Yea, I am really shy about dating. Dating is pretty much the only thing I'm shy about too which really sucks. I can go up to a random girl, say hi and introduce myself, but if ever I had to ask her out I would crap myself. I don't know if it's because I'm afraid to be rejected or afraid that the person will stop liking me afterwords or something else but I just can't ask a girl out.

I am not going to lie, starting a relationship is a very terrifying thing (well from what I've witnessed). There's the fear of rejection to deal with if the girl says no or embarrassed you in front of a large group of spectators who want to know whet she says, there is the anxiety that comes with finding the right time and way to ask said gurl, and there is the "butterflies in the stomach" feeling you get when you get close to that gurl and you want to ask her out. I'm not trying to generalize all guys, since I'm sure that there are guy who don't experience this when they ask a girl out, but I'm sure that a large portion of guys can relate to this.

This is from a guys perspective though. I don't know (and wouldn't know) how a girl feels about it unless I read about it in this thread from some girls who have responded. I'm sure it's different because they are usually the receiver (the one who is asked) rather than the giver (the one who is asking).

The main reason I came on the internet because I just couldn't strike up a conversation with a stranger in the living world. I can't ask someone out even if I've known them for years... it's my main weak point.

Yeah, I am. Well, I never dated but there was one girl I liked and at the beginning I was pretty shy but later on we talked more. We're normal friends now, so I'm fine with that.

I really, really am; despite the fact that no one I truly love lives here. Another reason is that I haven't told many people about me being bisexual in real life so it may surprise that person. 

I can really imagine myself struggling to ask someone out. Just building up the courage to ask is hard enough...

Catwoman : All guys are more interested in a girl who's interested in them than any girl with a cute face.  If you're nice and you enjoy life and you're funny and warm, the guys will come.

iiGrinchii : I'd have to say I agree that a lot of girls appreciate confidence, but there are also those who like the shy guys. If I weren't in such an awkward life position and live in a place where most people have very different opinions on life, I'd probably be the one asking guys out.

That aside, in my tiny little corner of the world, it seems it is more common to just hang out with someone you like with no mention of romance for a while, and then confess your attraction later and possibly start dating, while completely skipping the "going out on dates" step. A part of me hates it, and a part of me knows that dates called as such would be pretty nerve-wracking for me anyway.

I'm in no way shy about dating, I think it's fun and what's the worst that could happen? They say no? However, if I don't think anything can blossom by the first date I'm pretty awful about getting back to the person.

I have a low self esteem and am not the most attractive guy :p.

I've had a select few girls I've liked and one in particular at the moment. But the fear of rejection is far to great and it would be too awkward.

My friend hijacked my phone and asked her out without me knowing. She rejected it only increasing my fear of rejection.

Things get awkward after that and you just try and avoid eachother as much as possible. In my opinion actually asking is probably the hardest part of starting a relationship.

Honestly, I'm not shy to ask a girl out. Rejection happens, and you deal with it unless the person you're asking out is someone that you're in love with, but that's something else. My only problem with dating, is the date. I'm not the person that talks a lot, and not only that, but I wouldn't know what to say during a date. That's my only problem with it.

alexanyways : How the hell do you do that? Maybe your girlfriend feels the same way about dating? I don't know ^^

I'm absolutely terrified of asking a random girl on a date. I've never asked a girl out on a date before even though I've had a girlfriend before. However, even though I had a crush on a girl for nearly 3 years I could not even so much as say hello... I probably won't have another girlfriend which keeps my depressed.

...yup. Mostly because I'm 15 and have next-to-none experience in the matter. I feel like the most terrifying part of asking someone out is rejection and possible end of any relationship after. At my age, I've seen people get ridiculed or mocked for being rejected, so sometimes its safer to just not ask in the first place. There's also that embarrassment that you don't feel very often after getting rejected also.  

At the moment I am not all that interested in dating, primarily because I just haven't found the right person yet, and also because I think it is still a little too early. I am in no rush to start dating to be honest though because I already know that it is going to be stressful and dramatic, and I would really like to finish school first before getting into all that. 

I don't have any experience either, I have never asked anyone out before, and I don't plan on doing so anytime soon. I have seen the way high school relationships are, they are petty and they don't last more than a few months at best. I know what to say and also the best way to approach since girls respond more to confidence, but I am just not interested at this point in my life. 

Razor-987 : How do you know who's the right person if you don't go out with them and get to know them and their personality?  I always treated dating like an interview for a job.  You feel each other out, see if you have the same likes and dislikes, and go from there.  If it doesn't work, you keep things moving and go find someone else.  If you have fun, you try it again until it's not fun any more.

The thing with high school relationships is the people you're watching.  Many have good relationships and gain experience in dating and dealing with the other gender (or same gender for those who like them), so all these people will have been there once or twice when things can get more serious.

Side note: I married one of the girls I dated in high school.  We're still together 14 years later.  They don't have to be petty and short relationships.

warmaker:

"All guys are more interested in a girl who's interested in them than any girl with a cute face.  If you're nice and you enjoy life and you're funny and warm, the guys will come."


Yes, I swear that this is all I need sometimes. It's incredibly special if you meet a girl like this. Incredibly.

So, there you go girls. That's what guys want mostly. :3

I could say that I am. I mean, I am not open about it. I am actually kind of shy when it come to talking to girls.