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Sadness, A little heartbroken
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12-18-11 12:57 AM
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I need to let this out
A little story: (i will refer to my ex as Dev)
So I've been having an on and off relationship with Dev for 2 years. For the past 2 months we have been having the time of our lives. Then on Thursday I receive a call from Dev, asked me to meet her so we can talk. (it was unusual because of the tone of her voice)
We met up, talked and then Dev asks me if she should break up with her girlfriend so Dev can be with me (they have been together way before I met her).
I'm going to rush through it now OK so I tell Dev to stay with her and I asked for 1 more night together. When I woke up the next morning, Dev was gone and all I found was a note on my nightstand...

I feel like I made the wrong choice and should've told her to stay with me; but It's not in me to break them up, I just want Dev to be happy.
Here I am now feeling depressed.


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I gotta be honest with you. I do not think you made a mistake. If you told Dev to break up with her girlfriend, then it would be a relationship based off of something that she left up to you as far as making a decision. What you did was let her off any hook and allowed her to make the decision herself. The fact is that when she had the choice between you and the other, she chose the other. If you made that decision for her, then that would have been an elephant in the room for your relationship somewhere down the line. I know that the outcome didn't turn out the way you hoped it would, but she had to be the one to decide to break up with someone. Who knows. If the choice was so hard that she wanted you to make the decision, maybe she might decide she made the wrong one and come back to you. But that has to be her decision. I don't think you should regret your choice. But if you must, maybe let Dev know how you feel. Don't tell her to break up with the other person, and don't tell her not to. Just tell Dev that you have these feelings and that when it comes to a romantic relationship, she can't have you tell her what she should do. 
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Allow me to understand this:  This girl Dev has been having a relationship with another girl, asked if you wanted her to break up with that girl, you said no, and then she stayed and had sex with you because you asked.

You're sending all sorts of conflicting messages.  You want her to be happy and you seemed to reject her emotionally while asking for her physically.  I expect she left because she's upset and unhappy and all.

If you want her happy, ask her what she wants.  She punted and is looking for a reason to break up with the girl to go out with you when she asked you how you felt.  You shot her down. 

Whatever you do in life isn't a mistake.  Every choice you make is the right one.  I wouldn't worry about it.  If she wants you, she'll come back.
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warmaker : When she asked me about breaking up with her gf just to be with me, that was a decision I cannot make. that's why I ended it between us.  Dev needs to know what she wants and I hope in time she will figure it out.
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