well usually i have a random conversation with someone and it's usually informal. Like we never tell each other our names or anything, and then it springs out from there and boom i have a new friend.

Oh my god, I'm probably the most social person some people have met. But the bad thing about being too social is that you don't have 1 really good friend. Sure you may have multiple friends but if you're like me, you don't have that best friend to partner up with.

That was sort of off topic. But anyways, I just walk up in front of somebody and say "Hey, I've never seen you before. Let's be friends!" I pretty much scare them so they just nod without saying anything and then I laugh and have a normal conversation with them and towards the end we're friends.

Once I was dancing with my friend and I bumped into someone. Then I became her friend by asking her to join me. But I think the girl I bumped into was thinking inside her head like "that person's crazy!" or something cause she was staring at me like I was an alien but I get that a lot XD

To summarize, I'm a creepy person who just barges into someone's conversation to make friends lol. XD

If I see someone new at something, I go "hey what's up I'm Nate", and if they wanna talk and be friends... well good on them! When it comes to that, I typically win people over with my great sense of humor and *ahem* rugged good looks . ((Fine, I don't... but I can dream, right?))

hl54322 : Lol. I wish it were that easy for me sometimes until I remember that thing that you said about not really having a best friend. I guess since I'm so picky/critical/selective/good judge of character, I don't like to talk to most people because I can get a good sense of what they're really like. However, I have a good number of friends who I'd put in the best friends category (not that I rank them).

bigNATE : I too am seen as the funny guy. It's a gift and a curse. Sure, I make them smile, but, as a comic relief friend, I never see much in the love action department.

NotJon : I do have 2 best friends but lately I haven't talked to them as much. I'm getting too busy . But hey, it's good that you choose friends that are nice and you can relate too. Me, on the other hand, I have the strangest friends but out of all the people I know, the strangest person would have to be... me! (Am I even allowed to choose myself?)lol

legacyme3 : Well this one is a bit tricky… If any of you have read my responses in the past you know that I did not have the best teenage years and such and much of that can be attributed to the people I hung out with. I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times; acquaintances come and go but real friends who will be there for you no matter what you’re going through are truly hard to come by.

Since leaving school years back the list of real friends has slowly shrunk for me but, I do have a couple of people that I would consider close friends that I have worked with over the years in regard to my career as a writer.


One thing I’ve found over time is that some of the most loyal people can be also be colleagues. In this regard I consider myself extremely fortunate to have met some really wonderful people along the way who know more than most the struggles that a writer faces and more importantly the stubbornness that it takes to succeed even if you’re not treated very well by those you work for.

I have become more reclusive over the years so I don’t give myself too many opportunities to meet new people. This is mostly my fault but it is mostly due to the dedication I put forth in regard to my work and the lack of understanding of some people particularly girlfriends etc.

In spite of the schedule I willingly put myself through when things are normal, I have never shut anyone out but have had a couple of girlfriends basically refuse to even meet me half way when I have been willing to adjust things so I could spend time with whomever I was seeing at the time. This subsequently has led to some failed relationships, some of which I openly wish I could have a second chance with others, I feel fortunate in a way that those relationships didn’t go far.

Despite that I am very approachable to almost anybody and I remain optimistic that things will eventually fall into place. In regard to how I meet people, well, some people in recent years have contacted me after reading some of my material and have turned into friends I keep in touch with periodically.


I have never been one for social networking and honestly cannot understand what the fascination is with the whole craze. I have heard so many bad things about it that I have outright refused to even test the waters so to speak despite the urging of friends and family but I’d rather play it safe. I’m probably the only person in their late 20s that isn’t into the whole social networking craze. I also realize that it could be one of the reasons I don’t meet too many people but as I said I prefer to play it safe.

I actually am rarely approached by those who know me. Those who earn my trust, and get past my walls... They tend to be the ones who are usually not looked at as good people just because they are odd. I tend to befriend the strange people easier.

It's pretty hard for me to actually befriend, but for some reason, people find it easy to like me, even if I am quite snippy, and easy to make nervous. This will never make sense... Guess I just have bad self-image, and self-esteem. Or I don't care.

One of the most hated kids at my school actually has a crush on me... People even kept making rumors that we were going out, even though I was just wanting to be there for him. He has two superficial "friends" who are just Runescape buddies.

It was hard to stop being that kid's friend. The reasons why are pretty personal. I truly was angry when I learned of who he really was, but also felt that I needed to help him. I knew he needed help, but, honestly, a child who is neglected, and may turn out like the guys who shoot up schols... That's too much for me to carry.

At the time, I was very depressed, was completely nervous all the time, and just wasn't in a good mental state. Even now is evidence that the person will never get the help he needs, and I will never be able to at least give him any kind of love he gets denied...

Yeah. That kinda sums up what happens with the really messed up friends... They tend to be the ones I feel I have to be around... It's just part of my nature to want to help. That side of me can, clearly, cause problems for myself, though...

I really don't have many friends who actually know much about me. Before I got homeschooling started up, I was just the quiet kid who had interests that were of no one's care. For one, who would want to listen to me stutter, and crap while trying to talk about the processing power of my computer? Or how about listening to me talk about the history of disk-based media?

If you answered yes to those questions, cool... Most people probably aren't as fixated on technological things as I am, of course.

When I make a friend I usually am the first to introduce myself so sometimes that throws people off and get freaked out by it,but then they start to get to know me and know that im just being freindly.

im just naturally a charismatic and funny person i have almost no problem making friends i usually make friends by joking with people or playing pranks.... or if it has to be Ive made some real good friends by fighting people (fist fights) i know it sounds stupid but it works ...

I've never had a problem to make new friends. Whenever I see a person that I find interesting, I just smile, then approach him/her and start talking. The truth is that I'm a good listener, so most people feel comfortable enough to discuss about themselves with me, even from the first day we've met.
Also many people try to approach me, and I usually can't turn them down, because I don't want to hurt them. As a result, in my real life, if there was a friend list, it would be as big as my list on vizzed, but to be honest I consider only a couple of people as my true and very close friends.

all the friends I have ever made shared a common interest and I was totally myself. If I am happy and relaxed people usually warm towards me, like the Vizzed users here who I love dearly xx

I am usually quiet and I'll just sit amongst a group and from there things take off.. if its game time I really make friends but usually something needs to break the ice, that is what I'm gonna work on this year! NEW YEARS RESOLUTION WHOOOO!!!

I actually just meet people through other friends of mine, like when we hang out in groups. I observe my surroundings and eventually just talk to everyone and see how I get along with them.

I find out the persons hobbies and similar interests and start from talking about those things

I just talk to people, and let things lead to what there gonna lead to.

I have no idea why those people stick around.
Not complaining they do, but don't you sometimes wonder just WHY ?

if im interested ill approach the person with a hello and take it from there. if theyre interested theyll respond. if they do then were more than likely going to become friends.

Most of my friends have been 'shoe in the door', i.e. they were friends' friends. I have made friends on my own though; just be courteous and honest, and try not to wear a 'mask'. No one wants a jerk as a friend, and friends made while pretending to be different from how you really are usually don't last. As for me, everyone generally knows that I'm honest to a fault; yes, it IS possible to be too honest. I can be too blunt at times... It annoys some people.

For me I met most of my close friends early on in elementary. Now in community college I haven't yet really taken the time to socialize too much. I'm quite shy, and really quiet. I'm also courteous,and respectful though. Lately I've been trying to smile more in general, but mostly because I don't want a drooping grin later on in life> apparently good to use those muscles to smile early on.

If I'm in a crowd or group I would just kind of be attentive and only respond when I know something about the topic, or I sometimes ask questions that the other person might be interested in and follow up with other questions that tell something about the person.

sophielove23 : I wish I could be like you. I was once, but I ended up becoming a victim of a very bad relationship.

I've made all of my current friends by having a policy of not trying to be friends with them. Instead, when I meet people, I treat them like human beings. Answer questions, be open-minded, prepare to listen to people rant without getting annoyed, be a shoulder to cry on. I try to be very kind to people, and whether we become "friends" afterwards or remain "acquaintances" depends on how we get along.
I feel like when people try to make friends they just end up calling acquaintances friends and getting hurt. Actually, a lot of my friends are victims of friendships gone sour. With my friendship program I've gotten through the defenses of the most emotionally scarred and paranoid people you can meet.