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01-21-17 12:23 AM
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Well 2017 started kinda cruddy. I just lost a part of me which I really can't comprehend still just feels like a horrible nightmare. So I met this girl two years ago and didn't think much of it. We chatted and had small conversations and all and I'm usually a jerk to people, she's no different. We had a rocky friendship but I wanted to prove her a point that I can be nice and generous, what I didn't expect is for a relationship to start and flourish over the course of the years. Everything was perfect she made me happy and I made her happy. She made me learn to love once more and as each day grows I became more confident and what not and believed she was the one. She made me feel such emotion which I never felt in a long time and she made me fall in love with her. We had crazy talks with marriage, kids and being happy after two years of being together, but things started going south. Her distance between us became farther and farther to where it took me one and a half hours to drive there. Her schedule became so erratic with family friends and college life. We rarely had any time for ourselves during holidays and weekdays. When 2017 started thought it would rejuvenate our love but she became so swamped and she felt so miserable for leaving me on plans and standing me up she called it off... I didn't expect to go to the seven stages of grief this quickly... those years were just down the drain just like that and she just can't find the spark in us anymore. I'm not a man who gives up easily without a fight we talked and talked to see how to resolve the issue I didn't want it to end but alas... she was so sure of herself it's for the best... she broke my heart and shattered it to a million pieces I have nothing left but tears and depression in my soul. I'm just wondering how to cope with this since it's been a long time since I had this type of pain and agony in my heart and mind... 
Well 2017 started kinda cruddy. I just lost a part of me which I really can't comprehend still just feels like a horrible nightmare. So I met this girl two years ago and didn't think much of it. We chatted and had small conversations and all and I'm usually a jerk to people, she's no different. We had a rocky friendship but I wanted to prove her a point that I can be nice and generous, what I didn't expect is for a relationship to start and flourish over the course of the years. Everything was perfect she made me happy and I made her happy. She made me learn to love once more and as each day grows I became more confident and what not and believed she was the one. She made me feel such emotion which I never felt in a long time and she made me fall in love with her. We had crazy talks with marriage, kids and being happy after two years of being together, but things started going south. Her distance between us became farther and farther to where it took me one and a half hours to drive there. Her schedule became so erratic with family friends and college life. We rarely had any time for ourselves during holidays and weekdays. When 2017 started thought it would rejuvenate our love but she became so swamped and she felt so miserable for leaving me on plans and standing me up she called it off... I didn't expect to go to the seven stages of grief this quickly... those years were just down the drain just like that and she just can't find the spark in us anymore. I'm not a man who gives up easily without a fight we talked and talked to see how to resolve the issue I didn't want it to end but alas... she was so sure of herself it's for the best... she broke my heart and shattered it to a million pieces I have nothing left but tears and depression in my soul. I'm just wondering how to cope with this since it's been a long time since I had this type of pain and agony in my heart and mind... 
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01-21-17 11:34 PM
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I just want to start by saying it's not just 'years down the drain'. I'm sorry that it didn't work out with her, but it will one day with somebody else.  Through her, you were able to open up and allow somebody to get close. That's a really tough thing to do for a lot of people (including myself).

I don't deal well with emotions, and I am the least reliable person for advice on relationships, so I wish I had more to say on this. My only suggestion is to do something new for yourself -it sounds weird, but hear me out. For me when I'm dealing with stress/depression, change helps me reinvent myself in a way, so that I can deal with it (hasn't been heartbreak recently to the degree you're dealing with, but it's worth a shot trying). I've moved my room around, joined the gym, organized closets. It sounds lame, but it's helped me.

Opening up was a really good move. I'm learning to do that still haha, so I have to give you kudos on that.
I just want to start by saying it's not just 'years down the drain'. I'm sorry that it didn't work out with her, but it will one day with somebody else.  Through her, you were able to open up and allow somebody to get close. That's a really tough thing to do for a lot of people (including myself).

I don't deal well with emotions, and I am the least reliable person for advice on relationships, so I wish I had more to say on this. My only suggestion is to do something new for yourself -it sounds weird, but hear me out. For me when I'm dealing with stress/depression, change helps me reinvent myself in a way, so that I can deal with it (hasn't been heartbreak recently to the degree you're dealing with, but it's worth a shot trying). I've moved my room around, joined the gym, organized closets. It sounds lame, but it's helped me.

Opening up was a really good move. I'm learning to do that still haha, so I have to give you kudos on that.
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01-22-17 04:42 AM
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You're suffering through pain and agony? I am as well. I feel your pain. For years, I was bullied, mocked, ignored, taken advantage of, and more. I was generally disliked for just being myself. Whenever I wanted to be myself, others consciously avoided me. I spent my life being despised by everyone for being vacant, timid, aloof, and detached. I've never loved before, due to lack of self-confidence, but I believe I would be rejected If I tried. Life can be difficult. If you allow me, perhaps I can help you through it by at least giving you some words of encouragement. Be yourself. Stand tall. Believe in your abilities and think to yourself, "I can bounce back". I believe in you. 
You're suffering through pain and agony? I am as well. I feel your pain. For years, I was bullied, mocked, ignored, taken advantage of, and more. I was generally disliked for just being myself. Whenever I wanted to be myself, others consciously avoided me. I spent my life being despised by everyone for being vacant, timid, aloof, and detached. I've never loved before, due to lack of self-confidence, but I believe I would be rejected If I tried. Life can be difficult. If you allow me, perhaps I can help you through it by at least giving you some words of encouragement. Be yourself. Stand tall. Believe in your abilities and think to yourself, "I can bounce back". I believe in you. 
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