So I've had this crush on this girl for forever now, but I can't say anything to her about it because she has a boyfriend. She knows I identify as LGBT though, through bringing it up casually a few days ago, in conversation.

We're just friends, not best friends, but friends. She's always happy to see me and stuff and we've been talking after class for most of our semester.

She's graduating and going back to her home state for law school. Tomorrow is our last class. I don't see her exam day because I am a disabled student and therefore take exams in a separate location, rather than the classroom, at our school.

I know I'm not supposed to be crushing on her because she has a boyfriend and I am slowly getting over it, but I'm sad about this and I know I will miss her, even as a friend.

Tomorrow after class, I want to ask her when she is leaving, specifically and offer to take her out for coffee or something (as friends) before she leaves, but what if she says she can't? I mean, I'd understand if she can't because she's moving, graduation, finals, her job, etc., but just like, I don't know!

My parents brought the school she is going to up in conversation, as a suggestion for me to go to when I'm done with undergrad, but I don't know if I really want to go there right now and if it would be a good fit for me.

I mean, I plan on calling her once in a while, as friends, but it is not going to be the same!!!

Also, should I really tell my parents that I don't want to go to that school for the above reason & about my crush, just stay quiet when they mention it again, or?

Help me?

Aww, you slightly melted my cold, frozen heart. 

It does suck that she has a boyfriend, but no reason why you can't maintain a friendship. Perhaps ask her to add you to skype, so you can keep in touch after?

My only suggestion would be to watch your motives - if she has a boyfriend, she's probably not interested, which means if you go into the friendship with an expectation of something more developing you could get hurt. So take some time if you need to, but otherwise I'm sure she'd be happy to keep in touch.

How about respecting people's space when they're already in a relationship?

. . .

And not gay.

When you're gay.

That helps.

Well, I already know that nothing more than a friendship can come out of this here, hence why I'm still trying to get over her, but even just the thought of "I'll never see her again" makes me sad

Sounds to me like she belongs in the "facebook friends" category. It sucks that you're losing a friend but it sounds more like you are upset about losing a (in your mind) potential dating prospect but it sounds like she never was that for you.

It sucks having to move on from friends but at the same time it's part of life. Better to keep in touch in less in your face ways while you "move on" via things like Facebook (or other social media) and then once you've moved on to someone else then you can rekindle the friendship more.

geeogree : Yeah, I agree. I just didn't wanna seem weirdly distant from her, so I didn't disappear off the face of the planet for her & am still her friend though. I didn't wanna act weird once I saw her first Instagram post with she and her boyfriend. I congradulated her & told her I saw the post, but on the inside, really, I felt mad when I saw that post. Never told her that, never will. I don't think anything good would come out of it if I did, since she has a boyfriend. Know what I mean?

xxeliza321xx : Here's the help: Let her go.  She's not going to get into a relationship with you and you seem to be trying to hold on to something more than 'just friends.'  I don't believe it's just friends for a minute and she'll feel the same way.  You're threatening to make her actively dislike you if you play this the wrong way and you're setting yourself up for failure.

The test is to be brutally honest with yourself.  What's going to really happen if the two of you go out?  You'll talk about your experiences, your bisexuality, and she'll see the conversation take a turn.  She'll leave bothered, and not email you, call you, or anything like that.  She's not there for the same reasons as you and it'll be painfully obvious if you two actually go out.

Just call it a day, let her go, and keep things moving.

Ghostbear1111 : I don't know if I told you the back story about her (I told lots of people who don't know her), but it's done with, resolved, we're cool again & we're friends now. And just that. And only that. I mean, yes, I once had a crush on her, but I know I can't do anything now because she has a boyfriend. I know she enjoys my company nowadays. She's fun and receptive to talk to & she followed me back on Instagram when I requested to follow her. Knowing her right now, she'd most likely feel sad too if I told her I'm sad to see her go after tomorrow. I'm pretty sure tomorrow after class will be a lasting memory for us!

And if she says no to getting coffee with me, I'll be pretty sure it's honest with graduation, moving out, working, finals, etc., here at this time in her life - she seems to have a lot going on.