I hate him. I absolutely hate him. Someone make him go away. He's just.... ugh. I can't even describe him. I'm pretty sure he is an alcoholic, he is weird, and I just don't want to be near him. But my mom keep inviting him to family parties and he just randomly shows up at my house sometimes. Someone help me please I can't stand him. And don't say I'm just not accepting because it is someone new. I love my dad's girlfriend.

For the first 5 seconds of reading this, I thought that you were Percy Jackson because of this. The way I see it, there are two things that you can do. First, even though you hate him, you can try to at least get to know him better if you already don't. If you talk, he might not change, but for all we know you two might have some things in common. It's not going to get rid of him but could possibly make things better.

Next, have you told your mom that you don't like him? All parents are different, most will just tell the kids to get to know the guy, but a lot of kids I know said that their moms cared for them enough to work something out.

If all else fails, just add a little Laxative into his beer.

zanderlex : I do sound like Percy, don't I? Lol.

I have told my mom. She doesn't care.

Haha, I'm not THAT mean.

tgags123 : Well if you aren't mean enough for Laxative, then you might want to try an easier substance such as Stool Softner, or maybe even just water. I hear water is healthy these days.

There's nothing you can really do about it. Voice your concerns to your mother, if anything, but even then, who are you to deprive her of what she wants?

Growing up, I had the worst stepfather. He was both physically and mentally abusive. I got lucky and moved out.

I would have given anything for him to be merely an alcoholic (although, I say this with hesitation, alcoholism is awful, and it can hurt those around you. Although, as someone who consumes a fair deal of alcohol, I do not see myself hurting people), merely weird, or anything else.

As long as he doesn't hurt you, or your mom, be respectful and courteous. I won't say you are being closed-minded, but I'd wager you don't even really know him all that well. And if you don't, would learning more about him really be the worst thing?

I'm far away and can't really do anything about this matter, but I would recommend telling your mom how you feel about him and maybe you can go away or something when he's over. Some stuff you just have to put up with, and this is that kind of thing.

tornadocam : I am 15 and I believe that i am allowed to go live with my dad once I turn 16. The only problem is, this is sort of impossible. He will probably get married to his girlfriend before I turn 16. They would be living together in her house. My dad's job requires him to be away a lot, often in other states. That means I would be there alone with his girlfriend/wife. And I like her and everything, but that would be a little awkward. Not to mention that they live pretty far from my school, so my dad's girlfriend would have to drive me every day and I can't do that to her.

legacyme3 : I am sorry about your stepfather. That sounds really horrible. Thankfully, my situation is not that bad. I have been kind of scoping him out in a way. I don't really talk to him, but I listen from the other room and stuff like that. When my mom forces me to have dinner with them I try to be nice, but he makes these little comments that annoy me. Nothing that is too bad, but it's like he is trying to get under my skin. I usually just ignore him, but then my mom yells at me for being rude.

Why don't you just tell you Mom you don't like the guy? If that doesn't work, I could helo you, but it will cost you. And trust me... it won't be cheap.

We can relate, my step dad is horrible, he's lazy, he plays my PlayStation 3, non stop, and he's been arrested for punching me repeatedly, and my mom still keeps him. He's disrespectful to her even though she works while his lazy ass stays home, and he complains about her drinking even though he's drunk himself. I hate him and if he wasn't my half sisters mother I'd try everything in my power to get him locked up or out of my life.

tgags123 :

It really hurts me that something like this would happen to you, especially as fast as you and I got to be friends.

I don't know, but I guess that you're better just going along with things as much as I hate to say it.

It is important, especially before you're self sufficient that you are living with people who love you, who won't abuse you, and won't look down on you. I would anything to make sure that I didn't have to be around that man if I could and he's as bad as you say. As for your Mom, I have to disagree with Leggy, It's garbage that a parent should put their happiness before their children's well being. You don't date someone who hates your kid. Period. As for the situation where your child is not liking them, you should try and change your child's mind if at all possible- provided the man is already okay, and it's just the kid. 

This is why the Bible forbids divorce for the most part, cause of what the child has to go through. 

Your first allegiance is to your Father, if he's worth it. Your second is to your Mother, as a Man at the age that you are RIGHT NOW, (don't let go of that.) You must look out for your mom and protect her if she is getting in a bad relationship. Also, you don't have to have anything to do with this weird guy if you don't want to, I am surprised that you like your dad's girlfriend though, I would be pretty mad at the woman who would replace my mom like that, unless my mom was just horrible.

Don't totally shut this guy out if he's not that bad, but whatever you do, don't let him abuse you. Just don't, period. Some stuff you may as well put up with, other stuff is unacceptable. (like him pushing you around, slapping you, ect.)

I can understand it if you don't want your mom to end up with someone like that. I know that I would hate if, both for me and her. Sadly, very few people really think about their children regarding a divorce let alone a new spouse. I just hate it.

I will pray for, and with you if you wish. I hope that things turn out okay for you. And I hope that you don't ever go through the same thing yourself someday. Ever. It's horrible.

If you have told you mom about the situation, all you can do from then is maintain a quite relationship. No one should be forcing you to spend "bonding time" with him. Stay respectful of him and continue with what you would usually do. As of right now he is just you mother's boyfriend, and in no way should anyone try to force you to like him. Basically, just be tolerant.
If he IS however being abusive, whether physical or verbal to either you or your mother, call me up and I'll be sure he stops (just kidding, tell your mom about it and her maternal instincts should tell her to kick the man to the curb). 

Wow, looking at all the replies in this thread, out of all the people in this thread I DO have the worst stepfather. He's been living with me and my mother for 11 or 12 years and he's caused nothing but trouble. He's stolen and pawned our stuff, abused and attacked my mother (namely stabbed her in the knee at one point), been to jail a few times and he has no job. I'm going somewhere to celebrate my birthday tomorrow and I am afraid he might steal my stuff. He may be the worst stepfather any of you will ever have.

I know this is an old thread and it's all probably water under the bridge but when I read the title of this I couldn't help myself.

The best thing to get mom's boyfriend to go away is for mom to get a new boyfriend. Do me a solid and go ask your mom if she's busy on Saturday? LOL

If everything works out, maybe you and I could go out in the back yard and toss the football around? How you like that, son? LMAO

Yay, old threads... Luckily, I love my step dad. Really the only reason for that though is because I never had a father figure in my life until I was about 13 or 14. When I say father figure, I mean I've never even met my biological dad. People not liking their step parents is really common actually. There is no way around it, you either like him or you don't. I'd be honestly surprised if you're mother actually cared what you think about him. Most moms see that they have their own personal lives, and that even though they have kids they still should have a personal life.