So, I'm in 9th grade, and there's this girl in my math class. Before not much was really happening, but one day something happened between her and I.

It could be anything, it could be something, it could be nothing.  You may be experiencing all these emotions and she has nothing going on inside her head and heart.  Or like in class, she was looking at a mustard stain you had on your shirt and she got caught and was embarrassed.

The real marker of someone liking someone else is talking to them.  If she doesn't talk to you or go out of her way to say hello or anything, it means she probably doesn't dig you.  Maybe she's shy and not sure of things but I'm assuming math class has been going since the start of the year in September and you two have shared space before.

Go over, compliment her on something she has on, like her shirt or a bracelet, and see what she says.  If she responds and talks about it, you have a shot.  If she says thanks and turns away, she's not into you at all.

Good luck.

Ghostbear1111 : I would try to do that, but whenever I'm around her. The same thing happens that happened during lunch. Like I said, I don't want to go through that again, especially in front of her. Is there something else I can do?

Mario0908 : She's in your math class and you have time where the two of you are in a lunch room together.

Go over and talk to her.  Say hi before class or walk out with her after class.  Find a way to talk to her at lunch, just passing by, whatever.

You can find a way.  And the only way to get over the shakes, over the emotions, over the heart pounding away and the sweat is to practice, practice, practice.

I'm older than you.  I've been rejected a bunch of times and I've been with a lot of girls in relationships and whatever.  It's no big deal now because it's just pure fun.  Enjoy the emotions and the reaction and learn to control yourself to make things happen.

Go talk to her.  If you wimp out on this, you'll wimp out when another girl shows up.  And you're not the only guy who's trying to capture this girl's attention.  In another forum online somewhere else there's another 9th grader saying the same thing about the same girl.

It's only a matter of who works up the courage first.

Be the first one.

Go!

Ghostbear1111 : Well, I guess I won't really get anywhere by not trying, right? 

Ok, so I got to talk to her. Here's what happened.

I was sitting near the microwave in the lunchroom with my friend. Then the girl gets up from her table and walks over to the microwave. This was my chance, so I went for it.

"Hey," I said, "I need to ask you something. Would you consider us to be friends?" I figured I should ask her this first.

"Yes."

Yes? JUST yes? No questions, no explanation needed, just yes. It's odd, I expected yes to be the last thing for her to say. It's not like we talk or anything. This was really the first time I've ever said two full sentences to her. Now we're suddenly friends? I get that she probably just said yes to be nice and not hurt anyone's feelings, but still, no questions? She wasn't at all curious about why I would ask such a question, or why it matters that we're friends. Nothing.

I wanted to ask her why she would say yes when we have never talked to each other before. But I couldn't do it, I had not prepared for a confident "yes" answer.

So now what should I do, try to talk to her again? Or is there another option to go with?

I wouldn't want to ask why she immediately said Yes like that straight away, not that long after you've asked that, you might immediately get the sense of rejection. I had feelings for this girl a couple of years back, we started talking December and then I indirectly was rejected by her, thanks to somebody else who was working with us in the lesson.

Man, I know your situation all too well. You analyze little things and get so nervous when you're near them. I'm sure it was nothing, but if you want it to turn into something, try talking to her a bit more and getting to know her. No use in hiding away. She's just a girl, after all. I know it could be really scary to directly talk to her, so you could try getting her number, her Facebook or whatever you use and try texting her first. It helps me when I'm nervous to talk to people.

Yeah, actually. Want to know what happened to me the other day? The assistant principal called me into his office and told me not to talk to her. It's not like I said anything offensive to her, so I don't understand why exactly they would say that. 

Although I acted alone and tried talking to her a bit more before I looked back here, I don't suppose that I can do anything to fix this now. I'm pretty much screwed, unless I get the chance to talk to her again, I won't be able to get her number or anything. 

It wouldn't even matter if I disobey the assistant principal, because she really does not want me talking to her so much, and she won't even say that directly. So something probably isn't going on with this girl and I, and if there was it's probably gone now. If anyone still has advice, it will be appreciated.

My dear friend, I head read your problem, and I can associate with you on the subject. Honestly, though, the assistant principle doesn't know his place. Due to something called "The Freedom of Speech", unless you had stated something threatening to her, there is nothing he can do about it, LEGALLY, to suppress you from conversing with the girl. Anyways, let me give you some advice on how to address the situation in a calm, collective, and analytical manner. Here's a good thing to do: look her up on Facebook, attempt to add her. If she accepts, then you're golden in figuring this girl out. Simply read her interests, likes, etc... To see if you both have mutual interests. If you both do, then, that would be a good way to strike up an in depth conversation with this young lady. Be kind, courteous, and show active listening. Yet, don't just sit there and listen to her speak, she will get bored, and eventually shrug you off. Ask questions, make comments, and if you think she is attempting to be funny, give off a chuckle. And don't make it awkward, or you'll lose your shot. Now, another thing you can do is attempt to build your confidence. This is something difficult to do, I know this, personally, due to between the ages of 13-16 I had a low self esteem, lack of confidence, etc., due to bullying and never really having any motivation. Anyways, back on topic, to build your confidence, it is important to talk to other girls, not just the one you like. This doesn't mean you must pursue an intimate relationship with them, but, it will make it easier to allow yourself to speak to your crush. From there, after you feel confident enough to talk to her, give it a try. And, whatever you do, don't talk about video games or nerdy things, unless she is into those things. If she is, then, you're a gamer, dude, you figure that part out. If she isn't, the topic will most likely repel her from you. So, once you have figured out what she likes, dislikes, her favorite snacks/candy/etc., it's time to work on establishing a sense of trust. This means you'll have to be willing to ask her about her day everyday when you see her. Now, do not do it every time you see her, for then she'll get annoyed. Once you feel like, or she states that she trusts you, it's time to get her a gift. Chocolate, roses, etc., something along the lines. Even jewellery will work, like a chain link bracelet or a necklace. Make sure if you get her something, though, it is not a type of material that will turn her skin green after so long of wearing it. After you have given her three or four gifts, also, make sure to do it in moderation. Like, every week or so, so it doesn't seem like you're just giving her stuff to make her like you. Once you've given her three or four gifts, ask her out on a date. Like to the movies, or a decent restaurant. Whatever you can afford. Dress nice. Not like, four piece suit and tie, nice, but, not like, jeans and a T-shirt. Wear like, a button up shirt, or a polo, and a nice looking set of dress pants and shoes. Show her you know how to look nice. Believe me, every girl's crazy about a sharp dressed man. Now, don't attempt to kiss her, just yet. It would be too soon. If you go to the movies, let her pick out something she would like to see. And if you go to a restaurant, be as flexible with your spending limit as you can. For further advice, if needed, you can message me anytime, and I will get back to you as soon as possible.

Best wishes, and good luck man.

Sincerely,
XiandelTV
AKA
Joey.

XiandelTV :

XiandelTV : You have good advice. But how am I going to talk to her without alerting the assistant principal. He's serious about this, he suggested switching me to another math class so that I couldn't have any contact with her.

And also, she seems a little annoyed with me. How do I approach her now that she doesn't want me to talk to her? Nothing about this seems to be going in my favor. How do I make this a good situation?

Also, ignore that last post. I'm doing this on my 3DS and sometimes I have trouble with certain things like this.