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04-16-11 02:20 AM
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OK, this has been bothering me for years, so I thought I'd post this here in the hopes that kids can look at it and realize nothing is wrong with them, just because they don't fit in...

For the past 13ish years of my life, from Kindergarten, all the way through my freshmen year in college (dropped out... in part because I didn't fit in there either), I didn't fit in with any group of people.

From what other people (who apparently are cool enough to fit in) told me, most everyone fits in somewhere. However, there are some people (example- me) who don't really fit in anywhere in every day society. Maybe it's because I havent looked hard enough. Who knows?

If anyone has a story of themselves not fitting in, please speak it, maybe someone in here can help direct you to a place where you will feel more welcome.

Personally, I don't think I belong anywhere. It's been 13 years, and I still haven't found a place where I belong.

THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE.

Some people can't take the fact they don't fit in anywhere and resort to, you knew it was coming in this thread, suicide. Suicide is not a joke at all.

If you have nothing of help to say to someone in here who needs help, please don't push them further. As someone who didn't fit in, it was people laughing at me for not fitting in that almost caused me myself to attempt it. Please listen with an open heart.
OK, this has been bothering me for years, so I thought I'd post this here in the hopes that kids can look at it and realize nothing is wrong with them, just because they don't fit in...

For the past 13ish years of my life, from Kindergarten, all the way through my freshmen year in college (dropped out... in part because I didn't fit in there either), I didn't fit in with any group of people.

From what other people (who apparently are cool enough to fit in) told me, most everyone fits in somewhere. However, there are some people (example- me) who don't really fit in anywhere in every day society. Maybe it's because I havent looked hard enough. Who knows?

If anyone has a story of themselves not fitting in, please speak it, maybe someone in here can help direct you to a place where you will feel more welcome.

Personally, I don't think I belong anywhere. It's been 13 years, and I still haven't found a place where I belong.

THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE.

Some people can't take the fact they don't fit in anywhere and resort to, you knew it was coming in this thread, suicide. Suicide is not a joke at all.

If you have nothing of help to say to someone in here who needs help, please don't push them further. As someone who didn't fit in, it was people laughing at me for not fitting in that almost caused me myself to attempt it. Please listen with an open heart.
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04-16-11 04:01 AM
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i have never fitted in any where im to different from people i have always been the person in the shadows and legacyme3 you dont fit it anywhere? you sound like a good person,
i have never fitted in any where im to different from people i have always been the person in the shadows and legacyme3 you dont fit it anywhere? you sound like a good person,
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04-16-11 12:57 PM
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Are you kidding leggy? You don't fit in?
Anyway I don't fit in any groups at my school either.
Are you kidding leggy? You don't fit in?
Anyway I don't fit in any groups at my school either.
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well, you fit in here, leggy! I respect you very much.


well, you fit in here, leggy! I respect you very much.
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You all fit in very nicely here. We accept you with open arms and we're all friends here. You do have a place to go even if we're all online and not in person.

I never had socialization issues. I've always been very athletic, which means I have sports teams friends, and I'm a nerd, so I have video game nerd friends. It's the best of both worlds.

I can't imagine not having any friends at all. You said you looked, but try to join different clubs or groups. START a group somewhere. Start a local Vizzed.com chapter in your area. Put out ads on online forums or in the libraries of your college or local schools. be a trend setter.

But you can always come here. We're around for you.
You all fit in very nicely here. We accept you with open arms and we're all friends here. You do have a place to go even if we're all online and not in person.

I never had socialization issues. I've always been very athletic, which means I have sports teams friends, and I'm a nerd, so I have video game nerd friends. It's the best of both worlds.

I can't imagine not having any friends at all. You said you looked, but try to join different clubs or groups. START a group somewhere. Start a local Vizzed.com chapter in your area. Put out ads on online forums or in the libraries of your college or local schools. be a trend setter.

But you can always come here. We're around for you.
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04-16-11 04:36 PM
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For me I didn't really fit in because I was chubby and shy, then I opened up and got hurt so I became closed off again and tried to keep atleast one friend. Recently that friend has noticed I don't fit in with him anymore so he has turned in to a real jerk. I recently have opened up again especially on this site. I've gotten over losing my best friend (who I had known for 6 years by the way) and I now try and make new friends both online and the real world. It was still hard fitting in after everything that I've been through I try not to let sadness overwhelm me when it comes to the idea of fitting in because I know I'll always fit in one place. And thats with myself!

To anyone who has felt like they don't fit in because they are not kool I want to tell you something I've found about most of those people. Most of those people I've observed who fit in end up fitting in pretty well in prison or the Mc'Donalds they work at! Seriously popular people aren't remembered for BEING popular they're usually remembered for the popular things they've done. So my word of advise is if you fit in with yourself and have fun and make yourself and others laugh thats enough to fit in with out really being popular like them. If anyone disagrees with this advise then thats fine, but if anyone wants me to help them or go further with this idea don't hesitate to send me a PM.
For me I didn't really fit in because I was chubby and shy, then I opened up and got hurt so I became closed off again and tried to keep atleast one friend. Recently that friend has noticed I don't fit in with him anymore so he has turned in to a real jerk. I recently have opened up again especially on this site. I've gotten over losing my best friend (who I had known for 6 years by the way) and I now try and make new friends both online and the real world. It was still hard fitting in after everything that I've been through I try not to let sadness overwhelm me when it comes to the idea of fitting in because I know I'll always fit in one place. And thats with myself!

To anyone who has felt like they don't fit in because they are not kool I want to tell you something I've found about most of those people. Most of those people I've observed who fit in end up fitting in pretty well in prison or the Mc'Donalds they work at! Seriously popular people aren't remembered for BEING popular they're usually remembered for the popular things they've done. So my word of advise is if you fit in with yourself and have fun and make yourself and others laugh thats enough to fit in with out really being popular like them. If anyone disagrees with this advise then thats fine, but if anyone wants me to help them or go further with this idea don't hesitate to send me a PM.
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DBDonald : Very well said my friend.

For anyone who feels like they don't "fit in", here's what I have to say about this. I never worried about fitting into any groups or cliques. I never tried to fit in to what others wanted me to be. I was always myself. If they didn't like me for who I was, I moved on and found true friends. It's quality, NOT quantity. And I have found life long friends that way. Don't try to fit into what others want you to be, just be yourself.
DBDonald : Very well said my friend.

For anyone who feels like they don't "fit in", here's what I have to say about this. I never worried about fitting into any groups or cliques. I never tried to fit in to what others wanted me to be. I was always myself. If they didn't like me for who I was, I moved on and found true friends. It's quality, NOT quantity. And I have found life long friends that way. Don't try to fit into what others want you to be, just be yourself.
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I always had issues fitting in, and just no confidence to go up and talk to people. Even when I did wrench my guts out to do so, I still had nothing in common with any of the people I liked. Even now when I have some cool friends, I can't go up to someone I don't know and talk to them, and I rarely even go up to the people who consider me their friends, but a few years ago when my dad suggested that I got somebody to kind of help me work past my wall of missing confidence, it started to get better. Now I have little problem talking to the people around me, I have just discovered that I have no need to talk to these people (because after I started talking to them I discovered that I was smarter than them, and couldn't talk to them whether I wanted to or not). So there ya go.
I always had issues fitting in, and just no confidence to go up and talk to people. Even when I did wrench my guts out to do so, I still had nothing in common with any of the people I liked. Even now when I have some cool friends, I can't go up to someone I don't know and talk to them, and I rarely even go up to the people who consider me their friends, but a few years ago when my dad suggested that I got somebody to kind of help me work past my wall of missing confidence, it started to get better. Now I have little problem talking to the people around me, I have just discovered that I have no need to talk to these people (because after I started talking to them I discovered that I was smarter than them, and couldn't talk to them whether I wanted to or not). So there ya go.
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I have had alot of issues fitting in when I was younger. Like 8th grade and below. There was so many cliques at my school and really mean people that I just didn't really fit in one paticular group I was like all over the place. As I got older though my friends started to mature, I am homeschooled now so I really do not have to worrie about that. But if I went back to my old school everyone would be really happy I was back. Sometimes I even felt like I didn't fit in at my church and other places but I have learned that all that matters is to be yourself and as time has went by I have made some terrific friends. Legacyme I think your a great guy, Iv seen some of the really old posts you made and how you got banned but I look over that. I think you can fit in anywhere because you are a great guy and you definatly fit in here and as my friend. If you would ever like to talk I'm here though hope everything gets better for you.
I have had alot of issues fitting in when I was younger. Like 8th grade and below. There was so many cliques at my school and really mean people that I just didn't really fit in one paticular group I was like all over the place. As I got older though my friends started to mature, I am homeschooled now so I really do not have to worrie about that. But if I went back to my old school everyone would be really happy I was back. Sometimes I even felt like I didn't fit in at my church and other places but I have learned that all that matters is to be yourself and as time has went by I have made some terrific friends. Legacyme I think your a great guy, Iv seen some of the really old posts you made and how you got banned but I look over that. I think you can fit in anywhere because you are a great guy and you definatly fit in here and as my friend. If you would ever like to talk I'm here though hope everything gets better for you.
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legacyme3 : Everyone belongs somewhere. Theres always a group of people who will accept you as a friend. Now, I've been lucky enough for my father to work in the army. Whenever a situation's not working out in my area, I can move somewhere else and start fresh. However there have been locations where I didn't fit in as well as other kids. I've faced alot of prejudice because I am dangerously overweight. I have eating disorders, and so I've been subject to much ridicule.

But I've learned that I shouldn't care about the opinions of other people. When you think about it, 90% of all ridicule is rooted deeply in jealousy. If you are skilled, people will try and make themselves feel better by trying to humiliate you, or make you feel like a worthless piece of crap. Almost all insult is rooted deeply in insecurity. The sooner you realize it, the sooner your life will be better.

Think about it- if the people who don't accept you, as in the ones who you don't fit in with, are too small-minded to recognize your strong-suits and see your value as a human being, they obviously aren't the kind of people worthy of your time. About a year ago, there was another boy in my neighborhood. His name was Bryan. He was my friend, but there was a small argument in which I called him a liar.

So he called a kid named CJ who had left our neighborhood 2 weeks prior. He told CJ that he had beaten me up to the point of tears and that I had been admitted to the hospital. I then got a call from CJ asking if I was okay, and I told him that Bryan was telling him lies, and that nothing happened.

Well, that made me mad. And so I ignored Byran for a couple of days. This made him mad, and so, well, he got revenge. He instructed everyone else in the neighborhood to ignore ME. Now, the tables were turned. I didn't fit in anymore. I was an outcast. This lasted for about 7 months where I was in my house on an out of control sleep schedule, and I flocked to gain acceptance on online forums similar to this one. Eventually, we all made up and now were friends again except for Bryan, who brutally attacked me just last week.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say here is that I think almost everyone has gone through what you're going through at some point. Fitting in isn't always easy. But if you look hard enough, there's always going to be people in your life who will accept you for who you are. Maybe they're relatives, and maybe they're people right here on the internet. You're a valuable human being, and you can't let anybody tell you otherwise.
legacyme3 : Everyone belongs somewhere. Theres always a group of people who will accept you as a friend. Now, I've been lucky enough for my father to work in the army. Whenever a situation's not working out in my area, I can move somewhere else and start fresh. However there have been locations where I didn't fit in as well as other kids. I've faced alot of prejudice because I am dangerously overweight. I have eating disorders, and so I've been subject to much ridicule.

But I've learned that I shouldn't care about the opinions of other people. When you think about it, 90% of all ridicule is rooted deeply in jealousy. If you are skilled, people will try and make themselves feel better by trying to humiliate you, or make you feel like a worthless piece of crap. Almost all insult is rooted deeply in insecurity. The sooner you realize it, the sooner your life will be better.

Think about it- if the people who don't accept you, as in the ones who you don't fit in with, are too small-minded to recognize your strong-suits and see your value as a human being, they obviously aren't the kind of people worthy of your time. About a year ago, there was another boy in my neighborhood. His name was Bryan. He was my friend, but there was a small argument in which I called him a liar.

So he called a kid named CJ who had left our neighborhood 2 weeks prior. He told CJ that he had beaten me up to the point of tears and that I had been admitted to the hospital. I then got a call from CJ asking if I was okay, and I told him that Bryan was telling him lies, and that nothing happened.

Well, that made me mad. And so I ignored Byran for a couple of days. This made him mad, and so, well, he got revenge. He instructed everyone else in the neighborhood to ignore ME. Now, the tables were turned. I didn't fit in anymore. I was an outcast. This lasted for about 7 months where I was in my house on an out of control sleep schedule, and I flocked to gain acceptance on online forums similar to this one. Eventually, we all made up and now were friends again except for Bryan, who brutally attacked me just last week.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say here is that I think almost everyone has gone through what you're going through at some point. Fitting in isn't always easy. But if you look hard enough, there's always going to be people in your life who will accept you for who you are. Maybe they're relatives, and maybe they're people right here on the internet. You're a valuable human being, and you can't let anybody tell you otherwise.
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I never fit in thats why i go to my youth group and come here all the time i feel like i actully belong and people actully talk to me.People always call me a loner and stuff like
that there is this one girl in school she tortures me she walks by me at lunch everyday to call me names.Witch is why i hate going to school.
I never fit in thats why i go to my youth group and come here all the time i feel like i actully belong and people actully talk to me.People always call me a loner and stuff like
that there is this one girl in school she tortures me she walks by me at lunch everyday to call me names.Witch is why i hate going to school.
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legacyme3 : How don't you fit in anywhere? What is fitting in? Do you wish to be just another face among the masses, or do you just want to be around some people (or someone) that understands you? For a while, I only felt that a handful of people understood me. However, once I opened up, I discovered that even the people who don't understand me fully, at least want to get a chance to get to know me.

The point is, sometimes you need to be more active when you want to fit in (or get anything done for that matter). There's plenty of Red Sawx fans who like anime and enjoy track - among the other things that you do - out there. If there's not, then maybe there's some people open to new ideas.

If you're anything like me, you're not very sociable. You don't like just opening up around people who you don't feel a connection at all too. However, some people may surprise you.

Let's not forget, you fit in here. There's plenty of people on Vizzed that you are friends with and adore you in return. You're among the leaders in TP! Give yourself and others more credit.

I felt like I belonged in my art class. We all (well most of us) couldn't stand our teacher. All of my best friends from high school were in that class. Even the people that I wasn't friends with in there, I knew well and I wasn't uncomfortable around them. Was your track team like that? If so, isn't that some place that you felt like you belonged in?
legacyme3 : How don't you fit in anywhere? What is fitting in? Do you wish to be just another face among the masses, or do you just want to be around some people (or someone) that understands you? For a while, I only felt that a handful of people understood me. However, once I opened up, I discovered that even the people who don't understand me fully, at least want to get a chance to get to know me.

The point is, sometimes you need to be more active when you want to fit in (or get anything done for that matter). There's plenty of Red Sawx fans who like anime and enjoy track - among the other things that you do - out there. If there's not, then maybe there's some people open to new ideas.

If you're anything like me, you're not very sociable. You don't like just opening up around people who you don't feel a connection at all too. However, some people may surprise you.

Let's not forget, you fit in here. There's plenty of people on Vizzed that you are friends with and adore you in return. You're among the leaders in TP! Give yourself and others more credit.

I felt like I belonged in my art class. We all (well most of us) couldn't stand our teacher. All of my best friends from high school were in that class. Even the people that I wasn't friends with in there, I knew well and I wasn't uncomfortable around them. Was your track team like that? If so, isn't that some place that you felt like you belonged in?
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I'm going to skip over reading what everyone else said so that it doesn't influence me.

If you don't fit in, don't try. Rather than trying to fit in with the "cool people," find people who you actually agree with.

My brother is two years younger than me and constantly nagging me to grow up. Liking Nintendo over Xbox and still playing the Yu-Gi-Oh! card game makes me immature. He keeps insisting that I need to grow up and move on. Had I tried to fit in with his view of how I should behave as an adult, I would not have met my best friend.

I almost failed out of a university. I actually withdrew rather than failing. I lived there and I never met someone who I would care to hang out with. Although I miss being there, I don't have any close friends who I miss because I just didn't fit in. I liked playing games, but I just didn't get along with the other gamers.

You should try a semester at a community college. Community colleges consist of fairly diverse people. I actually met other people who spend a few hours in the main common area just playing Yu-Gi-Oh! and videogames. One of them is now one of my best friends.

As I said before, don't try to fit in. If you try too much, then you won't be happy. You need to find people who have similar interests. I personally think a community college is the best place to start. Just keep looking around for people who have similar interests.
I'm going to skip over reading what everyone else said so that it doesn't influence me.

If you don't fit in, don't try. Rather than trying to fit in with the "cool people," find people who you actually agree with.

My brother is two years younger than me and constantly nagging me to grow up. Liking Nintendo over Xbox and still playing the Yu-Gi-Oh! card game makes me immature. He keeps insisting that I need to grow up and move on. Had I tried to fit in with his view of how I should behave as an adult, I would not have met my best friend.

I almost failed out of a university. I actually withdrew rather than failing. I lived there and I never met someone who I would care to hang out with. Although I miss being there, I don't have any close friends who I miss because I just didn't fit in. I liked playing games, but I just didn't get along with the other gamers.

You should try a semester at a community college. Community colleges consist of fairly diverse people. I actually met other people who spend a few hours in the main common area just playing Yu-Gi-Oh! and videogames. One of them is now one of my best friends.

As I said before, don't try to fit in. If you try too much, then you won't be happy. You need to find people who have similar interests. I personally think a community college is the best place to start. Just keep looking around for people who have similar interests.
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I kinda fit in, but the problem is girls are my friends but none want to date me. I mean im a great guy, I'm nice and funny, I would never cheat on someone, I'm intelligent and I'm not short. I don't know i guess i don't fit in in a way. Also some people hate me for beating them in arguments cause they're too stupid to think of something, and I have to act like a idiot to fit in with today's society cause i can't express my intelligence to far.

Good news: I kinda don't mind being single here girls are whores over here and too many idiots, and i think a girl likes me and she very beautiful and nice and smart, and i like her too but again she lives in France now

O well sometime not fitting in is good but it depends where you live.
I kinda fit in, but the problem is girls are my friends but none want to date me. I mean im a great guy, I'm nice and funny, I would never cheat on someone, I'm intelligent and I'm not short. I don't know i guess i don't fit in in a way. Also some people hate me for beating them in arguments cause they're too stupid to think of something, and I have to act like a idiot to fit in with today's society cause i can't express my intelligence to far.

Good news: I kinda don't mind being single here girls are whores over here and too many idiots, and i think a girl likes me and she very beautiful and nice and smart, and i like her too but again she lives in France now

O well sometime not fitting in is good but it depends where you live.
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legacyme3 : I kind of had a similar experience when I entered high school. Prior to that point I had many friends and always hung out with pretty much the same group of people that stretched years from elementary school on through. I had bonds with some of these friends that were so strong that they remained through a year and a half that I was away from the group because I was living in a different state at the time.

When I came back to where I am now in late 97 things started to change for me slowly but surely. I was going through some problems in my family at the time and my family ended up being broken up for several years on and off. This obviously for a teenager was difficult to deal with and that slowly took it’s toll on me and changed me from a care free person to someone who was frankly at the time very confrontational at times and, angry because of what I was forced to deal with.

For the most part though, most of my friends remained with me through that time and even through a tragedy in our final year in junior high when a classmate of ours and, an ex girlfriend of mine passed away. During that tune it wasn’t easy on any of us and we kind of leaned on each other to get through it because this happened at the very end of our year so we went from feeling excited to go into the high school which was right across the street and talking about our plans for our freshmen year to feeling really low and almost disinterested in the entire concept of going to high school.

Once we got into high school slowly but surely people I was very close to began to distance themselves and not nearly be as approachable as they once were. This I believe that years have passed was more of a case of these individuals trying to fit in, in a new environment rather then it being a personal thing against me. Although at the time it certainly felt personal and for someone who frankly looked to his friends for support in trying times that wasn’t a good feeling.

As time went on I ended up having a few friends that ended up causing me problems and I eventually ended up leaving school in part because of it but, I also had issues related to my family that also played a part in that.

In part because of things these friends did during high school and, because of my self-imposed schedule that I put on myself in regard to my writing I really haven’t had many relationships since that period and, although some of the blame falls on me due to my dedication to my work, I did hold quite a bit of resentment toward some of those people for years.

An ironic thing though happened shortly after I was forced to get into social media. Many of these people have wanted to reconnect with me and, because I have to be accessible it has forced me to at the minimum hear them out.

It isn’t the easiest thing to do when because you are a public figure in a way you have to be accessible to everyone regardless of what you’re feelings may be for certain individuals but, it so far has been very cordial and respectful.

I haven’t bought up in conversations any of the issues I’ve had with some of these people because frankly although it bothered me and at times still does, it doesn’t do me any good to be angry at people no matter how justified it may be. Some of these friends have actually given me credit for accomplishing what I have without finishing school and some have even asked me about my career and how I got to where I am now. I’m not with anyone major in terms of a newspaper/magazine or, network but, I have accomplished some stuff that I’m very proud of including working and writing for seven years for the number one magazine in my field in a foreign country which was a position I took before I turned twenty years old so I am proud of that and wish that I still worked for that magazine because I really enjoyed my time working for them. I have also done several radio appearances over the years throughout the United States so it’s something that I take pride in seeing as I did all of this not only without a high school diploma but also having some of these friends I speak of and, even a few teachers tell me I wouldn’t amount to anything.

I am not the type though to throw it back in someone’s face and prefer to be humble because although I’ve accomplished a lot I am by no means satisfied and want to do much more. I have however on occasion in conversations with some of these people I’ve reconnected with after hearing that they’ve read my work and such have said simply “Not bad for a drop out eh?” but as I said I’m not the type to throw it back in someone’s face but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me feel validated to have some of these people give me my props.

I just hope now that I’ve reconnected with several people I thought I would never speak to again and seeing as we’re all adults now and have had several years outside of high school that if there are friendships to be renewed and relationships to be repaired that we will be more wise and kinder to one another which sadly was not how things ended many years ago. I hope that we’re all wiser people now and can move forward.

I am also more then willing to offer advice to whomever may seek it so if anyone ever needs someone to listen and offer advice please feel free to leave me a message.

Best of luck to you Jake.
legacyme3 : I kind of had a similar experience when I entered high school. Prior to that point I had many friends and always hung out with pretty much the same group of people that stretched years from elementary school on through. I had bonds with some of these friends that were so strong that they remained through a year and a half that I was away from the group because I was living in a different state at the time.

When I came back to where I am now in late 97 things started to change for me slowly but surely. I was going through some problems in my family at the time and my family ended up being broken up for several years on and off. This obviously for a teenager was difficult to deal with and that slowly took it’s toll on me and changed me from a care free person to someone who was frankly at the time very confrontational at times and, angry because of what I was forced to deal with.

For the most part though, most of my friends remained with me through that time and even through a tragedy in our final year in junior high when a classmate of ours and, an ex girlfriend of mine passed away. During that tune it wasn’t easy on any of us and we kind of leaned on each other to get through it because this happened at the very end of our year so we went from feeling excited to go into the high school which was right across the street and talking about our plans for our freshmen year to feeling really low and almost disinterested in the entire concept of going to high school.

Once we got into high school slowly but surely people I was very close to began to distance themselves and not nearly be as approachable as they once were. This I believe that years have passed was more of a case of these individuals trying to fit in, in a new environment rather then it being a personal thing against me. Although at the time it certainly felt personal and for someone who frankly looked to his friends for support in trying times that wasn’t a good feeling.

As time went on I ended up having a few friends that ended up causing me problems and I eventually ended up leaving school in part because of it but, I also had issues related to my family that also played a part in that.

In part because of things these friends did during high school and, because of my self-imposed schedule that I put on myself in regard to my writing I really haven’t had many relationships since that period and, although some of the blame falls on me due to my dedication to my work, I did hold quite a bit of resentment toward some of those people for years.

An ironic thing though happened shortly after I was forced to get into social media. Many of these people have wanted to reconnect with me and, because I have to be accessible it has forced me to at the minimum hear them out.

It isn’t the easiest thing to do when because you are a public figure in a way you have to be accessible to everyone regardless of what you’re feelings may be for certain individuals but, it so far has been very cordial and respectful.

I haven’t bought up in conversations any of the issues I’ve had with some of these people because frankly although it bothered me and at times still does, it doesn’t do me any good to be angry at people no matter how justified it may be. Some of these friends have actually given me credit for accomplishing what I have without finishing school and some have even asked me about my career and how I got to where I am now. I’m not with anyone major in terms of a newspaper/magazine or, network but, I have accomplished some stuff that I’m very proud of including working and writing for seven years for the number one magazine in my field in a foreign country which was a position I took before I turned twenty years old so I am proud of that and wish that I still worked for that magazine because I really enjoyed my time working for them. I have also done several radio appearances over the years throughout the United States so it’s something that I take pride in seeing as I did all of this not only without a high school diploma but also having some of these friends I speak of and, even a few teachers tell me I wouldn’t amount to anything.

I am not the type though to throw it back in someone’s face and prefer to be humble because although I’ve accomplished a lot I am by no means satisfied and want to do much more. I have however on occasion in conversations with some of these people I’ve reconnected with after hearing that they’ve read my work and such have said simply “Not bad for a drop out eh?” but as I said I’m not the type to throw it back in someone’s face but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me feel validated to have some of these people give me my props.

I just hope now that I’ve reconnected with several people I thought I would never speak to again and seeing as we’re all adults now and have had several years outside of high school that if there are friendships to be renewed and relationships to be repaired that we will be more wise and kinder to one another which sadly was not how things ended many years ago. I hope that we’re all wiser people now and can move forward.

I am also more then willing to offer advice to whomever may seek it so if anyone ever needs someone to listen and offer advice please feel free to leave me a message.

Best of luck to you Jake.
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i'm having that experience right now the kids in my school are so different and like bad no i mean like rule breakers and loud
i'm having that experience right now the kids in my school are so different and like bad no i mean like rule breakers and loud
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legacyme3 : You know what I'd normally say to you at this point. "Man up, get confident, profit."

Well, I'm not going to say that this time. You've heard it enough, I'm sure.

But don't say that you don't fit in, because everyone fits in somewhere. And if you try your hardest, and still can't fit in anywhere, then become a hermit.

But then again, while hermits are some of the most genius people on Earth, I personally feel that a man of your stature can be much more than a shut-in, but thats just me.

And, a question kinda off-topic: You're still doing that thing you promised me you would do, right?
legacyme3 : You know what I'd normally say to you at this point. "Man up, get confident, profit."

Well, I'm not going to say that this time. You've heard it enough, I'm sure.

But don't say that you don't fit in, because everyone fits in somewhere. And if you try your hardest, and still can't fit in anywhere, then become a hermit.

But then again, while hermits are some of the most genius people on Earth, I personally feel that a man of your stature can be much more than a shut-in, but thats just me.

And, a question kinda off-topic: You're still doing that thing you promised me you would do, right?
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hackerman :
I know how that can feel… I was in a math class once in high school where the people in the class made so much noise that it made it impossible to focus and follow the teacher’s lesson plan. I remember several times where things would get so ruckus that the teacher would end up calling the school administration in to try and control the noise.

I was so happy when I got out of there… My advice to you is don’t allow these rule breakers to sink you down to their level. Try your best to stay focused on your studies and eventually everything will fall into place for you. It is advice I wish I had taken but as I said my mistake wasn’t so much a lack of focus on academics it was more of not having a calm environment and hanging out with the wrong people. I am still hopeful of finishing one day. I’m a writer and although I’ve done reasonably well without a diploma I feel that I simply won’t feel accomplished until I finish what I started.

I’m almost twenty-eight years old and have six kids that I am an uncle to and I want to set an example for them. I tell them all the time that the biggest favor they can do for me is to finish school and take advantage of what ever opportunities that I didn’t have. It would also be good for me to get it done so that if I ever have kids of my own I’ll be able to say that yes I went through my struggles and yes it may have taken me a long time but I got it done.

Don’t let these kids get you down… More often then not their acting out could be cries for attention from authority figures like teachers or even their parents so it’s best to ignore the nonsense and do your best to absorb the information you’re given in school like a sponge.

Best of luck to you.
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I know how that can feel… I was in a math class once in high school where the people in the class made so much noise that it made it impossible to focus and follow the teacher’s lesson plan. I remember several times where things would get so ruckus that the teacher would end up calling the school administration in to try and control the noise.

I was so happy when I got out of there… My advice to you is don’t allow these rule breakers to sink you down to their level. Try your best to stay focused on your studies and eventually everything will fall into place for you. It is advice I wish I had taken but as I said my mistake wasn’t so much a lack of focus on academics it was more of not having a calm environment and hanging out with the wrong people. I am still hopeful of finishing one day. I’m a writer and although I’ve done reasonably well without a diploma I feel that I simply won’t feel accomplished until I finish what I started.

I’m almost twenty-eight years old and have six kids that I am an uncle to and I want to set an example for them. I tell them all the time that the biggest favor they can do for me is to finish school and take advantage of what ever opportunities that I didn’t have. It would also be good for me to get it done so that if I ever have kids of my own I’ll be able to say that yes I went through my struggles and yes it may have taken me a long time but I got it done.

Don’t let these kids get you down… More often then not their acting out could be cries for attention from authority figures like teachers or even their parents so it’s best to ignore the nonsense and do your best to absorb the information you’re given in school like a sponge.

Best of luck to you.
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JazzCoon :

That I am.

I should note I am doing this more for other people who may not fit in, as I think people are thinking Im seeking the help. I know what I need to do lol.
JazzCoon :

That I am.

I should note I am doing this more for other people who may not fit in, as I think people are thinking Im seeking the help. I know what I need to do lol.
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There is nothing wrong with fitting in.  I have the same issue and I just be who I am.  I do not think about suicide because there is no shame of who you are and what you are made of.
There is nothing wrong with fitting in.  I have the same issue and I just be who I am.  I do not think about suicide because there is no shame of who you are and what you are made of.
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