Hey guys, I haven't posted on Vizzed in a long time, but I've been going through something for a while. So a while ago, about February my girlfriend who I was dating for about a year and a half, broke up with me. Then, it turned out that she was lesbian (just finding this out) which breaks my heart even more. Because now it feels as if none of those feelings were real, because she was of a different sexual orientation. But the main point is, ever sine then, I have become less and less capable of feelings for other people, up to the point to were I don't really care about anyone. I don't have feelings like I had with her anymore. Is it possible that she breaking up with her could have ruined me. Because now, I am deemed a sociopath (Took a test at therapy) or what. I feel really bad about this.

I'm way too tired to write a full reply right now, so I'll keep this first one short (as I can), and finish up what I'm trying to say after I've gotten more sleep. In short, none of this has made you a sociopath. You may have a few new learned behaviors that lean in that direction, but that's simply from having a broken heart. The same thing happened to me when I just a little bit older than you, so I understand what you're feeling. As for the whole lesbian thing, if she's about the same age as you, I wouldn't invest too much thought in that. You're both still at the age where you're learning who you are, and it could be nothing more than a phase for her. And even if it's not, this is the age these things tend to become more apparent if it wasn't before. That doesn't mean what you two had was any less significant, only that her preference of gender may be more obvious to her now than before. 

These experiences are necessary in life, as you will learn and grow from them, even if it seems extremely painful and pointless in the moment itself. I hope this helps you keep your head up, and we can discuss this further if you want to.

That's rough man. I would question a lot about that relationship too if I were in your shoes.

However, you can't let what happened hold you back. You're likely still grieving over the relationship and until you come to terms with what happened you won't be able to emotionally move on from it. At some point you need let what happened go and feel the pain and then move on and look for something new. If you don't you will forever be stuck where you are emotionally and any new relationship that does come along with be ruined by this previous one that should be done with.

So, let yourself feel the pain of losing this relationship. Regardless of what she felt about you it sounds like you really cared about her. There needs to be a mourning period where you allow yourself to feel the pain of the loss. Once that is done you should learn what you can from the experience and see what comes next. You're still young and will have many more chances at having a girlfriend. Don't stress it too much right now.

This sounds rough, but I'm sure your ex-girlfriend DOES care for you, just not in that way. She could also be bisexual. I know this is hard, but you can survive. I believe in you.