy.  It does happen some times.

4.  Lastly, and most importantly, people are attracted to people who are upbeat, smile, laugh, and have a good attitude.  When you project the negativity, people don't want to hang out with you.  They get tired of dealing with the unhappiness.  It is certainly easier to be negative about things and cynical about the world.  On the flip side, look at all the positives you get.  You can make anything of your life and you're busy being depressed over injustice in China and Somalia.  Instead, focus on the positive, find a smile or two, and talk to some people.


I think you're hiding because you're afraid of rejection.  I'm no psychologist but I think you are asking this question because you desparately want to get to know people and have friends.  Put a smile on, get outside your comfort zone and do things you wouldn't normally do.  Instead of thinking yourself more knowledgeable and smarter and 'better' than everyone, try listening to them and see what they think about things. 

Even if it is Justin Beiber.  Sorry, man.  It's your culture.
U4EA : To answer your question "Is there something wrong with me?" : No.

You're fine.  You're just a person.  But if you want to fit in socially (I think you do) you need to make adjustments to your attitude and how you treat others.  Allow me to point out some conflicts and you can decide what to do from there.

1.  Not going to social events.  When people go to social events they practice and learn the art of verbal and physical socializing.  It's not writing words and ideas on a board online.  It's dealing with people who are living and breathing and in your space.  The longer you go without practice and getting comfortable with this, the more difficult life may be.  Others are going to be more and more comfortable and outgoing and you will miss out on those opportunities.  It doesn't just 'happen' where you suddenly fit in to a social group.  You have to learn their culture and what they like.  If they like dances, dancing around and looking like idiots with STDs, well, that's what's popular.  If you're not there, no one will know you exist.  What does it hurt going and saying hello?  At worst you're bored for an hour or two and out twenty bucks.  At best you meet friends who like what you like.

2.  There are a ton of kids in high school who don't like drinking.  I'd be shocked if most of them did it as much as they claim.  They're trying to be cool and popular.  If you stand your ground, people will respect you for it. 

3.  Very few H.S. relationships last forever.  But do you really want to marry the first girl or guy you date?  This isn't about finding the love of your life.  It's about learning how to have relationships and how to deal with other people on an intimate level.  If you don't know how, when you meet someone you really care for, you won't have any idea how to treat them since you never had practical application when you were younger.  *Side-note* I started dating a girl in 1999 when I was a junior in high school.  We've been married the past five years and we're happy.  It does happen some times.

4.  Lastly, and most importantly, people are attracted to people who are upbeat, smile, laugh, and have a good attitude.  When you project the negativity, people don't want to hang out with you.  They get tired of dealing with the unhappiness.  It is certainly easier to be negative about things and cynical about the world.  On the flip side, look at all the positives you get.  You can make anything of your life and you're busy being depressed over injustice in China and Somalia.  Instead, focus on the positive, find a smile or two, and talk to some people.


I think you're hiding because you're afraid of rejection.  I'm no psychologist but I think you are asking this question because you desparately want to get to know people and have friends.  Put a smile on, get outside your comfort zone and do things you wouldn't normally do.  Instead of thinking yourself more knowledgeable and smarter and 'better' than everyone, try listening to them and see what they think about things. 

Even if it is Justin Beiber.  Sorry, man.  It's your culture.
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@Seanne  You forgot Mahatma Gandhi.

@U4EA  I wouldn't say there's something wrong with you, everyone has their own views and opinions which we're entitled to, and having differentiating ones doesn't mean there's a problem with you.  But people are uncomfortable around constantly down people, and you should try going to more parties (Even if you don't like them, it will improve your image significantly)  
@Seanne  You forgot Mahatma Gandhi.

@U4EA  I wouldn't say there's something wrong with you, everyone has their own views and opinions which we're entitled to, and having differentiating ones doesn't mean there's a problem with you.  But people are uncomfortable around constantly down people, and you should try going to more parties (Even if you don't like them, it will improve your image significantly)  
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warmaker : In response to each or your points:

1. Well, to be fair, I don't try to fit in or be popular with people if it involves something I don't like (so no, I don't really try to fit in socially). Don't get me wrong, I actually do go to social events whenever I can, I just don't want to go to school parties or club scenes or any of that stuff. I play sports, go over to other people's houses,you know, hanging out with people but in a different way to what's popular.

2. I'll give you that point, as you are probably right.

3. Well, you see, the problem is that I don't think it would help. Like I said before, a lot of people are immature at this age and I'm not sure whether dealing with people at this time is going to set a very good base for my adult life, given that many people change drastically when they get older, both physically and mentally. Regardless, I'm willing to say that a few relationships may last on the basis that both patrons are intelligent, have a genuine sense of caring for each other, and are mature enough to hold a long standing relationship (so congratulations to you and your wife, I wish you two the best). However, I can't say I know many people like that at my school, and the few that are like that don't bother with dating either.

4. I'm not so cynical to the point that it hinders my relationships with other people. I just don't really trust to many other people unless they are very close to me (family, long-standing friends, etc..). I don't feel that I'm too much of a downer or have a bad attitude either. I just think that a lot of people out there are looking after their own interest and I'm just trying to avoid being used or something of the sort. I'm more so cynical towards people in power across the world and am speaking from a global spectrum (so on the metaphorical cynic scale, I'm somewhere between George Carlin and Oscar Wilde). My main problem is that when I tell (some) people of my views, they judge me for it and think worse of me, which I don't think is fair. But I do smile and laugh a lot, so most people can get over the darker part of my personality.

5. I have many friends and I have a very loving family. My main problem is that I'm usually seen as a bit of an oddball and I just wanted some reassurance as to whether I'm "okay". I don't really think of myself as "better" than other people, I just don't really see things as most people do and I sometimes wonder whether either of our minds would change if we saw each other's different points of view. But I think you're right in the sense that I should try to get out of my comfort zone and try something new, and I thank you for that.

Thank you all for the advice. You guys are a great bunch of people and I'm glad I turned to you. Much love, later!
warmaker : In response to each or your points:

1. Well, to be fair, I don't try to fit in or be popular with people if it involves something I don't like (so no, I don't really try to fit in socially). Don't get me wrong, I actually do go to social events whenever I can, I just don't want to go to school parties or club scenes or any of that stuff. I play sports, go over to other people's houses,you know, hanging out with people but in a different way to what's popular.

2. I'll give you that point, as you are probably right.

3. Well, you see, the problem is that I don't think it would help. Like I said before, a lot of people are immature at this age and I'm not sure whether dealing with people at this time is going to set a very good base for my adult life, given that many people change drastically when they get older, both physically and mentally. Regardless, I'm willing to say that a few relationships may last on the basis that both patrons are intelligent, have a genuine sense of caring for each other, and are mature enough to hold a long standing relationship (so congratulations to you and your wife, I wish you two the best). However, I can't say I know many people like that at my school, and the few that are like that don't bother with dating either.

4. I'm not so cynical to the point that it hinders my relationships with other people. I just don't really trust to many other people unless they are very close to me (family, long-standing friends, etc..). I don't feel that I'm too much of a downer or have a bad attitude either. I just think that a lot of people out there are looking after their own interest and I'm just trying to avoid being used or something of the sort. I'm more so cynical towards people in power across the world and am speaking from a global spectrum (so on the metaphorical cynic scale, I'm somewhere between George Carlin and Oscar Wilde). My main problem is that when I tell (some) people of my views, they judge me for it and think worse of me, which I don't think is fair. But I do smile and laugh a lot, so most people can get over the darker part of my personality.

5. I have many friends and I have a very loving family. My main problem is that I'm usually seen as a bit of an oddball and I just wanted some reassurance as to whether I'm "okay". I don't really think of myself as "better" than other people, I just don't really see things as most people do and I sometimes wonder whether either of our minds would change if we saw each other's different points of view. But I think you're right in the sense that I should try to get out of my comfort zone and try something new, and I thank you for that.

Thank you all for the advice. You guys are a great bunch of people and I'm glad I turned to you. Much love, later!
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U4EA : Allow me to counter your comments!

1.  You sound smart, well-adjusted, and confident about yourself.  Why ask if you're okay or not?  You sound perfectly fine so I'm awfully confused about the original question.  You're normal, no worries.

2.  If people change so much from being young to being mature, why not try to make friends with folks you don't automatically agree with?  THey'll change and grow and get more mature and you'll open yourself up to new experiences.  That's my only suggestion.  Talk to people and do things that get you outside of your comfort zone as long as they're safe.  Obviously don't do meth.  But try different things and get out there and talk to as many people as possible.

To answer the original question: You're normal.  You're regular.  You're doing just fine.

*side note* People are immature throughout their lives.  Don't expect everyone to be mature, respectful, and insightful when they hit 21, 35, 50 or older.  Take the opportunity now to learn to deal with people who aren't the greatest in the world.  The more experiences you have now the better off you'll be when you're older.

Go get 'em!
U4EA : Allow me to counter your comments!

1.  You sound smart, well-adjusted, and confident about yourself.  Why ask if you're okay or not?  You sound perfectly fine so I'm awfully confused about the original question.  You're normal, no worries.

2.  If people change so much from being young to being mature, why not try to make friends with folks you don't automatically agree with?  THey'll change and grow and get more mature and you'll open yourself up to new experiences.  That's my only suggestion.  Talk to people and do things that get you outside of your comfort zone as long as they're safe.  Obviously don't do meth.  But try different things and get out there and talk to as many people as possible.

To answer the original question: You're normal.  You're regular.  You're doing just fine.

*side note* People are immature throughout their lives.  Don't expect everyone to be mature, respectful, and insightful when they hit 21, 35, 50 or older.  Take the opportunity now to learn to deal with people who aren't the greatest in the world.  The more experiences you have now the better off you'll be when you're older.

Go get 'em!
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I know you have gotten some pretty good answers already, but I do have a few things to say as well.

1. If certain social events do not appeal to you, find something that will. I'll admit it's easy for me to say that. I was homeschooled for most of my time in compulsory education, so I never joined any clubs or groups you would typically find in most schools. I still did a lot of social activities, like sports, and met a variety of people. I actually had trouble fitting in with others my age at the first church I attended until I was 12. The point I am trying to make is, if you can't seem to fit into one group, find one you can.

2. I say that's a very good thing you don't like the taste of alcohol. Who needs it anyway? It's not liquid courage, it's instant stupidity.

3. I've never dated or asked anyone out, and I've been in college for over two years now. I can wait 'til I have a degree and a steady job, and my experience tells me that's a good thing.

4. I've had a cynical world view after everything I have learned in college --cursed irony that my major used to be Criminal Justice. Generally, I keep it to myself unless someone really wants to talk about it --hasn't happened yet. Right now, I just don't see a point in trying to convince my friends and family --or really anyone for that matter. But I've done more than read about injustice in this world, I've seen it. I won't say I "know" what injustice is, but I believe I have a better understanding of it. To those people who call you a downer and see themselves as good people, they're being a little insensitive to you and need a new perspective. Here's mine: As a Christian, I believe that all people --and I am not excluding myself-- are inherently evil. People only think they are good because they go by their own understanding. Do you think anyone is going to really agree with someone who has a view like this?

The only people who are oddballs are those who do not try enough to understand views other than their own. You're perfectly fine. I think you just need to find a more open crowd.
I know you have gotten some pretty good answers already, but I do have a few things to say as well.

1. If certain social events do not appeal to you, find something that will. I'll admit it's easy for me to say that. I was homeschooled for most of my time in compulsory education, so I never joined any clubs or groups you would typically find in most schools. I still did a lot of social activities, like sports, and met a variety of people. I actually had trouble fitting in with others my age at the first church I attended until I was 12. The point I am trying to make is, if you can't seem to fit into one group, find one you can.

2. I say that's a very good thing you don't like the taste of alcohol. Who needs it anyway? It's not liquid courage, it's instant stupidity.

3. I've never dated or asked anyone out, and I've been in college for over two years now. I can wait 'til I have a degree and a steady job, and my experience tells me that's a good thing.

4. I've had a cynical world view after everything I have learned in college --cursed irony that my major used to be Criminal Justice. Generally, I keep it to myself unless someone really wants to talk about it --hasn't happened yet. Right now, I just don't see a point in trying to convince my friends and family --or really anyone for that matter. But I've done more than read about injustice in this world, I've seen it. I won't say I "know" what injustice is, but I believe I have a better understanding of it. To those people who call you a downer and see themselves as good people, they're being a little insensitive to you and need a new perspective. Here's mine: As a Christian, I believe that all people --and I am not excluding myself-- are inherently evil. People only think they are good because they go by their own understanding. Do you think anyone is going to really agree with someone who has a view like this?

The only people who are oddballs are those who do not try enough to understand views other than their own. You're perfectly fine. I think you just need to find a more open crowd.
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Thanks for the advice, Aurablaze, warmaker, and the rest. Your advice has given me better insight on my views and made me little more sure about myself. I'll be sure to get out of my comfort zone and maybe interact with more people who do not inherently share my views and find a more open crowd. It'll help me get more experience and prepare me for the world. The reason for my first question was because I seemed to stick out from my other peers and I wanted to know whether I should consider myself socially awkward or just different from that perspective. But it's all clear now, so I'll be seeing you next time. And by the way, I'm closing the thread now that I have my answers. Now how do I close a thread...?
Thanks for the advice, Aurablaze, warmaker, and the rest. Your advice has given me better insight on my views and made me little more sure about myself. I'll be sure to get out of my comfort zone and maybe interact with more people who do not inherently share my views and find a more open crowd. It'll help me get more experience and prepare me for the world. The reason for my first question was because I seemed to stick out from my other peers and I wanted to know whether I should consider myself socially awkward or just different from that perspective. But it's all clear now, so I'll be seeing you next time. And by the way, I'm closing the thread now that I have my answers. Now how do I close a thread...?
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I feel awkward posting in this thread just for telling this message :-|

You can summon the moderators of this forum to do mod actions such as closing, trashing, or editing a thread through typing Local Mod with a colon right afterwards like this

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I feel awkward posting in this thread just for telling this message :-|

You can summon the moderators of this forum to do mod actions such as closing, trashing, or editing a thread through typing Local Mod with a colon right afterwards like this

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*doing the summoning again because I've got this feeling that my first one was a fail lol

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