your worried about a glass?!?
If you're that worried, dont tell her. You think she's memorised the number of glasses?just bag the shards, then dump the bag at the bottom of your bin.
She probably wont even remember you told her. Job done.

thenumberone : Well it's not that, there were too many tiny bits so I picked them all by hand since the vacuum was in my sisters room and didn't want to disturb my sister (She has BIG TIME anxiety-- like me). I am no liar so I told her but she's always depressed when something like that happens and she wasn't able to help.

Uh, sorry I didn't get to this Kyle.

Do NOT lie to your mom.  That is the WORST advice ever. It's selfish, deceitful, disrespectful, and shows VERY low character. 

Honesty is a very important thing.  I know what you mean about saying your mother will freak out.  Mine would have too.  She would have been quite upset, and even possibly a little unreasonably upset if she was in a bad mood and didn't understand that accidents happen.  However.... would you rather she get some glass in her foot and find out later?  I'm sure she'd be more angry if she found out that way, than if you just told her.

Pray about it... that she has a receiving heart, and then let her know. Even if you did a fantastic job cleaning it up, she'll likely want to double check just to keep her family safe.

Even if she DOES get mad... I can guarantee that later, she will think of how impressive it was that you told the truth even while knowing what the consequences might be.  She might not even tell you that, but she will.  It will also show her, in your eyes, that you are mature enough to be trusted, because you will come to her and tell the truth when you make a mistake.

I could quote some bible verses, but I'm sure that's not needed.    Please God in all that you do.  Would He like you lying to your mother?  (And before anyone else shouts, yes, hiding the truth is the same thing as lying.... and realize this is NOT a debate thread, people.  *coughs coughs*)

Pff, kids lie all the time, its more constructive than praying. Whats the point in upseting them. If my parents suffered from depression id avoid telling them anything that would depress them, its called a white lie. Like when my mum made the most disgusting meal ever, I lied and said she was an amassing cook, because I wouldnt want to see my parents upset.



I thought you said in your first post that you DID hoover them up? Either way, its done now theirs no point worrying about. If shes depressed about it just do little things to make her happy, make her breakfast, or buy her a flower or something. Its the little things in life.
Of course thats just the advice of a "low character".
Lol.

thenumberone :

Its not often I advocate lying... but when the alternative is praying... its kind of obvious you should just lie.

Both are just ways of sweeping things under the rug really.

At least with a lie, you hide something upsetting... what the hell does praying do for anyone, let alone depressed people.

Lying is only bad if you make a habit of it. Everyone lies about something.

legacyme3 :
thenumberone :

People can express their beliefs without you saying that it's not a proper way to handle it. This isn't a "Give me possible solutions and debate other's answers" thread. Quit that crap right now, I'm so tired of this stuff. If you don't have something to say TO KYLE about what to do, then don't post in here. Grow up.

BluemageKyle : My mom used to do that sort of thing too, actually. I remember one night when I was like 14, I woke up puking all over the place and I didn't trust myself to go to the kitchen to get some water and some tylenol for the fever I assumed I had, so I went to wake my mom up. She said she'd get up but she fell back to sleep instantly. When she found me sitting in the bathroom surrounded by vomit and towels a few hours later, she felt AWFUL. So I know how you feel about wanting to avoid her being depressed and feeling guilty.

However, just be nonchalant about it. When you guys get a chance to talk and you guys aren't in the whole "morning rush" thing I assume goes on in every household and not just my own, just calmly explain. Just be like "Hey, last night I went to get a drink and I dropped one of our glasses. I tried to wake you up but you seemed really tired, so I put on some thick gloves and cleaned it up myself. I vacuumed as much up as I could, but if you want to check and make sure it's all gone, Ii'd appreciate it". That way it's obvious that you weren't frustrated at her, and you took care of it as safely as possible so she doesn't have to worry.

I don't encourage lying, nor do I think it's a terrible, terrible thing to lie about something like this. It was an accident, obviously, and telling her isn't going to change that she didn't wake up, that you broke the glass, or that you had to clean it up yourself. If for some reason she notices it's gone, I don't see what the issue would be in being like "I broke it on accident a couple days ago, but I cleaned it up." Not mentioning something that is no longer relevant isn't lying. Her asking you where the glass went and being like "GEE MA, I DUNNO" is lying.

Also, and this isn't really important anymore, but it bothered me when I read it: You should have just swept up the broken glass, big pieces and all. You wouldn't have had to touch it at all, and also, thinking of sucking up shards of glass with a vacuum seems kind of grody, haha.

Let us know how she takes it and what you decided to do, Kyle! I hope it works out for the best.

KG :

Apologies. I was just trying to point out how praying doesn't make a problem go away any more than lying does. In a way, I was just saying how I would have handled it.

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That aside, after taking more time to think about the issue, I'd reccommend being honest about the problem, and trying to build a better bond between the two of you. You need to realize you are growing up and can handle minor things like cleaning up glass. This benefits both of you, and you'll find a sense of sarisfaction knowing you can do things without bothering your mother at night

Really, this kind of brings up a small anecdote from when I was 10.

I was tired, but I couldnt sleep. My mom had sleeping pills in the cupboard. I took one.

I didnt male it back to bed and fell asleep at the bottom of the stairs. The pill probably didn't do it that fast, but thats not the point. I woke up the next morning in my bed, because my mother carried me up to bed. She never got after me about using a pill because she trusts me to be fine when I make a decision.

Yes I realize I shouldn't have taken a pill. Bad idea. But I gained a small bit of independence.

KG :
I did make suggestions.
In fact, I made 2.
Nor did i suggest that anyone elses advice made you selfish or "low on character".

thenumberone : She said that lying shoes low character. Unless you're a habitual liar, I don't know why you'd take that personally. Lying in general is a pretty crappy thing to do to your parents, so I'm pretty sure that's what she meant. Enough about it.

legacyme3 : That is madness. If my 10 year old was snooping through the cabinet for pills while I was sleeping and/or found sleeping in an awkward place for no obvious reason, it'd probably crap my pants. She didn't even ask why you were there or what your took?

I don't really understand what happened here. Are you mad that your mother is going to be mad that you broke a glass, or that she was sleepwalking and didn't clean it up? I'm kinda confused :-S

KG :

I have a weird family

Honestly, try to STRATEGICALLY lie about it, if anything. By that, I mean: If she asks why you bothered her last night, say you forgot. If she notices, try to hide it and say you don't know and stuff.

Normally I'd just say that you should admit it and tell her, but if she suffers from depression, then it'd be a bad idea, Nya~.

Also, if you get money from chores, jobs, etc, make sure to BUY A NEW CUP. In fact, buy two, even. When you buy them, tell her the truth, and that you didn't want to upset her.

In fact, if she has a favorite show or band or whatever, try to buy a themed cup with a logo or cover or something related to it. You can find cups and mugs like those at comic/entertainment shops all the time, and they're generally durable, Nya~.

Don't just lie and forget about it, that can be a bad idea if she finds the evidence.

MegaRevolution1 : I'm trying to AVOID lying. Lying is a sin and I refuse to commit a sin. But my mother at times, even though she is forgiving, can really be upset. My mother has been depressed since she found out why her mother (Yes, my bipolar grandmother who is very scary.) had abused her all her life until her parent's divorce. And it was her favorite cup >.<

If it was her favorite cup, then you'd probably need to replace it FAST. If you can't buy a new one, and you have an art class that also deals with pottery and the likes, then you should make one for her instead after school. If you really get upset over it, and it makes you yourself depressed, you could try going to guidance and explaining the issue to them and try getting to make it during normal school hours. This can be an overall perfect substitute, because it'd be something made from you, showing you really love her, but at the same time shows that you're really sorry for breaking it on accident, Nya~.

And I don't know how your silly sin stuffs work with lying, even after searching, but the way I see it, if it buys you time to go and replace it so she doesn't feel bad, then I'm sure your God will forgive you. You're not doing it with malicious intent if you truly are going to replace it. If you lie and DON'T replace it, though, then from what I know about your God, don't expect mercy, Nya~.

(PS: It helps if you DON'T use your mom's favorite cup.)

Why would you use your mothers favorite cup anyway?

That feels... silly.

KG : Sorry about the wait, so here's what happened.
  I then was super nervous and wanted to call my father, but he would use that as an example to say my mother wouldn't be a safe parent in court sometime during the divorce process. So I decided to go and pick up the big bits and throw them away and vacuum up the small bits, now, I was tired, and wasn't thinking straight, so I didn't wear gloves, so in the end I ended up getting a huge nasty cut across my entire palm of my right hand (Good thing I write with my left!) and I had a huge cloth over it and we went to see the doctor and they had to remove some pieces of glass in my hand and then fixed my hand up. As for how my mother took it; she seemed extremely guilty and upset, but I was surprised when she said,"Kyle, it happens its alright."

That's a pretty important part of the story to just completely leave off. Any time you're hurt, you need to tell your mom. You can't lie to her and hide it. It won't go away, it'll only get worse.

Edit: Obviously you already told her, but I meant if anything like that were to happen again.

soxfan849 : Thanks for the advice, I'll tell her immediately next time, if there is a next time.

BluemageKyle : Just lie to your mom an everything will be FINE.