Last night, I was involved in a car accident. It all started when I went out with a group of friends to a club. Two of the people got really drunk. At first, I was the designated driver, but one of the girls didn't like the way I was driving and made me pull over so she could drive. She pulled down an old dirt road and was swerving all over the place. The music in the car was very loud. Me and my girlfriend were in the back when the vehicle turned over into a ditch. I was badly hut and am in a neckbrace now. I had a C7 fracture in my spine. I was almost paralyzed.

One of the other passengers had a broken leg, but I have a broken neck/spine. I also lost part of my ear and am all banged up and bruised. I am going to have to miss a lot of work and will probably lose my job. My girlfriend will probably take up with someone else because we were having problems that night. However, I did apologize even though I felt like I wasn't 100% wrong. We worked together too. Maybe I should just kill myself. Although, my mom and dad are starting to help me get through this. I guess I can try to hold on to: my job, my girlfriend, and I hope I can heal soon.

I feel like she'll just go to someone who will have sex with her instead of me. I want it, but I'm afraid of all the risks. I guess that will never happen now that I'm hurt up and will probably lose my job. This accident has left me broken in body and spirit. I guess my relationship with my dad is improving, for the time being. Why did it take something like this to make it happen? My job was my life, and if I lose that, I lose my money and will struggle to find another one. My girlfriend is now living with another guy who I feel like is more balance than I am.

She acted like she didn't care I was hurt. At first, she loved me, now she's cold as ice. Her friend was the one driving the car, so it feels like she's the real guilty party. I'm in this neckbrace because of her, and of course she doesn't care. She's more worried about going to jail for DUI. Her and her girlfriend even wanted me to lie to the cops, but I didn't do it. I have medical bills, probably no job, no insurance, and probably no girlfriend anymore. I'm even worried my neck won't heal, and I could be paralyzed. Maybe, I'm making it worse than it is, but my life is very uncertain right now. I don't feel like I'm going to make it even with the support of my family.

Why did it take a tragedy like this to bring us together?

That is really rough. Probably one of the lowest points in your life from the looks of it. Is it the end? Definitely not.

Like, I understand you're shaken up, when something like this sunders a large part of a person's life you can't blame anyone for feeling like they've been forsaken. Yet the best way to handle this is not letting go of your hopes and determination. Now, this will be coming from someone who doesn't exactly know what your job is, what kind of education you've got, so I can't say what paths are open for you, but know that there will be paths. Not necessarily paths you may want, but compromise is the spice of life.

Sometimes things will just go wrong, it's always a probability. Sometimes one problem leads straight into another, and a streak of misfortune gets going. Seems like that's your position right now, so what you need to dedicate your mind to is not wallowing in the pit you fell into, but redirecting yourself out, however it takes. If your girlfriend doesn't want to help, if she doesn't care about you anymore, then it's not like you should stick with her anyways, there are better people than that for you. If you can't function in your job, then you just got to start up from scratch, somewhere where you can contribute and build yourself back up. If your motor capabilities need to recover, there are jobs you can take that don't require much movement on your part, things to occupy yourself with and earn a bit on the side till you're ready for something more hands on.

What I want to get across is that hope is a terrible thing to lose. Without hope, a lot of people feel like nothing, but even worse is to disregard any opening of hope, to lock yourself into the depression you found yourself in. I wouldn't say a miracle would happen, it could, but knowing well that your problems won't sort themselves out, you can still plan ahead and look to a different tomorrow. Some dreams are destined to be broken, but if you can always make more, then it's something to make the next morning worth reaching.

It seems like you just can't catch a break, eh? I'm sorry to hear this.

Although you were not the one driving, I can understand if you feel a little guilty about the whole thing. Do you? It's ok if you do. What is done is done, and there's no point dwelling on it, but it's good to confront how you feel about it.

A vertebral fracture is a scaring thing for sure. Instead of focusing on worrying about the unknown, I find it helpful to focus on what I can do, and only on that. So in your case, you can focus on doing what the Dr. told you to do to help heal... and that's all you can do! Chances are, you'll heal fine.

As for you girlfriend. You've spoken a lot about how you think she feels about you, but how do you feel about her? Don't think about the concept of "loosing her" or anything like that right now; just tell me how you feel about her. How much do you like her? Why? Why are you dating her?

Tragedy does a lot to people. It makes us realize what we have and might loose. We all get distracted by things we want instead of being thankful for what we have. This tragedy simply jolted your father into realizing this. Sadly, we tend to revert back into our un-thankful state after a while, so use this time to build a good relationship with your dad. Remember, you can't control him, you can only control your own actions and do YOUR best; the rest is not up to you.

Most of all though, killing yourself doesn't solve anything. You might think no one would miss you, and that it's an easy "way out". But the truth is, you'd just be causing more pain to the people around you. If there is one goal we should have in life, it's to live and die as well as we can.

Light Knight : I don't know what I would feel guilty about with this whole situation. My girlfriend's best friend was the one driving that night. I was driving at first, but she told me to pull over so she could drive, and that's where everything went wrong. If anyone is to blame, it was the person driving the SUV that was way too drunk to be driving. And of course, she could care less, and I never liked her anyway. She's not important.

What it is important is my spinal fracture. It is a minor fracture, and I'm at home now with a neckbrace. I don't know how long it will take to heal. I hope physically I can get back to doing what I did before.

I'm done with my girlfriend unless she gets in touch with me, and we can talk. I loved her very much because of the person she was. I didn't think much of her at first, but when I got to know her as a person, I fell in love with her. Her situation was a lot like mine but worse. She had a mild form of autism and was living in a very abusive situation.

She moved in her friend that week, and she was a big drinker. My girlfriend told me that this was something she had never experienced before. Her friend was giving her a life she never had. I thought that I was too because I was very affectionate and nurturing to her. I know I didn't have much money or time, but I did what I could do to make her happy, and it wasn't enough.

I've reached out to her all weekend and have not heard back from her. I can't keep giving to someone that just takes and gives nothing back. I did this before with my last serious relationship. We weren't even speaking to each other that day or night. I spent all night crying over her, so I'm pretty broke up over this. Why can't she be there for me right now?!

I'm glad my dad is treating me better, but I know that won't last. Maybe, I can still remember what he DID do now and know what he's capable of. He's done more than my stupid ex-girlfriend has done. One of the other people in the wreck did show some concern yesterday by calling me, so that's good too. I do have people that care.

I don't think I'll kill myself because that would hurt too many people. I hope my doctor can get back in touch with me soon and give me some answers. I just wish my girlfriend would reach out because I've really been trying with her. I even met her family, and they loved me. I thought she did too, but I guess I was wrong.