Hello, welcome. I am going to explain how I see a relationship when it first starts out from the moment one asks the other one out.
When you meet someone as a friend to another, it's just friends, getting to know each other. It's building trust for one another and making contact, and connecting. In a friendship relationship, the main key factors would be trust, respect, and fun. But when you get into a serious relationship (dating). Those main key factors kind of change. The number 1 factor is Trust. Following Communication, loyalty and friendship.
So where am I going with this?
We are going to do this with numbers, 1 being the lowest, 100 being the highest, and of course 50 being middle.
When you ask someone out and get a relationship, you start at 50.
50? You may be asking. What I mean is, this is the normal level, you two are just getting to know each other, everything is decent. Fights are not there and trust is beginning to build. It's when you both are uncomfortable but are comfortable.
It is up to you both whether to increase that number up towards 100, or to decrease it to 1. Obviously you are going to want to increase it. But let me tell you. Every time you have a bad argument, or some type of disruption with each other, that number decreases. But everything you two do something good for each other. The number increases.
What do I mean? Well You start at 50. If you two were to have an argument and a fight, and stopped talking to each other and got upset and started to lose trust for each other, then your number would decrease.
But if you two went on dates, had fun, and ignored the drama and just were yourself with each other, and trusted each other and told each other secrets, then the number would increase.
Now here comes the serious thing.
If you two break up, because of a fight, or cheating or anything really.
That number drops to 0. And this is why making friendship with each other is so difficult after a relationship. Even if you two both agreed on dating, it's always going to be awkward and hard to make friendship after the relationship. Because if you remember when i said the key factors in a relationship, one of them was "friendship" When you two break up, you lose everything, including the friendship. So you have to gain everything back for each other.
Now after you two break up you are at 0. So if you two do get back together, a week, 2 weeks. Months or years later. You have to re-build that number back up. Because once it hits 0, it's like all the walls between you two just crashed, and now you both will be sensitive about everything, it will be hard. You must rebuild those walls, that relationship. And if you do it by yourself... well good luck. But if you build it together, and hold your hands and stay strong, well lets just say, It's not impossible to do. I've seen it done.
So what am I saying here to sum it up? I am simply saying. "Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but Trusting them not to." - Anonymous writer.
I hope you all understand this, I tried to explain it the best I could. It may be difficult but if you really do understand it, then you may have been through it like I have. Just stay strong.
If you need some time of relationship advice you can always message me, I will gladly try to help you out. Life is tough, but It's up to you whether you want to change it or not. So never give up, because giving up will just make it worse.
God bless. Hello, welcome.
I am going to explain how I see a relationship when it first starts out from the moment one asks the other one out.
When you meet someone as a friend to another, it's just friends, getting to know each other. It's building trust for one another and making contact, and connecting. In a friendship relationship, the main key factors would be trust, respect, and fun. But when you get into a serious relationship (dating). Those main key factors kind of change. The number 1 factor is Trust. Following Communication, loyalty and friendship.
So where am I going with this?
We are going to do this with numbers, 1 being the lowest, 100 being the highest, and of course 50 being middle.
When you ask someone out and get a relationship, you start at 50.
50? You may be asking. What I mean is, this is the normal level, you two are just getting to know each other, everything is decent. Fights are not there and trust is beginning to build. It's when you both are uncomfortable but are comfortable.
It is up to you both whether to increase that number up towards 100, or to decrease it to 1. Obviously you are going to want to increase it. But let me tell you. Every time you have a bad argument, or some type of disruption with each other, that number decreases. But everything you two do something good for each other. The number increases.
What do I mean? Well You start at 50. If you two were to have an argument and a fight, and stopped talking to each other and got upset and started to lose trust for each other, then your number would decrease.
But if you two went on dates, had fun, and ignored the drama and just were yourself with each other, and trusted each other and told each other secrets, then the number would increase.
Now here comes the serious thing.
If you two break up, because of a fight, or cheating or anything really.
That number drops to 0. And this is why making friendship with each other is so difficult after a relationship. Even if you two both agreed on dating, it's always going to be awkward and hard to make friendship after the relationship. Because if you remember when i said the key factors in a relationship, one of them was "friendship" When you two break up, you lose everything, including the friendship. So you have to gain everything back for each other.
Now after you two break up you are at 0. So if you two do get back together, a week, 2 weeks. Months or years later. You have to re-build that number back up. Because once it hits 0, it's like all the walls between you two just crashed, and now you both will be sensitive about everything, it will be hard. You must rebuild those walls, that relationship. And if you do it by yourself... well good luck. But if you build it together, and hold your hands and stay strong, well lets just say, It's not impossible to do. I've seen it done.
So what am I saying here to sum it up? I am simply saying. "Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but Trusting them not to." - Anonymous writer.
I hope you all understand this, I tried to explain it the best I could. It may be difficult but if you really do understand it, then you may have been through it like I have. Just stay strong.
If you need some time of relationship advice you can always message me, I will gladly try to help you out. Life is tough, but It's up to you whether you want to change it or not. So never give up, because giving up will just make it worse.
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