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2 weeks until I meet him..
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08-15-12 02:38 AM
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So a lot of the people who visit the Vizzed chat room know me by Raven, they also know that I've been in a long distance relationship for sometime now(6 months) with a guy named Ian, who lives in South Carolina. I live in Canada, so we had plans for him to come see me in January for three months, but well things have changed and I just can't help but talk about so I figured I would make a thread about it. To make it simple he may still be coming in January, but he will also be coming at the end of this month for a little under three months. The plane tickets are bought, it took a matter of two days for us to decide this. I'm still going to be working through out his visit but I can't really help that, I need to work so that I can go visit him and what not. The town I live in is really boring, or at least it is to me so I have no idea what we are going to do while he's here. I am sure we'll find something though considering it'll be mildly warm and the ground won't be covered with like 10 feet of snow. lol. So as some of you can imagine I'm kinda having a mini heart attack, and have been for like the past two days while all the details were getting planned out. I'm excited, scared, nervous, so many different things I can't even list them all. I'm really stoked that he's coming, but I have two weeks notice to do A LOT of things, I'm hoping I'll be able to get it all done. But it's going to be hard considering I live with my mother and older brother, and before anyone asks.. Yes my boyfriend is coming to stay with me in my house with my mother's approval for three months. My mother actually approves of my boyfriend which is good, cause if she didn't it would be much harder for us to see each other. 2 weeks isn't a lot of time to plan for something so major, I don't even think my brain can process all of what is happening. Does anyone on this site know what it feels like to be scared, but excited at the same time? I can't help but wonder if other people here have felt like I do right now because of something so friggen.. Amazing. I've seen him many times over Skype but this will be the very first time I get to see him in real life, so that should explain why I'm scared and nervous.. This man is flying to a different country for me, what's gonna happen if he doesn't like the real me? Even though I've been as real as I could with him in the six months we've been dating. Inside I'm truthfully terrified but on the outside and in my heart I'm excited yet worried.. I really don't know what to be honestly. 
Before he comes I'm gonna have to go shopping, get my hair cut and dyed and everything.. It's going to be stressful even though I know it's very worth it. Anyways I think I'm done ranting now. 
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08-15-12 02:52 AM
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As someone who flew over 3000 miles to see his girlfriend... I can say this.

As long as you are yourself, things will work out the way they are supposed to.

It is nervewracking, but trust me on this, it will be a fun 3 months. That's actually kind of lucky for you, since I have only gotten to spend a short amount of time with my own girl.

But these 3 months will be pretty important for finding out whether a long term relationship is feasible. It's one thing to date over the internet... it's another to live with a person.

Regardless, I wish you luck.
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08-15-12 04:30 AM
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legacyme3 : I am always myself around him, I can't not be.. I've tried that just because I was curious and it didn't work, at all. lol And yes it is very nervewracking.
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Like leggy said, I think that you will be just fine. And as for what to do, as long as the weather is good I am sure you can have all kinds of fun, even if it is just showing him around. Remember, what is old hat for you is completely new for him because not only is it a different town, it's a different country.

I advise taking a deep breath and let the happy side of it all take control. It will be an awesome visit, and I hope you two have the best time possible.
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08-15-12 01:12 PM
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Oh yeah I am sure we will have lots of fun and enjoy our time together, I'll be showing him around as much as I can and taking lots of pictures with him. This will be his first time coming to Canada so I want him to enjoy it. But thank you Leggy, and Elara.
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I personally could never do a long distance relationship like that but everyone's different.

BTW That's VERY understanding of your mom to let someone come stay with you for 3 months that you and her have never met in real life.

Just not to be too nervous though. As long as you both just act like yourself everything should be fine I mean you have gotten along this well over the computer for so long I would think that you would be able to do something similar in person.
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08-15-12 01:34 PM
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Being in a long distance relationship is actually not as hard as a lot of people think, I thought I wouldn't be able to do it to be honest but I've made it six months so I say I'm doing pretty good. It all comes down to trusting and having faith in yourself and the other person. 
And yes my mother is very understand, I talk to her about pretty much everything so she understand how much I love Ian. Thankfully. 
I am worried about my family around him though, my brother is a friggen idiot and so is my uncle which I live right beside so that part is going to be hard. I'm hoping everything goes as planned and all is well, there isn't much I can do now but wait and see.
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My boyfriend traveled from the US to Canada to see me for two weeks the first time we met. So I've been in this situation before. I know the feeling you are describing. Meeting him for the first time was really exciting, and in some ways it made me anxious and scared. But it was wonderful, and he was just like is online... I don't think you have much to worry about seeing as you've been dating for 6 months already.

I recommend going for walks, go to the park or the forest together, go see a movie, go out for dinner, explore your neighborhood.

Then again, you don't really have to be out doing things constantly. During my fiance's second visit to my house, I was perfectly content to sit around at home, make food together, listen to music... Basically just enjoy being with each other in person without any other distractions.

I agree that long distance relationships are not as difficult as some people make them out to be. There's so much more (at least, for me) to a relationship than physical contact. The emotional and intellectual connection is what's truly important to me. Obviously I hate to be apart from my fiance, but by no means does it make loving him impossible.
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I'll play devil's advocate.
How do you know any of this will work?  You don't know what he smells like, what his presence is, how he acts and what he does when he eats.  You've seen him on a video screen but that in no way substitutes for real life.

Call me snobby and I hope things work but I'm baffled by the internet relationships.  Who would want to have a relationship with someone they can't truly connect with.  Truly connecting requires invading each others physical space.  I don't think you can do with just minds.

But who am I?
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08-15-12 07:29 PM
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warmaker : I have no idea who you are, but I shall answer the questions you asked anyways. I know this will work because I have faith and I can feel it, I know I love him and I know more about him than anyone else done even though I'm so far away from him. We are on cams constantly, When I'm not working or sleeping we are on cams with each other. I know what he smells like, he has scent me things in the mail for my birthday and so which had his scent on them. I've seen  him act many ways considering he is bi-polar but I'm not concerned about that to be honest. Even though you may think I should be, I'm not. Also I've seen him eat, he eats like any other male does. lol I know the feeling of being baffled by Internet relationships because before I got with him, I didn't understand them and I sure as hell didn't think I could last in one. But it's been six months and I think everything is going just how a normal relationship would, Only real difference is, that we can't touch each other basically. I connect with Ian very well, I have before I even know what he looked like. We met through Role playing on the Internet, and things just evolved from there but either way I know things will work out I'm just kinda overwhelmed by it all happening so fast. I suppose. All I can do is try to make it work, which I hope it does.. But if it doesn't then I will understand why. A relationship does need a personal connection, that's a very important thing to have, and in two weeks we will have that connection accomplished. All I can do is try to have faith in all of this.
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Sorry iam a newb!! and was thoroughly entertained by this thread...How did it all go? I believe in, you can make what you want of life...So if you both want it to work...it will.

Love to know what happened>?
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Gordiniho : It hasn't happened yet, his flight comes in on the 30th around noon my time. So I have no idea how it's gone, not yet anyways lol I''m sure when once he's here my brain will finally stop doing backflips in my skull... which would be fantastic. Today is the day where I go get my hair cut and start cleaning my house before his arrival, one more week to go!
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Bless you my fellow Vizzer!! I hope it all goes well! and you get what you want from it all - I would love to know how it goes...Updates needed please
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