Hey everyone. I know it's been FOREVER since I've posted anything. I just thought I would update everyone on what's been going on with me. I'll post my tumblr link so you can read the full story. So anyway, here goes!

Hey everyone, Autumn here. Today I wanted to share with all of you the story about my stalker. This will probably be a pretty long post but I hope you’ll bare with me and read all of it anyway. So here goes…

About 12 years ago, I became friends with a girl I had babysat years before. Her Mother called me and asked me if I would befriend her daughter and help her to become more social. I said, sure why not. I started inviting her to things whenever I got together with friends and hung out. I wanted to help her branch out and meet more people. I understood how hard it was to make friends. I had been in that situation before. So we got pretty close over a period of time. At first it all seemed normal. I just thought she was someone that looked up to me and thought of me as like a big sister type. BOY was I ever wrong.

Slowly things started happening. Nothing major but it was a little concerning. Well actually, I’d say more annoying at first. She would call about 2-3 times a day. And I was just getting annoyed but I figured since she didn’t have any other friends, maybe she just called me because I was her only friend at the time. So I just sort of ignored it. She started opening up to me more, telling me that she had a depression, was on medication and had a therapist. I understood because at that time, I was getting help for my depression too. I’d give her advice on how to cope with things. For instance, maybe writing in a journal or talk to someone she trusted, etc. Of course, she didn’t take my advice, but it was just suggestions on my part. I couldn’t make her do anything I told her to. I wasn’t that kind of person. I would never try to control someone else’s actions.

Anyway, as time went on, she’d ask me to go with her whenever she saw her therapist. I guess for moral support. So I agreed and supported her. Eventually she told me she wasn’t taking her medication. But I didn’t think there was anything wrong with that because you can’t force someone to do something they don’t want to do. I just thought she was the type of person that didn’t want to use medications to help the problem. I was really naive.

After a few months of taking her to her therapist appointments, she started acting more strange than usual. She called 7-8 times a day by then and she’d leave message after message on my answering machine. I was more annoyed at this point but I was trying to be as patient as I could be. No matter what I did, it seemed like she just took every step of our friendship way above and beyond. She even wanted to practically live with me. I mean, she’d stay weeks on end. Of course, I was still convincing myself she was just close to me. For whatever reason. Well things started getting really tense between us. She’d always choose to pick a fight with me as we were getting ready to go to sleep. I had just started taking courses at a community college and I needed my sleep. She didn’t care, she’d fight with me anyway.
Eventually she’d end up being ever where I was. If I was at the mall, there she’d be. If I went to the movies, there she was. If I even paid one speck of attention to someone else, she’d practically throw a fit and tell me she wanted to leave. I always told her, “No, I’m not leaving. If you want to leave, have your Mom or Dad come get you.” Then she’d get angry and storm off. A few days would go by and then it would all start over again. It wasn’t until the last few months when I realized she was actually stalking me. Like I said, I was verynaive. I thought the best of everyone. Even though my childhood was rough and I had a lot of abuse growing up, I still tried to think the best of everyone. It got to the point of her calling me crying, and she’d ask things like, “Will you come over so we can cut ourselves together?” I was like, “What?!? You’re joking right?” She wasn’t even close to kidding. She was a self cutter and I hadn’t known that until she started asking me to have “cutting sessions” with her. I tried to tell her therapist but she wouldn’t listen to me and neither would her parents.

Toward the end of the friendship, and of course by this time I wasn’t thinking of her as a friend anymore, I was tolerating her but I was at a very thin line. One of the times she had spent the night, this was the last time I actually hung out with her. I had gotten up to get ready to take a shower and start my day. She was still sleeping so I got some coffee and woke up a bit before getting ready. She woke up and asked if she could use my phone and I said sure. Then I went into my Mom’s bathroom and took a shower. While I was showering, she knocked on the door and yelled out, “I’m going out to eat with my family, see you later.” I said okay but I wondered why all of sudden she wanted to leave. She never wanted to leave. And now all of a sudden it was different. I shrugged it off and finished getting ready.
I was in my room drying my hair and what not when my phone rang. I picked it up and some girl asked for “(my stalker).” (Sorry I don’t want to use her real name.) Anyway, I told her friend that she wasn’t here and that she left to go out to eat with her family. Her friend sounded shocked and said, “Oh, that’s strange. She said that you gave her pills to overdose with.”  My jaw literally dropped. I yelled,“WHAT?!?” I told her friend that I was in the shower and I had done NO SUCH THING. Then she informed me that she had called 911, because my “friend” had given her my address, etc. So after I hung up, the police had come to the door and rang the door bell. Now get this, her friend that she talked to on the phone had never met her in person. She didn’t know what she looked like. So she gave her friend MY DEscriptION. The police thought I was her and I had to show them my ID to prove otherwise. They followed me to my room, I guess to make sure I didn’t run away or something. After they saw my ID, they asked where my “friend” was and if I knew where she lived. Of course I did, so I pointed them in the right direction. I told them she might not be home because she told me she was going out to eat with her family.

They thanked me for my time and left. I WAS FURIOUS! She had gone way, way above and beyond this time. I was so angry. I couldn’t believe she would have sunk so low. So later in the evening I tried to call her parents. I told her Father what she did and his solution was, “Sleep on it and get over it.” I was shocked. I just said okay and hung up. This is when things got worse. I stopped answering her calls and I didn’t hang out with her at all anymore. I was doing things with other friends and going to school. She was still following me but I just avoided her the best I could. Then I noticed something strange. She started wearing her hair like me, she dressed like me. Everything I did, she did it like me. Eventually she started trying to corner me in the public bathrooms. I practically had to have a bodyguard with me at all times. I couldn’t go anywhere alone. She still kept calling and leaving a ton of messages on my machine, asking me where I was, who I was with, why didn’t I call her back. It was getting just too obsessive for my taste. So it worked out that we were able to move away.
She was still trying to look for me after we moved. I was practically in hiding. 12 years have passed since all of that happened. Then a few days ago……she found me online. I don’t know if she knows where I live, but somehow she found all my accounts online and tried adding me everywhere. 12 YEARS, and she’s still at it. What in the world is wrong with this girl? Did she not get the point when I moved away? I honestly think I got a little too comfortable for my own taste. I let my guard down and now she’s found me. I don’t know what she is capable of. I remember finding out from various people that she got so obsessed with me, that she was plotting to kill me so she could “take my life over”. I’m no one special. I’m not famous, I’m not like super popular. I don’t know why she is so obsessed over me. Just me. I don’t get it. I’m in fear for my life and I’m afraid she’ll find out where I live and finish what she started. Thankfully I live in a town where the police will arrest anyone for the slightest illegal activity. But I am still scared. I have to look over my shoulder again. I have to have people with me at ALL TIMES. I thought after 12 years she would have given up. Apparently she’s more psychotic than I realized.

Thank you everyone for reading my story. I’ll keep everyone posted on what happens. I just pray she won’t find out where I live.

Is it bad that I feel like your 'update' was just to get people to read your blog, since that's all your update consisted of? I hope it's not bad, because I'm pretty sure it's right.

Well, welcome back, if you're actually back and not just stopping in to link to your blo- I mean, making sure we all know what's up with you. XD

I'm here to update everyone. The only reason I didn't post all that hre is because it was too much to type. I'm not just trying to post my blog. WOW. I changed it okay, I didn't come here to get people to go to my blog. I don't stoop that low. And you were a little rude for welcoming someone back.

I really think that is weird. Did she find you on Vizzed? Try changing your IP? Is she sexually attracted to you?

FalcoDude : No she's not sexually attracted to me. As far as I know she hasn't found me on vizzed. I'm rarely on here anyway. She's found me on other sites I'm more active on though, so I've had to private a lot of my online accounts. She's non-sexually obsessed with me. I have no idea why. She's crazy, that's the only thing I can think of.

Have you ever told her that you wanted the friendship between you two over?

Sunflower, you didn't say you were back, so why would I go all out into a big welcome back post? You're just updating your friends. As for the story to be too much to type in Vizzed, you could have obviously copy/pasted like you editted. It was obvious you already had the blog filled out when you posted about it here, which is why you said they could check out your blog for details. I don't know why you're all indignant about it, it's not that big of a deal, especially since it's obvious that that was your intention. Don't be so sensitive. I'm sorry for you stalker problems, etc.

And QueenMewthree: Cry moar. There are people on every site that don't have manners, and there are people everywhere in real life that don't have manners. I don't know why people think that a couple snarky comments around Vizzed and suddenly it is such a rude place (and that user who said something snarky or who dislikes someone is just awful!!!1one11!), oh my gosh! Vizzed isn't special.

First off, I clicked the link when it was first posted and I saw nothing about the stalker. Maybe I suck at the internet, but all I read was something about you being fake and posting a picture of Barbie. So I'm glad the story is now more readily accessible in this thread.

It did feel like you were linking your blog and taking off, though. I didn't think you were coming back myself, or I would have at least welcomed you. Welcome! And thanks for the update. I can't even imagine being in the position you're in.

QueenMewthree : Thanks, I really appreciate that. 

starwars293 : Yes, I've done everything to try to get her to leave me alone, she doesn't care, nothing I say or do gets through to her. I don't know why.

KG : Whatever, I'm not even going to try to explain anything to you. You've always been rude to me so whatever. 

soxfan849 : If I was trying to just get people on my blog I obviously wouldn't have gotten rid of the link now would I? Some of you are just trying to cause stupid drama, well have fun having drama with yourself. 

Basically, it seems like you're doing next to nothing about this situation, other than cowering and running away. If you tried to take action, such as filing a restriction order upon her with actual evidence and witness claims on her stalking attempts, then things would have been over by now. Typing into a blog about your encounters, which she could most likely see anyways, is not very bright. However, I'm not even sure that's truly the case either, being I had the same problem as Sox did a while back when the link was first there. Also, if this was 12 years ago, and you were babysitting her at the time, how old was she? If anything, I'd probably start assuming that, since her mother asked you to befriend her, she was a lonely child that had little to no friends, possibly never had friends in the first place, and didn't know how friendships were like. Obviously, if she was an age average of about 10, then yes, it'd be very confusing as to how she would go about treating her new friend and how friendships were supposed to go, so it's not much to blame her about. And did you ever really get the point across to her that you don't want to be friends anymore with her? If anything, it seems like you were trying to dodge that point the whole time as well.
Also, not forcing her to take her medication was a VERY bad decision on your part. People can't just up and randomly stop taking medications prescribed to them. Obviously, it will leave very bad consequences. Pretty much common sense, not a "can't force people to do things they don't want to do" situation. And plus, while one would say that a person has depression, it would probably end up being much more than that. She probably could have been "special", thus the reason for needing medication and a therapist. With that being a likely problem, it would explain even MORE as to why she did what she did, along the whole stalker situation. And one last time for this post, did you seriously ever actually TELL HER you didn't want to be friends anymore? If not, that's probably WHY she wouldn't leave you alone, because she DIDN'T KNOW BETTER. Keeping it a secret as to whether you want to be friends with somebody or not, with them assuming you are a friend, just leaves a big mess for you in the end.

That out of the way, onto the other part. I have to agree with KG, it does indeed seem that you did that only to advertise your blog. It wouldn't seem like such a problem had you posted the link and then the whole story, or vice versa, but just posting the blog (Which did little to no help, as I had claimed earlier that I experienced the same problem as Sox) seems like a huge scam to get more followers. And really, the only reason I could think of as to why you erased the link after editing in the story was because you got caught, and didn't want to own up and admit that you made a mistake. If so, so what? We're humans, we all make mistakes. It's unavoidable. However, to make a mistake, act as if you didn't and then proceed to act as a victem, and then blame the party that caught you and claim that they were only causing drama is not a respectable thing at all. It's just a cowardly manuever at trying to act perfect, which fails in more ways than possible.

If this gets no responce other than a shout towards being labeled as starting drama, then it won't damage me in any way at all. It'll just make me think much less of you, someone who should be acting much more mature for their age instead of labeling everyone as a trouble maker. Heck, report this if you truly want to, but keep in mind that karma is a vengful being (And that none of the mods will really care :V).

Anyways, with that all out of the way, I guess I can now say "Welcome back". Since it seems like you've been gone for some time, here's a mandatory update! Nothing of value has occured that was not already obvious. Yeah, the site is pretty boring to return to after a long absence, no matter who it is returning, Nya~.

Do what? I said it felt like you were just trying to advertise your blog when I first saw this thread, which was well before you deleted the link. But whatever, try not to get your panties in a wad. I wasn't even accusing you of anything, I just told you how I had felt. I'm sorry for being honest, open, and reasonable with you. Next time I'll just lie right through my teeth to try to make you happy.

Mega, Sox, you guys are being really rude, just saying. She posted this here for support and you guys are just such big jerks. She's in a bad mood and she'd had a really bad day and a really hard life so there's no reason to be so rude. We're supposed to tell her we feel sorry for her and hope things get better!! GOSH!! Just quit talking to her! GUYS QUIT TALKING TO HER. JUST STOP. YOU'RE BEING RUDE, JUST SAYING!!!!!

Also Sox, you silly boy. You remember how much Sunflower hates being reasonable. We should have known better from the get-go!

Anyway, in all honesty, Sunflower, hopefully things go better. I agree with Mega that it seems like there's more you could do and are kind of enjoying being able to whine and make a fuss and have people think you're strong and brave and totally dealt the short end of the stick in this situation and apparently every other one. However, it is kind of an awkward situation, and hopefully if you try something a little more assertive, it'll sort itself out. Remember, if you can get someone to attest to what you're saying, they'd at least be more likely to check up on her and get a restraining order placed. If you're that scared, just keep on it. And if they keep putting you off, just find someone else who'll get sh*t done.

And lastly, yeah, it's a really stupid move on your part to make some big whiney blog about how crazy she is and how much you dislike her since you know she's been following you around on the internet. If she knows you know she may be trying to kill you, she's probably just going to get sneakier and more psychotic about it. Especially since you've been, again, saying how bats*** insane she is. People who are emotionally immature or socially awkward usually don't take that too well. The internet isn't as private as people think, if you know enough, it's not at all hard to find what you're looking for. And furthermore, linking to it on Vizzed, which you've been a member of for quite a while, seems like an easy way for her to find your blog and your silly opinions/feelings. Suddenly she's creeping you on Vizzed, when eureka! Blog link!

I don't know if you're just making this up, lacking common sense, or just bad at being stalked, but I think you definitely need to change your plans. I do hope things get better though, just keep on the situation and don't just brush it under the rug.

SunflowerGaming : Why can't you call police to solve the problem? Those action that girl did by finding you, try copy you, everything is like, clearly a sign of stalker and that is related with sexual harassment, or any similar to that, and it's illegal, beside, it seriously creepy and also somehow invading your privacy, which is against law.

I've actually done everything in my power to get her to stop. When it first started I did tell her I wanted nothing to do with her and the friendship was over. She didn't care. And  actually thought she had given up. I know her well, more than anyone here may think. And unfortunately none of you really know what you're talking about, but you can't really grasp it all from one post. So anyway, I've talked to the police. I am documenting everything I can. They said they can't do anything unless she threatens my life or does something to me, like hurts me physically.

As for the claims about me just wanting to get followers on my blog, that's a far far stretch from the truth. No I didn't change the first post "because I was caught". I thought about what she said and I figured I should have just taken the time to post it in the thread so I did that. Nothing more, nothing less. I'm not here to fight with anyone. I am here to talk to people who are actually my friends and just letting them know what's going on. Yes I've been gone a long time, and for good reason. I've been busy with life. I don't spend as much time online anymore. But that's my business. So anyway, think what you will. I know what's what and I know what's going on in my mind, life and all that. So that's all I have to say to that.

Local Mods : Sunflower's original post is a copy-paste of what's posted here. The rules are very clear that any post must be original to Vizzed, or it will have its word count removed.

Yes I posted it on my blog, it's my words, what's wrong with that? Hmm anyway, if you want close this thread. No big deal to me. I was only telling my friends what's going on.

I've all but explicitly conceded that your initial post wasn't intended to advertise your blog post. But I can understand why someone might have thought that it was. You've edited it, and the problem is now solved. We can move on and forget about that.

Anyway, you may not consider me a TRUE friend (you're probably laughing as you read that, in which case I'm glad I made you smile even if it was for a brief moment), but I still enjoyed seeing this update. I know you've been through a lot and life must be pretty hard on you. I'd feel bad if something were to happen to you, so I'm glad you give everyone on this forum a chance to read about you, not just your TRUE friends.

It's stupid and assumptuous to assume that because I don't care or agree with your BS that I don't care about people. You're such a victim Sunflower, jesus christ. Sometimes it seems like you're the only person that can disagree or say dicky things, and then if anyone else does, WORLD IS OVER. It was just an observation that it seemed an awful lot like you were advertising your blog, and here you are, freaking out how you're being attacked and how rude I am.

Also you removed the link to prove you totally weren't trying to advertise your blog omg. BECAUSE you were called out. You were called out and now you're denying it like someone accused you or murder. It's not even that big of a deal, it was just an observation on my part that people happened to agree with. But here you are, crying about how we don't know your life and that we're so below you because we could deal with any creepy stalkers, and apparently you can't. So whatever, being a snob isn't appealing, just saying.

So anyway, good luck with your problems. Maybe if you keep whining about it on the internet where she can see, it'll solve itself. Stuff like that happens, right?

Now stop bothering me.

Thank you soxfan, I consider a lot on here as true friends. There are a few that don't like me, that's fine. That's not what this thread was about to begin with and if I was doing it on purpose to "advertise" my blog I would admit that. Sometimes I don't think clearly and I do things that I later regret like everyone else. I took care of the blog thing so that's over and done with. I'm not trying to gain followers on my blog. Anyway, I never said anyone was attacking me or that the world was over. I was expressing about what's going on with my life. That's all. I'm not going to argue back and forth and keep explaining myself. Take it as it is. I know what's going on and I was only letting others know what's what.