Singelli : Hey, welcome back SIng, it's great that you changed your mind and decided to be a part of the Vizzed community once again, I told you I hope you're wrong about you leaving, and that is proven a fact.

I seen the threads saying about you being pregnant and I am happy for you on that, we all know you will be one proud parent, you being a care and fun loving individual, that proves it.

Well, anyways, welcome back .

If you want to stay then stay. I've come and gone so many times that I've lost count.

Post as much as you are able and when you can't then take off for a while. The more the merrier.

Singelli : Lady I may not know you in fact this is the first post I have ever seen of you actually. But that does not make you any less of a friend because everyone is my friend unless they do something to make me hate them and that is very very rare. Also congratulations on the baby I'm pretty sure you will make a great mother but be prepared for the birth my mom said it was the most painful thing she ever felt. We may be very different in terms of age and gender but I would love to talk to you because I like talking to people its a compulsive thing for me so yeah. Finally if you decide to leave I wish you the best of luck and may you have a good life lady and may your kid become successful heck he may be the next Einstein for all we know.

geeogree :

I think this is the case for most people.

I've left a good fifty times.

Singelli : I know that if you do come back, I'm going to be very happy because I missed you. I added you as an A+ Friend for a reason and I'd love to be able to talk to you more here since it's really a heck of a lot easier both here and in chat than in email.

legacyme3 : anyone who's stuck around for any good amount of time for sure.

I love how we manage to have conversations with each other in other people's threads.

Well said Kelli. If you need ANYONE to talk to about ANYTHING, I promise you can talk to me. Whether its good things and bad things you want to talk about, I will be a good listener and offer the best advice I can. I really wish I could meet you in person. I didn't even know you before I joined Vizzed, but most of the things you say are just so inspirational. You are the most special member on here, in my opinion, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks so.

If you do decide to stay on Vizzed, obviously that would be great! But if not, I will do my best to try and stay in touch with you if you need someone to talk to, or to just talk in general. In my case, it would be WAY easier to talk through Facebook, but I will email you if necessary.

For the record, I am excited about your decision and still excited to find out the news of the gender of your child!

I like and agree with what LK said on your second point. Definitely.

Something that I do want to add about communicate on Vizzed versus email is that remember that most of us communicate on this site as pseudo-names, unlike the friendship that we have, which is more than just play4fun and singelli. So some people who only communicate on here may not actually be considering people as "close" friends, or at least how we define traditionally as close friends. Even so, sometimes people who communicate regularly prefer something that is more immediate if we are to communicate regularly, which is what social media has become I think, if it is towards people that you don't normally see in person.

You're not a liar. It's just that nothing is really that permanent about coming on a website or getting off a website. People should probably know my opinion about this: I think leaving threads are absolutely pointless. If you want to let some of your close friends know that you won't be on anymore, you can communicate that to them, but to make a public thread to the entire community about it is pretty pointless only because it is expecting others to think that you are worth commenting about, and it is make this public declaration, putting the expectation on yourself to be keeping this expectation. If people want to leave, just let those whom you communicate the most know, and then just log off and not log on. That way you won't get into situations like this where you feel like you are going to change your mind about your decision, making it seem like you are lying when you are simply miscalculate a prediction about yourself.

Your reason of coming back to Vizzed should be the only reason for people to get on Vizzed. People should be on Vizzed for the community. This is, first and foremost, a forum site, and it should be the community that we should be working getting better so that people can have these conversations and relationships formed online.

I was one of those people that disappeared. I admit I have felt no small amount of guilt because of it. My reasoning was that because I let virtual life get in the way of real life, I could put that to the side. I justified waiting because I didn't know what to say. But the problem was, I still had "virtual time", and it was often of the wrong sort or was "too much of a good thing". It got in the way of better things, like chatting with Singelli.

I even let my relationship with my best virtual friend on Steam go downhill. Reddit, Vizzed and gaming took too much of my time and I forgot the freedom and happiness I felt some months ago. Not that I'm leaving here again. But I just really need to prioritize, and that's something I'll need help with.

I've even forgotten to great extent what it's like to have relationships at all. That was largely what kept me away. The pain and guilt was so great, I just wanted to give up. And I did.

But I'll keep trying. I might not be able to honor every promise I make. But I will try. And I hope you'll forgive me for not being there like I should have, Singelli.

Singeli:

First off all, it's not selfish to tell people that you're leaving a site and leaving an email behind. I think it's selfish of people to expect you to come here when you don't want to just to maintain a relationship with them. People may view an email differently phychologically, but that's a hurdule we're going to have to recognize and get over. It's just like I feel like I should be out working when the rain comes. But you can't roof in the rain. So, I just have to train my mind to say. "Big deal, better not waste my time then." That way I can value the time I have home and finish my (CLEAN) fanfictions, ect.

I'll tell you that I've some of my closest "Friendships" very cheap on this website. Not Gamin and User though, they are true friends. I'm talking about earlier ones.

People don't value online relationships as much. It's not as personal, and people don't meet face to face. Once I started getting out and about in my car, seeing my cousins, ect. I wanted to be doing that instead of Vizzed. Can't even think of many threads I like posting in here, but oh well, THAT's about to change.

If you choose to stay, it should be for the right reasons, and totally remain under your control. You have a live to live, and now you'r living for someone else's life. To not stay on Vizzed for those reasons are honorable. I'll tell you this though.

The electronic world to me, is nothing but a place to share art and other interests. At first it was a place to make friend. (I only have a few in real life.) And I still think I could make great friendships online if other people allow it. But I don't expect others to view it the same way I do. One thing I do notice though, is friendships tend to be stronger on Vizzed. This is a very positive site, for better or for worse, and people bond quickly. I'm not sure about strongly though. After what you've gone through, you may view it totally different. How you deal with that is totally up to you.

But anyways, that's how I look at it. Do whatever is best for you. And if you need to leave, don't view this site as valuable. Don't give in for thrills. Just wanted to encourage you in the other way if you needed it.

I am glad that you are considering staying... But I can definitely understand why you felt that way. Often, I feel as though people don't contact me, but then I realize, I have to be the one to reach out. And, sometimes it's hard. 

Just make the decision you're happy with, everyone else will just have to deal with it! I'll be praying that you can make it without having any problems!

I've already said a lot, so I'll keep this short, but you said: " I don't want to come back for vizzed, to be clear.  I want to come back for the PEOPLE of vizzed."

I can safely say you would NOT be alone. I'm sure there are many people here who don't come to vizzed for the games, or participate in the TDV, but come here for the family.

Welcome back, Singelli! Well at least for now anyway. I totally understand why you left though. It was nice to email you a bit though. x)

I guess you could do what I do, and focus more on the people on the board, rather than the board itself. lol

 

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Geez, you're such a big liar, IT'S OVER BETWEEN US!!

That's what I would say if I would've been offended, but I can see where you're coming from. Keeping contact outside Vizzed is pretty strange, and I think it's easier to talk with you here because after people have talked with you they can talk to their next friend, instead of talking to one and the same friend constantly on their mail. 

Anyways, I'd love if you come back, your optimism is something to make Vizzed shine a little bit more

And I don't mean to be a dork here, but I find it pretty funny only boys (including me) liked your post (so far). I guess you're popular with the boys

juuldude : I'm the first girl  to like the post XD

Well, welcome back, Sing! I haven't really known you for that long, but I did want to get to know you better. I didn't E-mail you, since, I'm squeamish, and you probably won't know who I was, lol. But still, I'm happy, and I hope you start to actually know me better, lol.

I saw this coming I knew you'd only have great reasons to come back that had to do with the other users!

It would be best if you did come back if it doesn't get too much in the way of your real life priorities!

I understand how it feels to be seen as someone who just wants attention. I've been in the same boat, making a bunch of temporary hiatus threads but 2 days later, everything working out! That's why I hope I never make one of those threads again. Every time I do, whatever I say almost never actually happens.

Now I just stick with saying that sometimes I'll be inactive for a couple days a week.

You need friends, and vizzed is where they are when you need them.

Ever since more and more social media has exploded in popularity, email has become less and less common for people to use. I can barely email anyone. I have to go on social media or text them instead. I like email, too

"how can I come back without seeming unreliable and like some bi-polar, clingy freak who just craves attention?"

By making this thread. You've already done enough to prove that you aren't just craving attention. You're clearly thinking about coming back just for us. For our happiness. For the community.

We all love you and care about you a great deal, too. That's another reason for you to come back.

I really appreciate you chatting with me through profile comments the other day. You let me know that you cared about me too, simply by asking how I was doing.

I can tell by reading this thread that your hiatus from vizzed has really helped you change for the better, and you've done so. A lot.

Welcome back, and I'm praying that you'll stay, and that it's best for you to do so.