Alright so, last year I made good friends with this girl, and this year we became boyfriend and girlfriend. She is really nice, outgoing person who I believe is the perfect girl for me.
Alright, so about a week ago, one of my best friends came out to me and asked me nervously if I was bisexual. I said yes, and then he said he was bi-curios and asked me if we could go out for a bit. I said no, as I was already going out with someone. He than asked me if we could kiss. Just a small one, no one would know. I thought about it, but finally caved in. We went somewhere where there was no one, and we, well kissed. Well, while we were, my girlfriend saw us, and went of running and crying. Thing is, I don't know how to fix this, because I am too embarrassed to tell her the truth. What should I do?

Tell her the truth. If she means anything to you, will will tell her how you feel about what happen, and what it is that happened. Don't sound desperate or anything, just be honest.

I don't know if you can fix it.  Tell her, if she'll listen, what happened.  Apologize if you're sorry and see what she has to say.  You would probably be upset if she kissed someone else so she has every right to be unhappy.  It's not embarrassing so much as it is a trust issue.  Now she can't trust you around guys or girls.  That's going to make her worry.  She probably passed up someone else asking to kiss her too and now she feels cheated.

1.  Apologize
2.  Explain the situation
3.  Let her decide the next step.  You messed up so it's in her court to figure out what she wants to do.  Don't expect everything to go back to what it was because everything has changed now.
4.  Let her go if she doesn't want to talk to you any more.  It's over if that's her decision.

Unlucky, man.  You have to make good decisions when it comes to relationships, even if "no one will find out.'  Your significant other will always find out.  Think of every single thing as a sting operation to catch you. 

But, if you wanted to kiss someone else, maybe you're not that into your girlfriend anyway.  Did you think about that?

Oh...Ouch. I knew a girl who had this happen to her. You've betrayed her trust, any kiss, even "Just a little one" is still tremendously meaningful. And now that you've gone behind her back and done it with someone else. She might be blaming herself a bit. The best thing to do is apologize, and explain if she will listen. And hope she takes you back, if you actually still love her. Imagine if the situation were reversed. You would probably be very upset if she snuck around your back.

I wish you the best of luck man.

Boo! Man love stinks. Just apologize and tell her that you are no more bisexual.

mariowin13 : Well, if I did tell her that, than I would also be lying.

Well, thanks to Light Knight, Warmaker and A user of this, I got the situation solved. I told her the truth, explained the entire situation and pretty much made the biggest apology of my life. We got back together, although she did say she didn't exactly trust me anymore and that she was very sad about that and I am pretty much being the best person on the planet just for her. She is starting to trust me a lot again. I really hope I never have to pass through this again, and I learned my lesson. I will never, ever betray anyone else again, even if it is a small betrayal.

Once again, thanks to everyone, I really can't imagine what stupid thing I would have done without you guys. I really cannot thank everyone enough. Thank you everyone.

maguc : Great. And she will slowly start to build trust again; that can take a LONG time, but it will eventually be just "something stupid that happened".

But  don't act all desperate walking on eggshells forever, she has to know "You are terribly sorry, and won't do it again', but also "you can move on and continue living your life normally, with confidence".

building relationships take a long time, and re-building relationships take twice as long.

You essentially cheated on this person, and that's not a good thing. I don't want to berate you, but being bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual doesn't change the situation. She trusted you with what was assumed to be a monogamous relationship, and she sees this as a direct punch in the face. She's not going to forget it either(would you forget something like that?), so you need to have some control over how she remembers it, and why it happened.

You HAVE to be honest with her if you want to maintain this relationship, be honest and apologetic. People are naturally attune to when they are being lied to, and it's not going to do you any favors to postpone telling this person the nature of your sexuality. If she's a good person, she deserves to know.

I think you're a good person, simply from assessing your posts, so I don't really put this against your character. You're young, and at least you care about what she thinks about it. It's up to you how the situation is handled, and how you handle it is going to stick with you for the rest of your life. I know because I screwed up some relationships in the past, and it still hurts to think back on it.

It's hard sometimes, but people appreciate the truth in the long run. wish you the best.

mariowin13 If you're not going to bother to address the topic being discussed, don't comment at all. You've shown your ignorance already on similar threads, just stop it.

Light Knight :
I agree with you. Try to catch up with her, try and calm her down if she is upset, and tell her the truth... explain to her how you felt at that situation (Let her know that she can still trust you) and tell her that you love her and let her believe that you will never betray her...
Love one another, that's all it takes from you...

Oh .. yeah this has happened to many of my friends.. I suggest just to make sure you are honest with her open and let her know your not desperate... sometimes that scares off girls even more.. explain to her what happened and hopefully it will all work out.. if she cares enough for you like you care for her then she will understand!




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maguc : tell her the truth if she really loves you she will understand and dude dont you watch movies you always get caught by someone no offense