Strange thing, I just started dreaming again a few months ago. In the last week I had about three dreams about a girl I dated 2 years ago, I find it kinda odd. In the dream I even tell her I know its a dream because in all honesty I will never see her again or talk to her, but in the dream she keeps convincing me that its not a dream its real. Then I believe like a dumbass, and then I never want to wake up I just wanna stay in that dream with her. I know there is some thing wrong with me, but I wanna hear some of your thoughts on this, did some thing like this happen to any of you? What the hell is going ON!!!!!!!!!

Is clear that you are deeply in love with this women... Hmm.. How come you will never see her again? Cant say ive dreamed of anything similar to that... Sorry but i can offer no advice... Was there a conflict between you two at some point? Maybe this is the result of regret...

I say contact her and tell about the dreams.
(Only if she doesn't have a boyfriend/husband)

But you shouldn't really listen to me..

Was there anything you really liked about her? Did you have closure when the relationship ended?

I'm not an expert on dream interpretation, but the whole this is a dream, no it's real seems odd.

She was my first GF that could mean some thing, and it really didn't end bad for her, but I took it a little different. The reason she broke up with me is cause I guess she was sick of me, and I was good at putting people in guilt trips, which I didn't notice, and I can't call her to tell her this, because she would rather not hear from me.

Do you feel sorry you did that too her?

I didn't think I was doing anything to her but being a good guy, I was just kinda mad about her hanging out and being best friends with her ex, who she ended up going out with, so I called that one.

It's completely unacceptable for a girl who has a boyfriend to be hanging out with other guys, that's just asking for trouble.

Originally posted by Davideo7

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It's completely unacceptable for a girl who has a boyfriend to be hanging out with other guys, that's just asking for trouble.

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So it's unacceptable for a boy who has a girlfriend to hang with girls?

Yes, that's just asking for trouble. I've had tons of guy friends who had girlfriends but cheated on them because they were hanging out with their friends that were girls and one things just so happened to lead to another.

And when I say hang out, I mean like going for a drive somewhere or hanging out at the persons house.

Yeah, totally alone together isn't the best idea, but it would depend a bit on the relationship, I mean if they were basically brother and sister because they had known each other so long, but both knew they had no romantic interest in the other, then I think that would be a different scenario.

Cid do you feel sorry now what you did to her then, since you seem to think you weren't being a great guy?

No I just feel bad that I couldn't save the relationship, I thought I was doing everything in my power to keep it going, I just think she sick of or somthin, or just wanted to see other people for some reason. and guys and gals should be able to hang out with each other even if there dating some one else, but it shouldn't be a ex or anything like that.

If you allow your girlfriend to hang out with other guys, than your relationship probaby will not last more than 6 months. I've been dating my gf for about 3 1/2 years so I obviously know what I'm talking about.

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And I know a young lady who has dated her bf for over 3 years and I hang out with her, and she generally has more guy friends than girl friends I believe her reasoning is girls have too much drama. I know the guy and he has no problem her hanging out with other guys. He trusts her and she trusts him. He and I are friends. He goes to a different college, so that is part of it, otherwise they would spend more time together.

You have to factor in what type of person it is. I mean, if your talking about a guy or girl who drinks and parties, there's a very good chance they aren't going to be loyal to their bf (or gf) if they are hanging out and partying with other guys (or girls).

Michaelvash, this girls your talking about, do you have her hang out at your house with you and her alone or have her spend the night at your house? Do you go on drives together or go to movie theaters just you and her? Do you go to parties together and get drunk? Those are the kinds of things I'm saying are not appropriate is when a girl is spending more time with a single guy friend than she is with her own boyfriend.

Considering neither of us drink, we live on a college campus in separate dorms one male and her's is a female dorm, no on spending the night, but I feel that's inappropriate in most cases anyways. We did go to Wafflehouse to study last week and that was at 10 PM, we ended up coming back and staying in the student center til 1 AM.

You should really be a lot more specific when saying hang out, because those are pretty specific.

Well around here, that's pretty much what the phrase "hang out" means.

holy crap... Are you kidding David... you friggin idiot.. i mean... honestly...

I myself believe in true love, if your girlfriend has male friends, and cheats on you with one then it wasnt ment to be... She is probably jes a s*** and you should get over it...

My girl has male friends, and i aint gonna stop her from seeing them jes she is my girlfriend... ffs thats just stupid... Just like i have female friends... David, im all for you saying your opinion but if you dont want me to take things to such offence then maybe you should add, "imo"... 3 little letters... i however feel sorry for your girlfriend... Where is the trust if you cant let her hang around other guys... Honestly... Do you have female friends? ffs dude get a grip we in the year 2007... If that s*** happen, she a friggin idiot... and if you do the same thing to your girl and sleep with some other chick then your the friggin idiot...

What the hell IceWave, did you not even read everything that I said? I made myself clear in my last 2 posts. Would you feel comfortable about your girlfriend spending the night at another guys house if it was going to be just him and her? Would you feel comfortable about your girlfriend ditching you so she could go to a movie with a different guy friend? THAT is what I'm talking about.

"imo", I don't know what that means and you can't assume everyone knows what it means.

Seriously, IceWave, are you an angry person? Seems like in to many of your posts your attacking someone.

Now, now, kids, play nice.