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05-21-13 02:19 PM
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My girlfriend just broke up with me for no reason at all besides the fact that one of the other boys at my school was "available". Well, now he is taken. Now she wants to get back together with me but I said no. Because she is one of the most popular girls at school everyone says I'm an idiot for not taking her back. I wish I could get back together with her but she did break up with me for no reason. I need some help and I need to do something fast. My life has been at a stand still and is now going downhill. 
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Honestly, if she abandoned you for this other dude, she's probably only with you for the status. I could be wrong, of course. Just be cautious. Wait a bit, see if she really likes you or is just looking for "In a relationship" on facebook.
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Do what you feel like you want to do.  If you want to get back with her then do so.  If you don't, then don't.  Personally, I would not get back together with her.  She just seems like she would be a load of trouble.  This may be a little harsh to hear, but she doesn't seem to care about you all that much if she left you for someone else.  If someone doesn't care about you, then why should you care about them?  

It is really up to you though.  I'm not going to sit here and send a post about how you should run your life.  You do what you feel is right.  I don't know this girl so she really could have just made a dumb mistake of leaving you.  I am sure you have heard this term a lot but I'll say it again.  There are a million other fish in the sea.  You are bound to find another great girl who will make things right for you.  It is always hard and I bet you are feeling very rejected now.  Break ups are always very hard and trust me, I know.  The other people that are saying it's dumb that you aren't taking her back don't know what it's like to be in the position you are right now or they haven't been in that position for a while and they forget what it's like.  It doesn't matter that she is one of the more popular girls at your school.  She seems to think that she can do whatever she wants to whatever boy.  I think you made the right choice here by saying no.  Trust me, it might not have seemed like a good decision at the moment, but I'm sure it could have saved you a lot more heart break in the future.  

If you need someone to talk to, I'm available.  Just PM me  

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I would agree with mrfe, I can say, just give it time, if she really misses you, then you can go back to her, if she's just using her, then don't go back to her.
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Do what you think is the best, if she is very popular and you really did like being with her then maybe give it a little time before getting back together with her if she did break up with you for no reason. Be firm and enforce that if she is to be with you that she should not try to dump you for no reason, and if it seemed like the relationship felt fake or forced then maybe it is just best to spend time apart, there is no reason to be in a forced relationship that feels fake or lame. If she only wanted to be with you for status reasons then don't be with her because that is just a little low. And if it doesn't work out then don't take it to hard, don't plead with her on your knees, if she doesn't want to be with you then forget about her and move on. Like Moblingardens said break ups are tough but you will come through it dude, don't ever let anyone take advantage or control of you even if they are popular it still doesn't make it right. Do what you think you feel is best.

Hope this helps!
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Based on my experiences with my ex, shut her down. It doesn't matter how much you like her, she obviously doesn't really care about you. Trust me, I tried to be forgiving and take my girl back when she did something similar, because I really loved her. But it only came back to bite me in the ass when she didn't change and ended up making my life hell when I kept trying to keep her. If she left you for another guy once already, she'll do it again. Let it go, man. Other fish in the sea.
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Barathemos :
I really like some of the other replies to this post.  You may want to consider putting less serious labels on ALL your relationships and friendships.  Let me try to explain briefly.  You mention that your life is "going downhill" when in fact you have merely had an opportunity to see with greater clarity the transient nature of this girl's affections.  Remember the phrase "this too will pass" applies not just to the bad times but also the good times, the fact that things change is most likely not a sign of a downward trend but more likely merely the most recent chapter of alternating good times and harder times, in the future hopefuly you will be taken less off-guard by the inevitable changes and thus you can appreciate the good times more fully.  If she wants to go on a date that does not automatically mean you cannot see other people, if you believe she is with you for the wrong reasons you need not pretend your connection is more serious or exclusive than it actually is.  If you do see her again, I would recommend, as an experiment, paying close attention to how you are feeling in response to her behavior.  She should put forth effort and sensitity to ensure that you feel built up, not torn down.  I suspect that this recent big problem is part of a pattern, usually stupid behavior like that does not occur in complete isolation but rather is part of a bigger picture of a melodramatic cycle that you may be choosing to overlook out of fear of losing the hope that she will fulfill some unrealistic fantasy you may harbor that she is someone that she's not.  Make sure you decide the seriousness of your relationship with her based on who she actually is, not who you hope she is, and remember to keep space in your schedule for people who build you up whether or not it is your ex gf who henceforth I will call by her new nickname "fickle-face".  Hope this helps, I typed it on a phone!!
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You aren't alone dude, I recently had a break up myself and it was for really no reason also. But the way I see it is, if you did everything you could to make it work, and did your best to make her happy and she can so easily up and leave you for another guy. Then its just best to move on. I don't know how long you were together, or how serious it was, but if someone can be so shallow like that then you are probably better off without her. You might be hurting right now, and trust me I get what that's like. But don't let that stop you from being happy with someone who will appreciate you for you, and wont look to another guy.
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I've spent a lot of time convincing myself American schools don't work this way :/ I'd say leave this kind of person to get a slap to the face by Karma.

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You did the right thing by saying no.

Let me pose a few questions for you...

She broke up with you once for another guy...what would stop her from doing it again if you two got back together?
What does that say about the whole thing by her easily breaking up with you for another guy, and the only reason she came back was because he was taken?

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Young man if that girl is going to be so fickle and silly as to break up with you on a whim then you are just wasting your time with her. I would suggest you continue to tell her no, and if she wants to know why then tell her it's because you want to be with the kind of person who will never abandon you, and especially not on something as whimsical as wanting to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. I hope this post has helped you.

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Leave her be mate, find someone who appreciates you for you and not because there's no one better around

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