A simple question that usually doesn't have a yes/no answer... I am aware that most people will say that they are both... So i'd like for people to pick one or the other... Of course this is easier said than done... but personally I find it dull and I'm sure someone will agree when everyone says that they're are both. 

Me personally I'm usually the submissive one actually.. I care for other above myself and will usually go along with my girlfriend/boyfriend's wishes... Of course I don't do that 100% of the time that'd be impossible. If everyone was to follow their partners commands all the time they'd be pretty much devoid of personality and thought... 

So let the answers begin!

First! P Haha, well I'm pretty  sure I'm more submissive, I do care and would see to my other before me, but just like you said, not 100% of the time of course, but yea.

My relationship is a little different when it comes to the more dominant or submissive of us.
Both myself and my girlfriend can be very dominant, when the need arises for it.
But if I had to pick a solid answer for this, I would say I hold the edge on being slightly more dominant.

I lord it over my woman.

But seriously, while I'll do most things someone asks of me, and don't mind being practically a servant in some things, when it comes to relationship matters, or making decisions, I am a little more dominant. I can be quite decisive, and feel that I'm pretty good at listening to people and making a decision that is best for all; this makes me take the lead in most things.

I would not like to be either. In some issues I am more assertive and domineering and in some issues I have just done what the other person think is the best. The latter one is usually what brings the peace around the house. My ideal relationship would be based on equality and discussion. Not to any kind of power strugles.

And when you have a relationship with somebody who is very domineering and certain how things should be done, yet expects you to be the "man" and make every decision... Finding a common ground and compromises is just impossible.

Submissive. Which may be bad, since I'm a guy. I try to make sure the girl is feeling the best before I decide anything. Its like that saying Why can't I get a girlfriend? Oh yeah, its cuz I'm too nice to them but yeah

Bintsy :

There is a saying in my country that goes roughly translated like "the most beautiful of brides will in time turn into the most demanding of (b-word)". It probably means that the girl who at first is very happy to please you and fill your every whim will in time when the novelty wears of turn into someone who is more dominiering and set out to trying to "change" you. And once having noticed you cant change the guy (you cannot change a man), grows bitter and resentful.

This ofcource is not the absolute truth carved in stone since people are different and so are their relationships, but I think it has some truth to it as I have personally observed in my longer relationships. To be honest, I would not mind being the sub in the relationships if there would be some "enlightened dictatorship" kind of rule.

Brigand : Bintsy is mine.. She tried to send me a blueberry muffin as a wedding proposal but the stupid delivery system destroyed it..

Bintsy : Maybe one day i'll hold your hoof in marriage

sonicmcmuffin :

Congratulations, my good brony. Next time bake her a fresh one and deliver it yourself so it is still warm when she recives it. That would be sweet.

I think you need to have a bit of both in any relationship. It can't be one person leading and the other person always following.

My wife and I try to have a balance regarding who leads and who follows. We both know our strengths and we use those strengths to decide when one leads and the other follows.

I'm socially awkward but good with money (accountant) and my wife is more out-going but sometimes overspends. She tends to take the lead in social situations and what not while I maintain our budget and make sure we aren't spending too much money each month. We both lead in our own ways depending on the situation.

Umm....
About the leading question.

Relationships take work regardless of dominance of submissiveness.

I think a better question to ask would be who has time to pick between these two roles in a relationship? And witch are You? (More often than not.)

Nearly all of the dames in my life have expected me to crave them to such a degree of being dominant.
But this is also about spare time alloted.

SO, if you can imagine two people doing everything they can for even just a few minutes of conversation??
You might have a great idea of where I'm heading with this.

In my relationships I have to say both my counter-half and I tend to be aggressive and dominate at overcoming adversity of scheduling time. Mustering energy. Just for the chance to be ourselves with eachother.

It could be because I am older now.
I have little time to really check who dominates who.
I'll have to talk with my counter part and see if I can have a chalk board next to the bed to keep track of who is on top most of the time.

Who wins the arguments more?
(We tend to joke more than fight. No score to keep. We get through this... Then everybody wins. Together or not. Let the chips fall where they may.)

Who gets to decide what's for dinner? (Not really an issue in my place. We eat what is made. Or Go out for stuff we want but have no energy to cook.)

Who cooks more and who does dishes more? (In my place I have a rule. Who ever cooks does not do the dishes.)
("The Dollar Tree" has disposable plates. If you can not afford the time. Paper or ceramics?)

It is not a Bad Question. I just think many have no time to track traditional roles these days.

Good Luck To All.
Peace.

Althought I am single I would be the submissive becauase arguing takes too much effort and as every guy knows women are always right even when they aren't so it is pointless trying to tell them other wise. As for "other stuff" I don't know yet but I will probably be the same but you never know

I am definitely the submissive, but in a way I like it that way because I cant really screw up in our relationship and waiting on her hands and feet kinda feels good.

Although at times I can be a little submissive, I'm generally the dominant one. I always seem to attract the indecisive guys, so the natural leader inside of me takes over, but not in a rude way. I'm still respectful and aware of any guy I'm with's feelings, but I don't lollygag and stand aloof when things can get done. I'm also very open with communication, so I tell it like it is and solve problems, if any, head on.  

Also, I have yet to hear any complaints about being the dominant one.

Well, I am submissive more so then dominant. There have been a few where I was dominant, though. But in all honestly I'm a submissive person.

I tend towards submissive.

Don't take that to mean I'm a wimp. I can be dominant, and I don't mind being it if I need to be in the relationship.

I'm just more fine with being the submissive one who just follows the partner around. I don't like conflict, so if they want to do something, I'm generally ok with it. I can put my foot down at times of course, it's how I've stayed who I am.

What I'm trying to say is, I like it when my woman tells me what to do. haha. (I may or may not listen !!!)

Well, it depends on the situation. Usually he's the dominant one socially, but when we're alone, I am.

In my relationship, we're both submissive people XD.

I try to step up when I can, we're both generally shy people and we don't know how to really make anything work, but we do try.

We pretty much take turns being submissive/dominant in it.

An interesting question. I'll assume it's in general. I am dominate. I prefer to be dominate because I like to know I am in control of a relationship (however I perfectly understand that I can't force anyone to do anything they don't want to do), but I don't mind switching between the two for the act of what's going on in my relationship. Being submissive doesn't mean you're a total pushover, and being dominate doesn't mean you're a harsh bossy boots, so I guess the meaning has a little variation.