I needed to make this thread for a reason. Because I am trying to ignite something in me. People are not perfect with what they do in life. I'm not perfect too. All we can do is be the best us no matter what our personality is. Is it right to really make someone feel, that terrible because of a mistake that they did? Let me ask you this. You may not even know what's going on in their homes. All of us go through crap. Different ones. Its not always easy....to push through something, that is a brick wall or a bolder. So the clever way to do is to go around the obstacle which is blocking your way to go to the answer that you seek.

Would you like it if you know someone, that did something wrong sink into more of a sand hole that they were in? Do you discourage them in the most bad possible way? If you do that you could find out from a family member that they died the next day. How would you feel about that? Or better yet if someone does the same to you? Its up to people on vizzed to see through the wrong, and help to encourage one another....not to go at each others throat's because of one reason or another. People can be petty, or mature its up to you. But, the decisions we make here, and in life is based on how we act upon it. I can only hope that those can understand yes we do wrong, but are you going to encourage them because you have gone through a similar problem yourself? I wanted to make this thread to speak my mind about things of the sort. I'm not always right, and when I know I am not right I apologize for what I did. Do you think its best to dwell from it or move on? I know what I would do, but I'll leave that for you to decide.

Well, if somebody isn't acting like his/her usual self, I think it's general courtesy to ask what's wrong with them. An answer is not needed, a simple "nothing I want to talk about now" is enough to postpone the conversation until everything is kind of sorted out with no friendships broken. Or also the affected individual can step forward and announce he/she is not in the mood, a decision that must be accepted as long as the affected individual pledges himself/herself to be available in the near future or by re-starting the conversation on their own.

Errors are better left in the past, all we can do is turn the page and move on. Our acts from there on will demonstrate if we've learnt the lesson, allowing us to regain any lost trust. The will to change for the better is not enough, the change must happen, otherwise it's just plain wordiness with no actual value.

Nobody is given infinite chances, so even if they aren't aware they're burning their chances the damage is done. There comes a time when enough is enough, and it's up to each person's patience to determine when does that time come. Still, everything can be cured through time and deep thinking as long as the above mentioned change occurs, because if nothing changes you cannot expect a different result.

That is best left up to them. Now if you are their friend and notice something is off,you intervene. If they assure you they are fine and just need to work it out and they do not seem to be hurting themselves or others and do not seem to be plotting anything,leave them be. But if something is seriously wrong,you take them inside and make them talk. I guess that might be easier for me,though.

Eniitan : Very well said, Enii. I believe acting on petty impulses is truly just asinine. We all make mistakes, there shouldn't be a reason to hold a grudge for so long regarding something so insignificant. I have been regretting hurting someone else's feelings for 4 years. I made the mistake, and tried to fix it quickly, but the given person was quite stubborn and unable to accept me, so I moved on. I wouldn't want to take my own life to prove something, but some are unwilling to listen. That is the truth of life. My advice to you and others: choose your words carefully. Remember your boundaries and don't act on impulses.