Alright, so there's this girl that I really like a lot, I have posted

about her here before. Well yesterday my friend was talking to her on

Facebook and trying to get her to meet me and him at my school's library

and all of a sudden she completely refused and basically completely
freaked out and I have no idea why. I want to confront her about it and

ask her what the deal is but I'm honestly too afraid to. I was scared of

doing so before and now I'm even MORE scared about it. I don't know

what to do and I don't want to give up on her because I like her a lot,

seriously more than I've ever liked any other girl and she hasn't

treated me like this before, in fact the ironic thing is that she told

me online to come talk to her IRL whenever I wanted and now she's

completely contradicting herself and I have no idea what I should do.

Is she one of the popular girls or a normal girl. If she is popular you should try to become friends first then whatever else. ( unless of course you are one of the popular people ) If she isn't you should just go up to her in a good place and ask her. If you think she will be angry you should go to a place with a lot of people so she might not be as mad. ( she might scream something out load though).
You don't have to take my advice. You should know deep down what to do.

First if all, I had no idea this site had relationship stuff. I mean, I believe that relationships at I'm guessing your teen years are very complicated. You have to wait a long time to do these things. Next, tell your friend not to pester her like that, kind of stuff is going to drive her away. 

Yours who is still rusty on the subject,
Ender44

NordicWarrior : I’ve probably said this before but you’re young and the main thing you should focus on is your studies. I know it’s not the popular thing but believe me when I tell you, you’ll thank yourself later for it I promise. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Like I said you’re young and you should enjoy what’s left of your youth because as you get older it gets harder. Believe me when I tell you I wish I could go back to when I was your age I would do a lot of things differently if I had the chance.

As far as the girl, I wouldn’t worry about it. Just take one day at a time and worry about the people and things that are important and you will be just fine. Best of luck to you.

Try to get to know her more. Maybe ask her if she is shy or something. Just talk to her and ease her into the idea of meeting you at the library or perhaps at the movies. If she is uncomfortable with meeting you alone, you guys can both bring friends over and it can be like a little social gathering of some sort. Just keep talking to her and don't give up, because girls (especially me) hate it when guys give up on them. I am a very shy person as well, and I get timid easily, so that may be her case. Just try and figure out whats going on, and be kind and gentle about it.

You have to go and talk to her people normally do what she did when something bad has happened in their family so they might need a shouder to cry on so to speak

thudricdholee : I seriously want to talk to her so badly...but I just can't work up the courage to do it. I've been shy all my life because of a mental disorder and talking to normal people that I don't usually talk to is hard enough, so this is like torturous for me...

just do it dude its not like the world is going to end if something goes wrong if u ask me relationships r something u have to go in with no fear just don't say u love her before u ever went on a date that would probally freak her out

Your friend, nor anyone else, should not be trying to convince her of anything (like meeting you in the library), it's just going to annoy her. YOU (not your friends) have to seem motivated to get to know her, but still respecting her.

Worst case scenario: If you just sit there, and never speak to her, you will be in the SAME boat as if you did and she said she doesn't really want to know you in a dating way. The only difference is you would always wonder how she felt.

Now the chance are that she will agree to hanging out with you, and then you both will know if you are right for each other. You are still very young, so don't get to worked up about it. Teens your age need to get to know each other, get to know what having a crush or likeing someone is all about. But don't make things out to be so serious; you are just asking to hang out with her to get to know you better.

You said you have a mental disorder that makes you very shy. Well at this point in your life, still a teen, is when you can really learn to overcome it, at least enough to act on things that are important to you. Tell me, why do you find it so hard to feel courageous, did you get rejected a lot in the past?